I am looking for a suitable girl for myself but I'm confused should I marry a working girl or a homemaker. Some friends say it's good to have a working wife due to a financial security whereas some say housewives are the best, as they can look after the household work and take good care of you. Is that true? Pls suggest me friends, im really confused.

Hi hitesh,

Just wanna to tell u that cant judge a girl that whether she is working of housemaker I have seen lot of girls those are housemaker just do hell of there in-laws life as all day they just sit at home and doing gossiping about there mother and sister in law.and subarmanyam is frustated and a mad person.now choice is yours

non working women

Why U need someone to care and look after you? Are U handicaped?? Millions of millitary man they look themself no one need to help or care them.Working girl can be more sensible,more educated and can handle suituation more better way.If financially comfortable there will be no family clashes in home.Every vacation U can enjoy ur time with ur family.

hmm.. i say marry a good looking,voluptous house wife & mail me ur address..i will tke cre of her during the day n u can hav her in the night..& u will hav a fully satisfied housewife.

If you think you are financially capable of looking after a family comfortably,then go for a housewife.Your children will grow up to be good,don't forget housekeeping is a full time job too.Most working women have super egos

You have to decide what is your requirement instead of putting your feet in others' shoes. Do you want somebody to be faithful and dedicate for you and your kids? Or you want somebody to be assisting you in making money. If your choice is No. 2 then you have to compromise with many things. At times, she may require to go out on a dinner with her boss or colleagues. They call it team building parties. You need to be patient. If you are orthodoz and can't bear such things, then, go for a housewife. All the best.

DEFINITELY if you want to make a better choice go for a Working Woman but NEVER then have any expectations from her to cook meals etc . If you are a person who believes in old norms that a woman is best when cooking food then rather go for a Housewife . But let me tell you that a Working Woman has far more better outlook towards which cannot be substituted while the house hold chores ca very well be managed by maids etc . Be assured that a working woman also make a Super Mom too

Both have major advantages and disadvantages...Marry a girl who can understand you!!! If you are financially sound, I suggest you to marry any graduate poor girl..she could be best for you....Just take my advise..very poor family and at least a graduate...

I am looking for a suitable girl for myself

Looking after your better half is of primary importance in your marriage. Upbringing of children is also very important. If you look at a working lady - the strain at home in preparing the children at the school going age & for your office (if in a joint family the amount of work she has to handle), pressure at work place, travelling etc. Moreso, we must always remember that compared to men they are not that much healthy. Distress during the child bearing period, post confinement, trouble during early stages of child' growth etc. makes her like full of stress both physically & mentally. If you are able to run a household, better go in for an unemployed girl who can understand human values and be your "BETTER HALF" not bitter half.

Don't marry a girl who doesn't want to be a working girl but at the same time hates house work. Then you lose on both ends..

And in todays world, if you are from middle class bkgrnd, its better to marry a working girl who when the time is right is ready to quit and take care of home. She will better understand the work pressures you go thru. Can relate to you, And would have helped you make a financial contribution during the prime days of your life.

Hitesh same problem I'm facing.. before I post this Q.. you posted..but the ans is given below. I'm following "A V Subramanya" suggestion.. Housewife is better option becz I want a happy family.

I want to give you a different idea, think on it. Marry a working girl, and to keep her happy, keep a housemaid. You will have both money and peace of mind.

Hitesh firstly is your family a joint family or a nuclear. If your family is a joint family then you need not to worry much if u marry a working woman or home maker. See if u have a joint family then working woman will be fine. Becoz women will work fine in understanding and even if future when you have kids grandparents take more care of kids than parents. And the family will be peaceful but here the condition applies is that get the bride from joint family only becoz she knows it from childhood.........

Hitesh same problem I'm facing.. before I post this Q.. you posted..but the ans is given below. I'm following "A V Subramanya" suggestion.. Housewife is better option becz I want a happy family.

Hitesh same problem I'm facing.. before I post this Q.. you posted..but the ans is given below. I'm following "A V Subramanya" suggestion.. Housewife is better option becz I want a happy family.

Marry a teacher... It'll balance out. As she will be earning, also will find enough time to take care of the house.

Housewife is better for u i think.

young man if u are going to marry please marry a good girl and she showed be good homemaker and about money dont vary one day u will be the rich but if u are thinking about security all these thinks are useless please my advice as a good friend make a home like haven that's all

dont b bother,i dont think there is anything more to explain after going through Mr. A V Subramanya words as a suggetion rest upon you.

sharma ji try to get right girl who belong to good family adjust with your family ,if you have peace in your mind than does't matter she is working or stay home

Do you want a servant or a partner (for wife!). She could be working or doing house duties, does not make any difference, your attitude to marriage does matter. If you are only looking for a genuine partner(wife), and not some one who can serve you, then marry. Or else in India you get servants to do housework, and have someone for sex! In marriage, both serve each other, man is no better than wife - to do all your work, to serve you, so you can be happy. She also has the right to be happy and expect to be served! These days both husband and wife work to earn to live, but if your wife does not need to work, she would be happier, to look after the home (not because she can serve you, and do all housework).

This is purely my personal experience and suggestion.

Are you financially capable of supporting a family? If yes, then go for a home maker. There will be peace in the family. Do not marry a working girl and force her to become a home maker. Marry a non working girl so that she does not have the taste of being a working girl. A wife does double duty., she has to get up early in the morning, take care of her husband's and children's needs and then whatever the time left, she has to take care of herself. When the husband comes back home in the evening, again her duty starts. Even after dinner, the husband goes to bed but the wife has to work for another couple of hours before she comes to bed. Will she be able to keep you happy?



A working wife has to do not two sifts but three shifts including of her office. It is OK as long as she has no children. But, once you have kids, then it will be four shifts. You may have to put the children in crutch or hire some one to take care of the children if the mother is a working mother. there are many pros and cons.