I am a 27 year old dark girl. My parents have been trying to get me married since the last 3 years and every boy rejects me because I am too dark.
My mother and a few relatives are now forcing me to use fairness creams. Why should I change myself? Are all men this shallow?

hi, don't b sad abt ur complexion. better to be urself n be best on ur work...god has decided someone for everyone..when the right time will come.he will reach u itself..its just a matter of time only...n take as what dipti says

Morever, there is no fareness cream which enhance out beauty. Let be natural, God must have made some good pair for you...

hey, don't b sad abt ur complexion. Beauty lies within the eyes of admiror. So dnt get depressed, try to intensify the best out of ur personality. Be smart with ur clothings, hairstyle, confidence and inner qualities.

All these guys do not understand the meaning of beauty. Just ignore they are not fit for you. Wait for the right one who will understand you and accept you what you are.

Beauty lies in innerself. It is external beauty which attract person. Kahte hai surat chahe jaisi hi seerat(character) accha hona chahiya. I also believe it. Don't worry,

Yes, love, men are shallow...so either become a lesbo or deal with it...having said that, you can try to glam up with makeup, sexy outfits, and a loving, friendly personality...However, your word choice shows that you are resentful and angry...and trust me, no one will ever finds that sexy!

my dear from now start to believe yourself way u are that is you.......and totally you and find ur soulmate ur self.

1) Do not use so called fairness creams without consulting a MD with specialised in dermatology In fact they are all sales gimmicks. In chennai sun skin is going to generate enough melamine to protect U from harmfull UV rays+ it si heredetory some people are black some are brown some fair. Look healthy look feminine & important look for blackish boys

Darkness Z Not at all A problem With Men. . . Bcoz Men Know Tat LIFe Z Not At All About Skin Colour... Women Shud Also Realise Tat Being Rejected By sum Dumba** Person Or His Foolish Person Z Not All End Of D World.... U might Haven't Yet Met A Mature Person............

Suvarnarekha, don't be fooled by those 'fairness creams'. Those ads are misleading. That is a multi billion rupee money grabbing industry. Those creams never work.

Do not worry with the age darkness will go

Sadly it is a fact. Matrimonial ads testify to it. Parents proudly anounce the fair skin of their daughters. We are fond of "Gori chamri". Perhaps that was one of the reasons why we served 'angrez' for two hundred years as our masters.

But there is more to fair skin. A person in the dark skin can be more prettier than any one. Be proud of whatever you are.

what rubbish! there is no point to bother about if you are dark.but you should be proud of your complexion.don't you see there are many dark women around the world and they are mor beautiful than the fair complexion women. hey! don't bother about it.don't see yourself throuth other peoples' eyes.

In my opinion skin colour doesn't matter. If someone judge others by thier colour then he/she is the biggest fool. Don't take any tension, you are too beautiful because you don't have any copy in this world. enjoy .

In this matter, Madhulika has guided to solve your problem, I stringly agree with her. Also please tell me what are your requirements that your life partner shoul have, it may be helpful to you for solving your problem.

no,not everybody, i am ready to marry u if u like my proposal.

First and foremost be strong and have faith. Most men are obsessed with fair skin and even a dusky complexion would not do for them. No matter how highly educated they are willing to settle for a fair girl than an educated one given a choice. If you see the ads in newspaper for brides more than 90% prefer fair people.

So here is the deal girl. Don't blame your mother for forcing you to use fairness creams. She is just worried about you But you get busy with work and friends. As every rule has an exception, similarly I wish that you would find someone for whom you are more important than just your skin colour.

I have a dusky complexion and though some mean people made me feel unwanted I know my worth. And for friends and parents it doesnt matter what ur skin colour is. So take a chill pill and have fun and stay positive :-)

I think ou should focus on building your career. Once you establish yourself a successful & strong woman in any sphere of life. Your colour would not be a problem & you wouldn't be identified by your colour but for your good work/your success. There would be a big list of good guys to be your partner. regards. LOKESH

dont u dare change for others..go wat ur heart says n shine alwaz like gold becoz dat gold is in ur name(swarn)..u r d master of ur fate n captain of ur soul..get dat platform for urself whch will lead others to u..gud luck sweetie angel for every hurdle in ur life n neva giv chance to anybdy to keep sympathy wd u..u r nt weak..y anyone will tak u for granted..

99% of the guys go for looks. And in arranged marriages, almost 100% of the guys go for looks. If you want some one to love you for whom you are, love marriage is the only way. Arranged marriage customs give at a max 1 hr to make the first impression. 99% of the time, it is based on looks.

A Friend is a Treasure A friend is someone we turn to, when our spirits need a lift. A friend is someone we treasure, for our friendship is a gift. A friend is someone who fills our lives,with beauty, joy and grace.And make the world we live in, a better and happier place.

Well just be yourself, and this phenomenon is not limited to just girls getting rejected, I was too, of course, I guess that is what happens, when a south indian goes to North India to get married :)

no all men not like that. mere hisab se surat nahi sirat acchi honi chaye. don't use any fairness. u r most beuityful woman on the earth. be proud that u have dark colour. white colour fed after somtime but u never be fed. and u r just 27 year old. u will be get good partner. wait and watch. sabra ka fal mitha hota hai. all the best

Men like pretty girls and women like men with money..FACT

All men are like this only..they only care about how the girl looks..

dear Suvarnarekha, We Indians are like that only. white people hate us because of our skin color, but we hate Negros. don't worry there must be someone in this world, who'll like you n accept you with your that feature. wish you all the best.

you are right in your decision. Why should you change yourself. Stay the same always. good luck in life

this obsession for white skin sucks. embarrassing to know we still have such sick ppl in our society

hey whats wrong with your mom? is she mad or what. how can she force you to use these silly fairness creams. they are useless, waste of money and time. no results at all. why cant u make ur mother understand that ur happy the way ur. she shudnt be dng this to u.

these men are idiots, nothing else. they only look for outer beauty and dont want to see the real person inside and her heart. better stay unmarried than being with someone like this.

There is no harm in using fairness cream- if it helps. Any women should and deos use cosmetics. If something will make you look and feel better. Why not.

On the other hand- I think you should also reject who is looking for skin complexion. I think better you reject him. There is somebody better for you. Keep hunting and be optimistic.