Hey guys tell me what is all infactuation about and love about? To tell you I have come across one case in which the girl named Khushi is in a relationship for past 3 years with the guy named Kapil who loves her the most, he would die for her, but that girl was in love with her internet friend named Aditya before falling in relation with Kapil. She is in relation with kapil because as we say normally "marry the person who loves u the most not with the person whom you love the most" so she went for this thought and accepted kapil's proposal of marrying him as aditya never gave her those rights which she expected from him as a g.f. or as a lover.. but still she feels she has love for aditya no matter what.. she believes that he loves her but i dont think so that aditya is loving her.. aditya and khushi talk to each other still.. kapil is aware of this.. but khushi is confused.. on one side she has very loving kapil in her life..and on other side she has aditya whom she loves like mad n hell.. to tell you more on this aditya is playing with khushi.. he is a very good bluffmaster and a playboy but khushi inspite of knowing this facts she says that her aditya is good at heart and would never do anything wrong.. she is still waiting for aditya to realize her worth.. but aditya gives her a damm.. please explain me someone this situation of khushi.. n suggest me what khushi should ideally do? sacrifice n forget aditya her love or wait for aditya to come to her?

The greatest problem with human beings is that they don't know what love is. When we love somebody we feel that the person we love should be ours.. Is it love? I think it is only the desire to possess... to make one's own. If we really love somebody, we will not do anything that will hurt him/her. If we truly love anybody, we will be happy tio see the other person happy. Love is true only if we can love a person without expecting anything in return. Here Kushi wants Aditya because she is fascinated by him . At the same time, she is unwilling to leave Kapil because she knows that Kapil is a dependable person and can provide security in life. But we are not living in the age of Mahabaratha where she can have more than one partner like Panchali. So she has to make a choice, and once a decision is made. she should forget the other. Otherwise she is going to have a miserable life.

Toughest question in todays world. With entry of women in working culture has brought many opportunities for women to choose there partners as in friends, lovers etc. same follows with men that they meet so many new people that giving anykind of commitment has become quite difficult.



Reasons



- Some times one enjoys speaking with someone but not dating.

- some times dating but not speaking much, means you have reasons to meet, can be infuatation.

- Third because of these matters love has become four letter word.



Getting into any relationship is quite easy and then after spending some time together person feels, both boys and girls that they are not fit for each other, reason is clear as i mentioned above.



My suggestions for lsegregating ove and infuatation.



- If you are going through infutataion than that is only because you like some thing in any person like Personality, Appearence, Money, Beauty etc etc.



BUT if you love someone then there are no comperisons ONLY forgiveness and chances to improve and live together.



Best regards,



HT

Hi first i want to say here if we want to happy with our life den we have to forget abt our past as we r living in present , khusi nw married nd too both agreed on it and if now she is thinking abt aditya den it only bring tension in her family nd if aditya relly loves her den he must be with her many yrs bak nt now ...i think khushi very emotinal girl so behaving like dis bt she needs to be matured :) thanks

hi, i think that khushi should stop talking ot aditya for some time and let him reliease that wht he has hlost if he tries to communicate and wants to be with her as to ignore sometimes men dont relise till the time it has gone form their life if aditya is a playboy he would try to emotionally blackmail her and try to get a relation going and try to initiate a physical relation and will have hope that he would get her one day or another but if aitya loves her and is clean at heart then he will try to convince her and if she says no and says i would like to be just a friend and nothing more and i am marrying kapil for he has been there for me always and has loved me in every situation and he cares for me a lot i cant break his heart on this i feel he would say someting like why are you sacrificing i knwo that you love me and i need some time to think in this case khushi should tell him that she has given enough time to him and has to move on i dont want to hurt kapil as he is a good friend and yes i think that i have started loving him I am most certain that aditya is a very sweet talker and must have dated a few girls and understands girl's better than me and know what to say when when to come close and whne to go away and let khushi suffer for some time which pull's her towards him more and more he would be sending sweet good night messages to her and all emotional stuff also.aditya will also send emails that woudl turn her on like dark fantacy and what do other couples do and all i guess you understand wht i mean he might also describe how he wants it to her which makes khushi want's him more and more .... not sure if they have met..... Kapil on the other hand is trying to convince khushi that there is more to life than just physical relation. he must have some good moments with her sweet moments may be when she has gone out on dates i think khusi should think of those moments when he touched her heart and in sad times when he stood by her may be he might have busted out in anger but always try to see what is the reason beind the actions what are the intentions and then take the correct descision may be khushi si in two minds now because she thinks that kapil know's about my feelings for aditya and after marage in case aditya turns out to be a good friend and we meet Kapil would get agry and their marrage will go for a toss but she need's to understand one thing she would also feel the same if she knew that kapil had feelings for some one else and if they met she would be worried and will not like that the most simple thing is that of kapil has stood by her for the past 3 years she should realise that he will be gone if she makes him wait or gives him hints that she is in doubt weather to marry him or not. Khushi the most simple way to know if Kapil is the one or not is to ask your self if you have a good new's or a bad new's who would you share it with first Kapil or aditya who's name comes first to your mind when you are feeling low if it's aditya then wait and try to make him reliease your feelings if it's kapil then when you feel like taling to aditya talk with kapil and tell him i want you to know that i was thinking of talking on this topic with aditya but i feel more comfertable discussing this with you this will make kapil feel better and you will not have any problems in feature .............. I hope you get the best things in life and a very caring and loving lifepartner

I will try to make my views upto point with out any confusion. I guess Khushi must go with Kapil. Khushi must not treat Kapil for granted and feel like best win situation. She must take decision and go with it and that would be better if she goes with Kapil. Why.



1) From whatever you said I guess Aditya is playing with her and KHushi knows it. But still she is in love with him. I feel she is more attracted and infatuated not love and Aditya is not showing love.



2) It is always better to go with person who loves you instead of person whom you love. She must not take Kapil for granted and must start realise Kapil's love and once take a decision must stop that for Aditya.



3) I feel Kapil is good person who is ready to accept Khushi's responsibilities. In same wy Khushi must also try to do. Kapil knows abt Aditya and Khushi and he doesnot bother that. Now come on what Khushi needs more then that to see Kapils love. Does she expects him to take bullet like our movies heroes do.

4) You said she already accepted it. Then she must stick to it. In this case none is forcing her but being in confusion she will get into troubles and those are created by her. I know it is hard for her but I didnot get impression that she is trying hard for Kapil.

5) By going with Kapil she is not a mean gal but she is going with her true love.

There is something called as Brain and something called as Heart ... Khushi and Kapil are not thinking, but following the voice of their heart , which is most of the times, WRONG. Brain , or the left side of the brain , is the logical side and analyzes the circumstances before a decision is made. So why not USE your BRAINS , rather than using HEART in taking a life time decision , which LITERALLY has pros ans cons . Think , Think , Think , Think , and Think ... You are a Engg. student Supriya , so i guess u have a good support from the left side of your brain ! Cheers

Hi, I had read the whole dellema of the story very carefully and intensely. Now like suggest that the girl named Khushi is not at all in a stage to marry a person, its all the infactuation driving her crazy. She should not marry either of the two because she is not mature enough to take up such a big decision.Its all her dream/ thinking consides that she may take her love(2nd fellow) in the right path after marriage but I we take the negetive thinking that after marriage she cant find her kind of love from the person then she will be unsatisfied with herself not onlt that she will make the life of the fellow miserable.

Again if she marry the 1st person forgetting all about then after marriage the same will results and she may think that she can get most from Aditya(2nd fellow) making the life of the 1 fellow unbearable.

Hence she should not marry(a strong comment), she should take time and think upon of who loves her the most and with whome she should spent her life happily forgetting all about her love which she wants wants her way. I dont know whether people should understand my points or not.

Regards, NEIL.

My thanks to: Mr.Chand Babu for his valuable and experienced coments.

Takecare

How Khushi can realise this, its a tricky question as none of us knows Khushi. She needs to ask her self what she wants from her life. She can never be married to two guys at the same time. So either she can get married to Aditya or Kapil.

Moreover, if Khushi is really serious for marriage, then she should realize that marriage is all about trust and commitment. And this has to be both ways. I guess it's easy to fall in love with a person, you just don't need a reason I feel. However, It is really difficult to marry one as there has to be atleast one reason which would keep your marriage alive till the last breadth of your life. If this reason goes away, you are heading for an emotional split.



Hope this helps.

Sachin

Dear Supriya,

I have seen the comment on love with two persons at a time.I donot know why girls at such immatured age opts for dual love where they conot find any peace in their future life and also make the life of the other persons hell.Let the issue be left on KHUSI to take strong mind to settle down and select one for LIFE Parner and make the other person clear about the intention. as early as possible . LOVE BEFORE MARRIAGE AND AFTER MARRIAGE IS ALTOGETHER DIFFERENT AND ONE MAY NOT FIND THE SAME LOVE AFTER THE MARRIAGE from a friend he /she had..As after marriage situation of love is transfered between Husband and Wife and also many other family requirements have to be observed.Hope KHUSI will be stong heatedly decide and choose for life partner soon and will be living happily for rest of the life.Good luck to your friend KHUSHI.and to for raising such doubts for support and clarification of mind

khusi must forget aditya and forget everything about her tell her to live with kapil

i think online love doesn't have any existence because the married people also have friends on social sites but if khushi has dated aditya somewhere then she should think a bit of him!!!

but if the statements you've given about aditya are true enough then she must not even think of him!!!