I have just got married a month back but I don't know why my wife is just not interested to have 'Sex'. Every time I try to get intimate with her, she gets uncomfortable & walks out of the room or willl make some excuse. Can you guys pls help me? What do you think can be the probable reason why she is behaving like this.

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Three more moths have passed since you posted this, if things have not changed, it is time to deal with it squarely. If your wife has a medical problem, then it is wise to discuss with a doctor, talk with her mum and find out if she can find some answers. A man can't go on like this too long! It's easier for a woman (being passive) to abstain from sex after marriage for a while, where as it is harder for men (being the active partner).

Din't u guys getin to naughty talk mode while u were engaged? If she is not interested.. i guess she may be having an affair !

There can be many reasons. Is she from city or rural area? What are her educational level? In what type of family environment she was brought up?

1. She might have worried about the pain.

2. She may not be a virgin and worried getting exposed.

3. she may not be knowing what a husband and wife supposed to do?

4. She might have seen some bitter incidents related to married life, sex and children

5. She may be in love with some one and this might be aforced marriage for her.

6. Your approach may be too crude!



Take her out for a trip. Talk to her and try to find out what is her problem? You both can visit a lady gynac for counseling.

Slow and steady wins the race...She might be having pain in doing that...Initial month it happens.. Gradually this problem gets over.. but try to speak to her and get the reason and act accordingly...

dnt mind but might be yr wife be commited prior to ur marrige and she is forcefully being pushed towards mariage..exactly similar case happened with my gf..

ask her for her earlier love or sex relations....

its one month past. I think its a arrange marriage so now you know each other quite a. so talk to your wife whats her problem, if she is not comfortable with talking this issue with you then you can talk to your father in law so that he tell the problem to your mother in law and she can talk to your wife, and also give confidence to your father in law that if your wife has any physical or mental problem you can contact with doctor for short out the problem and you no problem with it.

its one month past. I think its a arrange marriage so now you know each other quite a. so talk to your wife whats her problem, if she is not comfortable with talking this issue with you then you can talk to your father in law so that he tell the problem to your mother in law and she can talk to your wife, and also give confidence to your father in law that if your wife has any physical or mental problem you can contact with doctor for short out the problem and you no problem with it.

and finally, imagine living the rest of your life begging your wife for pity sex and watching her reluctantly acquiesce ...yup, that a good way to reassert your manhood!

hahahaaa....she's behaving like that cuz she does NOT like you!!! duh! Is this the first woman you've ever met? well, either way... My advice...RUN Forest RUN!

let me meet her to make her understand the facts

You have not given us any details about your wife. Is she well educated, her family background etc. The thing is, to most Indian women, sex is a dirty word. They have been taught that only bad girls have sex. Then when they get married, they find it difficult to have sex with their husbands. One thing, do not force your wife. Instead make her want to have sex with you. Hug her a lot more, kiss her lightly on her cheeks, bite her ear lobes, but gently, kiss her just below the neck, same place on the back side. do all this casually, as and when you are going from one room to another, just kiss her and keep moving. if she is wearing a saree, place your hand on her waist and squeeze it. if you are living alone, bring home slightly erotic movies(not blue films) and see them together with your wife. While seeing those movies, let your hand be caressing her. Do this and you will arouse her. then move in and suggest that you have sex. If these things do not work, then either she is frigid or has an extra marital affair. then either take her to the doctor or find out the truth and divorce her. follow what i said and you will find that things will be ok. and then give me a treat

hi,

Rohit im telling please undstand u wife filling and ask u wife problem so don't fours sex in wife

If what Rohit suggests is true, you still have to be extremely patient, careful and allow nothing to do wrong lest you get accused of wrong doing. It's always good to give people benefit of doubt. I would still go to a doctor to verify anything physically wrong, while at the same time, get some one else to keep a close eye on her to see where she goes, and who she communicates with on the phone, net and in person. You can't assume without any tangible evidence, especially in a marriage relationship. Also ask some one else to check with her parents, friends, neighbors and workmates to see if there was another person she was involved with before your marriage. It's frustrating, but at the same time, have to be extremely wise and patient in the way this is handled, lest it backfires on you.

Mr.Ajay Kalra, I am telling you from my own experience,your wife is having affair with someone else, it has become very common, many gals are having affair pre-marriage and post-marriage.My wife also did not do sex and kept delaying,sometimes she will pretend that she wants to have sex and half way she will drop the idea... n she told me am not getting comfortable, like this it went on for about a year and later i found out that she is having affair and she has been physical with her Bf who was still their before marriage and she is continuing with same BF after marriage and she did not want me to know that she is getting physical with someone,if she had allowed me ... when i caught her red-handed one fine day with her BF....she filed a false dowry case( IPC 498a) against me and am stucked with cases and she is enjoying her life wherein i am in living hell.....So, Do not trust so easily and this society the way gals are brought up ...all those people who are writing ,are totally idiots and no gal is brought up and no indian society is conservative, The ones who are saying this they are in pace with current society and whatever they read some decades ago still believing it and NO gal takes time to mingle or connect emotionally.A gal who has controlled for more than 20 years if at all she is virgin, and after marrying she does not take much time to get connected emotionally and carry on intimation, I am telling this purely from practical angle and actual crude truth..So many cases are coming up like this ,if you find out the court cases ,most of the fake cases filed against husband, you will find reason is extra-marital affair.. SO start searching if at all anything is there ,if not there ,consider yourself lucky.

either she is in love with some other guy or.....she is not into guys..or.....or....talk to her and find out dude.

very obvious... she is in love with someone else...

when she sleeping suck her body

Lack of romatic outside dinners may be

Simple @ get rid of her and get a New Horse to ride on )))...ROFL ...No Just kidding !

VERY SIMPLE she loves someone else and want to keep herself virgin for him.

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she may be nervous, make her comfortable

Mr Kalra..



there are lot of reasons for such cases, my possible solutions:



1. Don't get intimate physically, get closer emotionally and try to hack her inner personality, invite her for a romantic dinner and ask her about her past life, her most private moment, her most euphoric moment, her most hated moment, her most loved moment, and like wise.



2. Talk to her as much as you can, try to read her mind , you need to develop this talent, see a near psychologist and discuss this issue privately, you should be alone when discussing this with such person and heed his/her advice.



3. Show more interest in her activities and try to make her happy, ask her what she likes and do it.. give her surprises, play the Real Man here.. Raymonds style...



4. talk to me for more prasoonprince@gmail.com



Regards,

Prasoon

Both of you need COUNSELLING immediately

Both of you need COUNSELLING immediately.

if she dont reply anything contact advocate for i think she want to b shaparte.

u have to ask what she want. she is not intrested in sex or you.

I think problem is she is not happy with the merrage. may be she had loved from heart to someone and now she could not able to forget him

I think problem is she is not happy with the merrage. may be she had loved from heart to someone and now she could not able to forget him. give her confidence, win her heart by duing candle light dinner, offer her precious gift.and most dont ever shout on her. she will take time but once she came to know about ur love she offer u everything. after all sex is not everything in life.

Dear Mr Ajay,

Sorry to hear this. I think, both of you need to have a better intimacy, close and yet better topic to share, see good movies, watch some good romantic video songs like, "Take My Breath away" from Berlin or I Just called to say from Steve wonder or may be careless whispers from George Micheal. and for sure go for a break to some romantic hill stations, provided if she likes hills, have dine in some moderate restaurants, All the Best, GOD Bless!

Am Somnath somdass1@indiatimes.com >>

dear ajay, if you are not sharing any physical intimacy even after having married for last one month then this is something which needs to be considered properly. i think that woman do not feel comfortable in getting physically intimate till they do feel connected with their partner emotionally and may be sometimes they take longer than normal time to adjust themselves with their partner. and i attribute these problems to lack of proper communication and understanding between couples. so for the time being forget the sex angle and give her proper attention, communicate with her lot and give her lots of care and love and most important spend as much time with her as possible so that you both get to develop mutal understanding. And once that mutual understanding is developed and she starts enjoying being with you , talking with you and you get better understanding of her nature. i m sure will be feeling emotionall attached to you. then starts getting physically with her but take it easy. first start giving her soft love like hugging and kissing then after some time starts getting physically with her and i m sure that time she will find herself more comfortable and will be enjoying the bliss of sexual intimacy.

Actually it is the way the Girl Child is brought up in the Society . From Birth , the child is taught / programmed to view sex as something Filthy and Dirty - something disgraceful . Without a HEalthy and Respectful sttitude towards sex from parents to the child - How the Hell is she or He ( for that matter ) perform in Bed . Did You watch how the Men in our India perform in bed - Scratching and Scribbling - like groping in the Dark - Its seems pathetic that the knowledge of sex is frowned upon in society , but Brutal Murder , Horror movies and such are shown day in day out . So THERE IN Lies the Problem . and so - the man and Woman in our Bharat behave like Animals in bed - with No Class and Style Whatsover . The Few Enlightened Ones Perform well with Style and Emotion . For the REst 98 % - Its for the Men's Orgasm Only . The Women Lie there Like DEAD - LOGS , and clean up after the Men had cummed in 2-3 minutes . They cant even hold themsleves for even 30minutes . Well ......You can gather the results from there ....

Both of you need COUNSELLING immediately. Somewhere I do Agree with Wals Khan in what he has said.

I think, that your wife needs some time. Sometimes, women, take a little time to get comfortable with their partners. I think, if you try to become a comparatively better friend first, it will help your wife to understand and know you much better as a person. Once, you two become good friends, & she starts trusting you, she can definitely get around and life will be easier for both of you. And, I have been in various lesbian relationships for the past 9 years, so, trust me, I know women very much better than other men do.

But, after all, these are my personal views and thoughts.

Cheers.

Kareena Jones....

I've heard of many girls who are brought up in very strict surroundings, (eg. girls only schools, orphanages, girls only families) who react like this. Another reason could be she had some bad experience - some one tried to rape her while she was young, and resulted in aversion towards any sexual intimacy even with her husband. Go to a doctor and seek some counselling, to help out of this problem. Also you have to be extremely patient with her, not to push but be so gentle so her fears would not be substantiated. One of my friends, who is very harsh with his wife, and she shut off towards him, she was not able to have sex with him, nor be able to be open with him, which resulted in alienation between them, and eventually needed counselling.Another friend could not have sex with his wife for 3 years due to lack of understanding, and a medical problem, which was solved with a doctor's appointment. Go to a female doctor and ask her to check her and see if she is able to have sex or if vaginal lining is broken - or if anything else hinders her. A simple operation by the doctor fixed my friend's wife and her 3 year long sexual problem. Could be physical, or emotional, both need counselling - start with a female doctor (not a male doctor please, for your wife's sake!).

mr kalra

you know women is more sexy than the men than what is the problem you have no capacity to satisfy her or she has some back he think that she isnot you go his backand take some back point her some thing in hr mind