I am a 40-year-old single mother to two college going kids - a son and daughter. My husband passed away a few year ago and recently I have met a man who is very loving and caring. I like him a lot and I even want to marry him. But I don't know how should I introduce him to my kids. Don't know how would they react.

Pls help me friends. How can I approach my kids and talk to them about this idea of getting re-married?

how can you decide to marry him if u dont know his feelings for your kids... moreover as remarrying you should make surety he is not after any of your assets.... be careful or take advice by someone who can judge people....

Do not inform to your kids about this relation. because they are hate to you..Secondly in our life satisfaction is more important so you can enjoy but carefully.

you are not doing any sin but marying the man you like so do not worry your kids are good enough to feel the situation and would definitely respect your decision. Feel free to introduce him to your kids.

better to check him if he is worth to lookafter you and your kids...first introduce him to kids as a guest and see how comfortable kids are to talk with him and is he able to give good feeling to kids...take time on this because first few meeting would be normal and naturally confortable for everyone...how old your kids are? if they teenage then one day ask them their advice for this man..if you kids allow you then only u go for it..else better to only have a company

First step you have to do is to assess how how much he is genuine, sincere and serious about your view point of a marriage and whether he will stick to it for long?

First step you have to do is to assess how how much he is genuine, sincere and serious about your view point of a marriage and whether he will stick to it for long?

First step you have to do is to assess how how much he is genuine, sincere and serious about your view point of a marriage and whether he will stick to it for long?

First step you have to do is to assess how how much he is genuine, sincere and serious about your view point of a marriage and whether he will stick to it for long?

First step you have to do is to assess how how much he is genuine, sincere and serious about your view point of a marriage and whether he will stick to it for long?

First step you have to do is to assess how how much he is genuine, sincere and serious about your view point of a marriage and whether he will stick to it for long?

do not inform to ur son & daughter about this matter because your relation is spoil with them but u can enjoy your sex with this guy because in life satisfaction is most important but only carefuly.

better be double clear & sure with the man u wanna marry.

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then be bold enough to talk with kids.

Are you think about re-married it is not good for your kids , because they will starting our new life.but this is your life you think best

Get a life..get married to the idiot and relax..get drunk, sleep with him.,.have fun..dont have more kids..walk up to you're kids (to approach them u see..!) and tell them to relax..they are you're kids they DONT screw around with u..dont listen to these other idiots cz they hav no idea wat to say..they cant get married themselves.. idiots.. cheers and regards..

Bloody EEDIOTS..!!bloody sanjay bharti and u other EEDIOTS..!

Arnold Schwazniggar rules..!anyways..see u around..do what u want to.. :D

true love is consist in love and loyalty, not in conditions, if he loves you than he will accept all. so tell him first... me too single and 30 years old, but m sure if i love someone dan ill accept her childrens too.

Dear, first of all take a deep breath and think twice before taking any step forward, if the answer is still yes then be prepared for at least one year. in this year you will create a situation wherein u with ur kids will meet for the first time and subsequently on various festivals, occasions, family functions etc. Ask him to be as decent as possible cause children are very sensitive and can gauge very fast the reality also it should not look like that they are interacting with him incidently and u should not be a part of this casual sessions . Let the children come to you and ask for this guy to be icluded for a particular task, trip, occasion etc. Remember u should be always at back end and let the children decide on their own whether they like the company of this guy.

I am sure if two handle it well in one years time I am sure the kids will become use to and then they will force u to bring this guy to the family.

ALL THE BEST........

Regards

Consider many different cases:



1. if the man you have met is younger: Just maintain a relationship and don't think of marrying him. Make this clear to him so that he does not get involved emotinally with you. Let him also marry another woman. You both can still continue your relationship under the covers.

Disadvantage: You risk of getting caught by your kids or the man's wife which might spoil your peace of mind.



2. If the man is elder than you and unmarried: You can think of discussing how open he is to marry you and then accept your kids as his. If you are convinced by his reply, gradually introduce him to your kids.



3. If the man is elder than you and single parent: You have a uphill task of getting kids from both different paretns to get together. This can usually result in sibling rivalry and your kids may have to face

issues in their friends circle.



Before you can take any step, give first prioroty to your kids. All the best!

I suspect that he would ever marry you if he is young. Even if he agrees to marry it would souly on mometary benefits. If he doesnt have then its gud 4 u !! but otherwise its really hard 2 find a person who wud want 2 settle with single mother and take up responsibilities of ur children which is not even his. He should have very huge heart and an open mind.

But try checking wit him how open he is in marrying u !! if he squats.. then forget him n search 4 another serious guy. But time and time again it wud b endless search 4 gud guys who would accept u and ur kids. You can also try finding a man who is a single as well which would mutually benefit each other. That would be much better.
Also talk ur kids as well if they are willing to accept a new man as their father which is very important otherwise u might have to handle ur kids rejections unnecessarily. Make them understand it would be fun having a father around who can take them around and play wit them. Hope ur man lives upto ur kids expectations.

Dear Madam

I think u have to seriously discuss this with ur kids .They r mature enough to undrestand the situation and they have to be.remarring is not an issue after all this is ur life and u have to decide what to do.I believe u have to talk to ur kids ask their views and make sure this gentleman shud be aware of his future role and responsibilities as well. then proceed.Wish u luck.

I am a 40-year-old single mother to two college going kids - a son and daughter. My husband passed away a few year ago and recently I have met a man who is very loving and caring. I like him a lot and I even want to marry him. But I don't know how should I introduce him to my kids. Don't know how would they react.He is 5years younger to me,he is divorce.

Yes, it is a good decision from your point of view. But talk directly to your kids, apprise them that you are feeling lonely and want a company of a caring male. If they agree, it is well and good. If not, take the help of counsellors. I have seen the wife of my friend who is feeling the same way. But be sure about the intentions of the man. Is he working and has enough to sustain him i.e. a job? It should not happen that he marries you for your money and becomes a nuisance.

At your condition, it is natural that you feel lonely and feel like having a shoulder to rest your head. It is possible that yur children may understand you and accept him. It is also possible that they may oppose your movement. Start talking to your children slowly about your loneliness and feeling like having a companion.



Do not rush to take a decision of marrying him. Try to know him better and make sure that he genuinely cares for you. After marriage, never have any child from him. The reason is that you are already 40 and as the age advances, risk in giving birth to a Mongol child increases. By the time child becomes 20, you will be sixty.



You have not mentioned how old he is? Is he younger than you or elder to you? Is he bachelor/divorcee or widower? Are you sure that there is no one else in his life and he is not playing a double game? Is he financially well off? Will you require his income to take care of your children? If he is younger than you, what is the age gap?



You need some more detailed counseling.