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Decision of going for Kids

Amit Kundra
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In India Social system we see a huge pressure on Couples to go for Kids once they are marrried as someone wants to be a " nani", someone wants to be a "masi" & all such requests from all & sundry which make a Couple feel pressure & hence the decision of going for Kids is not made as per their own mutual decision but as per the pressures from all . But this is a dangerous situation as in such scenario later on Couple can have issues as they might not be mentally prepared to handle the Kids which can lead to tensions between them. So, I feel that all Couples should decide about when to have kids strictly based on their own , as this is the most private decision of the 2 persons where even parents of both sides should not have any say . What say ?

on Sat, 27 Aug, 2011
Kuppa Ramalinga
Kuppa Ramalinga

It is totally personal choice whether or not to have one. But the purpose of marriage is to expand the family. So obviously you have children. It is not the pressure from the elders to become grand parents. It is only a check on the happiness of the couple. Such kind of demand from parents is only a monitor to check the sexual behavior of the couple. The successful marriage always enjoys the presence of children in the house. It is really a great happiness when you have a child, particularly a girl child.The atmosphere in the house is very loving. Bringing up a child is fun all through. I am sure no body would go for marriage only for sex. Whether or not the children take care of parents in old age is a different matter.

on Tue, 27 Sep, 2011
Teena Sharma
Teena Sharma

Its very personal choice of couple..All the consequences they have to bear once they have a baby..but i think elderly people put pressure so that due timely u have a baby.In old age u have some one to bank upon..

on Sun, 28 Aug, 2011
Vilok Verma
Vilok Verma

when and how many children a couple wants to produce is a personal choice. however, one of the most important functions of the institution of marriage is to produce children and bring them up with full responsibility and care . if you dont want children then why marry.? just enjoy life without any responsibility and cry in old age when nobody except children are bothered about you.

on Sat, 27 Aug, 2011
Vibhu Sharma
Vibhu Sharma

Having kids should perfectly be the decision of couple and no one else because only they know about their present capacities and future predictions. Only they are responsible for child's well being and its future. Dadi, nani and masi etc. think emotionally. They should think practically about the situation. In today's difficult circumstances, when couple feels stable and capable to have the child only then they should decide so.

on Sat, 27 Aug, 2011
Ramchandra Varma
Ramchandra Varma

both men and women cheat its a chance who cheat more.Women have their .limitation

on Sat, 27 Aug, 2011
Gigy Sam
Gigy Sam

Well this is a fact which all Indians will have to face. One idea to get around this predicament is to let know your intentions of having a kid ONLY after x years of marriage. This should be done very soon after the marriage. Such a communication will preempt all nani-masi requests. So next time such a request comes, just remind them about the earlier decision and just ensure that you stand by the decision. Also make sure that you have the kid after the said period so that people come to trust your word.

on Sat, 27 Aug, 2011
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