i spot this group while surfing other groups , since its an all women group i feel i will get a sure shot answer for my problem. though mostly this problem is faced by women but i am an exceptional case, i have a very loving wife but her parents are very annoying & interfering.. i don' t know how to tackle them since i don't want to upset my wife. So i have to no other option then just to tolerate them Ladies! plz help.....

Bro, we both are the sailors of the same ship, but i handled the problem by not discussing the issue with her but with directly to her parents and mine face to face, see practically we and our wifes are going to live the life together and not our parents and if they are influencing our lives the negative way, then there needs to be a discussion of higher level.

And this is the ultimate solution brother............

If I was in your place I wud have talked to my wife by now..It will be disgraceful if you talk to your in laws let your wife do that..Dont hide anything from your spouse..Its not healthy..You should be transparent.Let me tell you if your lady is unhappy with someone in your family she will disclose it you..so therefore you should do the same.If she loves you she will understand...

Avoidance is best. If your spouse is intelligent she'll get it. Anyway sounds like you're number two in her life :). I've been married for over 15 yrs .... Experience means you'll figure it out for yourself as to what works for you.

Yeah i quite agree with Gayatri, Even if they're not willing, make an effort to get along with them out of respect for your mate. Analyze what you think the problem might be and work on ways to improve the way that they perceive you.It will be easier to deal with your in-laws in general if you have a sense of humor. rest its your problem so you have to figure out a way to get out of it.. All the best!

I think you should clear cut set boundaries and limits for your wife and as well as her parents and being your in lwas they and their daughter should respect that. and understand that. Work with your wife as a team, set your family values. Then communicate your values to your in-laws. Speaking of boundaries, don't make promises that you can't keep

A happy marriage is not like football; there are no successful end-runs in this game. Never go behind your spouse's back when you deal with in-laws. And don't tolerate it if your spouse does.

Let me remind you and all that your in-laws are a crucial part of your spouse's life. so they are automatically crucial part of your life as well.Never put your spouse in a situation where he or she has to choose between you and them. Instead, I would advise try to understand the bond your wife has with her parents. Even if they are from hell, they are her parents. You can't be mean to her and just because she is your wife she has to choose between the 2. If they were your parents then what would you have done? tell me?

Hi Arjun, your problem sounds very familiar to me since i have a brother who was also facing same problem, but he spoke it out with his wife and believ me it worked. Well you can also speak to your wife sionce a relationship is all about communication and sharing your personal feelings as well. If your wife loves you and understands you then i guess it wont be a problem for you..

Sorry to say but this is very unusual case. does thsi also happen i am wondering?