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Do men cheat for the sex or the thrill?
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Vuppala Gopinath why dont people understand that there is a woman or girl associated with evry man doing anything for thrill or sex. more
Ashish Gupta But not all affairs happen because the marriage is in trouble or going through a bad phase but for a conflict-ridden marriage, certainly they are.. more
Topic owner: Esha Rathod: read an article where it was stated with some facts and figures that most men who cheat want to experiment sexually and experience the rush associated with “new sex.” while according to my male friends its more for thrill, since looking for someone who is young and new, makes them feel more youthful and give them that missing zing.. I dont know which one to vote for since i believe its both. right?
Ravinder Rattan
first the hupola that love is permanent thing and forever is totally a misconception when every thing is changeable with time than it also emotion which is certain to be a change because when u love somebody u always love him or her for certain attributes and those very attributes are changeable the person u love also undergo the changes so how Ur love is going to survive when u don't find anything of ur interest u call it boredom reality is that we all are selfish and we love someone for reason we never say it unconditional we never say what ever u do we will love u because i am in love for no reason but only for love the truth is that we always love for reasons and some quality of person and that thing itself is changeable hence on the name of boredom or freshness whatever u call we do all things but never accept that fire of love is no longer burning and its time to move out with honesty and gratitude toward the person who had shown u the glimpse of what love means and feel but now its over whatever we can give to each other is given hence move on but we linger on the name of so many things because it suits us and we feel comfortable in it because its safe with known for so many years and what do u mean by cheating why guilt about it but accept that love is no longer their and u are searching for somebody who can again make u feel loved there is lot of difference in LOVE,COMPROMISE,RESPONSIBILITY,DUTY,OBLI GATION,FAMILY SAKE,SOCIETY,RESPECTED, HONORED,
Nk Jain
Yes when partner does cooperate up to desired level then a boredom is created.To feel a new excitement men cheat.Women also cheat sometimes.
Pramod Giri
its too easy to understand whether men or women come into a relation for have sex or for whole life bonding. only men dont do this so many girls are there those play with the emotions and then they get someone else. so its not an issue that men cheat women or not. I think if someone cheat you, its not fault of that person but you are responsible for that whole things.
Gopala Chintakindi
cheating will have many reasons..some for sex..some for thrill..some for emotional attachment..some for love...so on
Girish Ingale
you might ask this question to yourself...why do women cheat on men ....??? your answer can be implied vice a versa as well
Charan Singh
it should be reminded by everybody that a single men can do nothing to a women like sex unless she help him,,,that's the fact!!!!!!
Sandy Sawant
Its depend on person or his nature , Sex is not everything , Men is cheat for a thrill. if he want only sex then there is many other ways are open.
Avinash Bb
I agree for these kind of mistakes by men.
But we should not also forget that the issues created by women like these are not all made such a huge news.It's just because, women they themselves think that they are looked down upon.
So,if men cheat the whole world makes it a big news only because men are more successful and poopular in whatever they do.
But we should not also forget that the issues created by women like these are not all made such a huge news.It's just because, women they themselves think that they are looked down upon.
So,if men cheat the whole world makes it a big news only because men are more successful and poopular in whatever they do.
Kunal Khanna
Let me summarise this thing for u...so many ppl have come up with their reasons, blames, interpretations and feelings. All are different and all have an opinion of their own. Even the guys themselves don't share the same opinion and some have only posted for fun which definitely adds humour and to some extent vulgarity that may be arbitrated respectively by individuals. But that doesn't make them less important, these are all different ingrediends of the dish and should be acceptable in their form. The important thing is people give their opinions on the basis of their personal experience and conscious including mis-communications and mis-interpretations at different levels. But they are all different and unique just like their lives. So Isha, there is no general reason why men cheat. Those who do, have a reason of their own which may or maynot coincide with the others. IN GENERAL, you'll find that guys with similar backgrounds or guys living similar lifestyle will hav similar reasons, not to ignore exceptions which are always there. In such cases its the strong conscious of one's own but that is itself a fabrication of one's past life. So if in any ways any of you girls are insecure of their partners cheating on you. Its better to strike out most of the reasons posted on this blog. Only consider those few, which you think your guy may have. A guy who thinks that most guys wish to conquer all vagina in the world is someone he is himself. Maybe he has seen a life that made his opinion or maybe he says it for fun and doesn't really mean it. I rolled over my bed laughing while reading his post. A guy who thinks guys do it coz they want to try it with different partners may look similar to the previous example but actually it's way different. Eventually it boils down to the same old thing that you want what you don't have. When you don't hav a partner all you want is one partner. When you have one, you are satisfied for some time and then your needs grow to other levels. When u are Tiger Woods you have so much that you seek something even you don't understand. U r never satisfied n that's not girls or boys, that is what being a human is about. To never stop wanting more than you have. But when you want something more, someone's feelings or memories may force you to control and make you feel that your actions are hurting someone else. To have respect and care for someone's else's feelings and to be able to sacrifice is also what being a human is about. Its a very unstable equilibrium...it is life....
Vuppala Gopinath
why dont people understand that there is a woman or girl associated with evry man doing anything for thrill or sex.
Bondalpaty Satyawa.. tat thrill n all is fine until both male n female partner's r clear with each other's intentions....but here the discussion is about people who without being clear cheat their bf/gf's.
Bondalpaty Satyawa.. ur right !!!
Kumar Goutam
You May Fall In Love
With The Beauty Of Someone,
BUT
Remember
Finally You Have To Live
With The 'Character'
Not With The Beauty.
With The Beauty Of Someone,
BUT
Remember
Finally You Have To Live
With The 'Character'
Not With The Beauty.
Manish Jain
Man are Emotionally weak & today's computer edge tired them. Whereas Woman's are emotiaonally strong & hv more efficiency to handle a situation. that's where Man goes last & do everything for there Love & attention to become Emotionally strong. It's wrong to say this a Cheating.
Vikram Sharma
For the similar reason ,for women cheat.And it is very simple a man cannot,'cheat'alone.
Sach Ka Samna
Men want more love and its women who think we are after shafting. Man faces so much work stress and if one woman is whinging or not providing, he has to turn to others. Its natural instinct. I love beautiful women, dont think will be able control if one of them drops her knickers for me. I'll be just sucked into that black hole instantly
Bondalpaty Satyawa.. Even women wants the same what men wants , even they like cheating and going around with as many guys as possible and enjoy ....but they hardly publicize their personal stuff and keep them self in control coz of fraudulent "clean" reputation which society seeks from every women....another thing i wanna say is that when men stops satisfying their women...women stops providing or looses interest..so take care of tat too.
Sabu Joseph
Men crave sexual “variety for sure. Men biologically programmed to mate with many women. It's because very simple for men to reproduce . Other reasons men cheat they’re unhappy with their mates - and extramarital sex is cheaper and easier to get these days.
Ranjeev Kumar
Men are programmed to spread their gene pool! its up to his girl to stop him from doing so. Not all girls are successful in doing so, and not all men are able to find partners. Remaining ones cheat!!
Navarun Sen
Hi Esha, dunno why you have posted this discussions but would be grt if u cud publish a summary of the responses.
Lemme tell u about my perpective, I am 42 happily married with kids and job. But there is this completely dark and unknown side to me where I seek seek thrill in sex with new partners. Its not been like this before but only the last 10 years. Its really the thrill of the new partner and that of the chase and the edge of treading thin ice. Partners are random ... colleagues, business associates, distant cousins, wife's cousins, elder bhabhi's, dating sites, even house maids.
There are three observations i have made ... First, hitting on the right choice is important, some vibes from the women tells me whether she is on or not. It may be as simple as eye contact or even a response to a conversation. Second, once you decide basis my intuitions nine out of ten the woman responds ... so much for women's morality and need for love. Third, very often the women are clingy and tend to get emotional ... got to be firm and tell them that its just a do ... despite that there are some bitter departures also.
Yes but defination I am depraved, seek sex but it's the thrill that's addictive.
Lemme tell u about my perpective, I am 42 happily married with kids and job. But there is this completely dark and unknown side to me where I seek seek thrill in sex with new partners. Its not been like this before but only the last 10 years. Its really the thrill of the new partner and that of the chase and the edge of treading thin ice. Partners are random ... colleagues, business associates, distant cousins, wife's cousins, elder bhabhi's, dating sites, even house maids.
There are three observations i have made ... First, hitting on the right choice is important, some vibes from the women tells me whether she is on or not. It may be as simple as eye contact or even a response to a conversation. Second, once you decide basis my intuitions nine out of ten the woman responds ... so much for women's morality and need for love. Third, very often the women are clingy and tend to get emotional ... got to be firm and tell them that its just a do ... despite that there are some bitter departures also.
Yes but defination I am depraved, seek sex but it's the thrill that's addictive.
Asma Rehman
ok...even i was lukin for an answer for the above Q.after reading all these m even more confused!!!!!!! i don find any convincing answer.....i think i wud neva undstan man eva!!!!
M Vashi
Men Cheat for Sex,thrill and a lot more.
I don't know about others but I will take my chances as long as I don't get caught. Now that is me cheating for Sex. I will also take up an offer to do the act in a place thats forbidden for example my office desk, Hotel Elevator or in a car parked in an empty parking lot. Now that is me cheating for thrill. I would also take an offer if I have heard (from friends) that the person offering is good in bed. Now that is me cheating for extra pleasure. I will also take up an offer if I know that the person offering has been deprived of sex for a long period of time. Now that is me cheating for a noble cause (Sex charity as I call it.)
I also cheat when I have something available when I want it. I call it convinience cheating.
Don't call me a DOG, because if you get as many chances you are likely to pick up a few Yaar.. And please don't give me that lecture on ethics, love and feelings. If you are lecturing then the fact is -- You are NOT getting any offers and you don't want to admit it, so you pretend to be ethical.
So in my opinion go for it anytime you can. Just don't get all attached and emotional about it. Thats when the charm goes out of the window.
I don't know about others but I will take my chances as long as I don't get caught. Now that is me cheating for Sex. I will also take up an offer to do the act in a place thats forbidden for example my office desk, Hotel Elevator or in a car parked in an empty parking lot. Now that is me cheating for thrill. I would also take an offer if I have heard (from friends) that the person offering is good in bed. Now that is me cheating for extra pleasure. I will also take up an offer if I know that the person offering has been deprived of sex for a long period of time. Now that is me cheating for a noble cause (Sex charity as I call it.)
I also cheat when I have something available when I want it. I call it convinience cheating.
Don't call me a DOG, because if you get as many chances you are likely to pick up a few Yaar.. And please don't give me that lecture on ethics, love and feelings. If you are lecturing then the fact is -- You are NOT getting any offers and you don't want to admit it, so you pretend to be ethical.
So in my opinion go for it anytime you can. Just don't get all attached and emotional about it. Thats when the charm goes out of the window.
Bhompal Rathore
human nature have tendency to get the best out of al , same that occurs in case of men . meN want to fulfiil its sexual desire either in SEX or in THRILL way.but in womens views they call this as cheating and all..
ask them kya wo BOYS ko chalati nahi hai.......
what says boys.............
ask them kya wo BOYS ko chalati nahi hai.......
what says boys.............
Jaskirat Singh
Maybe it's for the same reasons women have affairs?
I mean women have affairs too don't they?
Maybe it's because their relationship is not doing well or they are not emotionally satisfied or they are not sexually satisfied or maybe they just think the other person is hot or maybe just for the heck of it, who knows? I think it depends entirely on the person doing the cheating...
I mean women have affairs too don't they?
Maybe it's because their relationship is not doing well or they are not emotionally satisfied or they are not sexually satisfied or maybe they just think the other person is hot or maybe just for the heck of it, who knows? I think it depends entirely on the person doing the cheating...
Keizer Soze
true, the skimpy dresses, the sexy tops, and now almost everyone puts on fashionable clothes, flirtacious communication, its all like mental masturbation and women cant just expect to do all these things and not attact attention and women are suckers for attention anyways. Any man with blood in his veins will want some action. one of the big reasons for cheating is also boredom, a man being low by nature needs good sex, sex that is unique, open to experiment, sex that is random, sex that is kinky often and partner who is just as enthusiastic. Women play sex games so much and ya'll have become very adept at denying sex and use it often as a bargaining chip...all these games dont do well with us. women also have a huge list of 'turn offs' men dont, tame a man's ego and even a very ugly woman can find a good looking man. Besides after marraige, just like every other relationship 'god' likes to have fun by just testing the sanctity of the relationship. This is when the couple must sort of get rid of the strings and go for unconditional love. there are many things that come between two people loving eachother and its upto them to get creative and trust me the more creative you get the less you have to worry about your man/woman running away with someone else.
Noor Ahmed
Hi Esha why you blame mens fr sex or thrill. It is you girls / womens gives signs of interest to proceed further. Unless we men gets a green light could not go further. Its a blame game but its frm both sexes according to me.
Keizer Soze
well ladies I'll be very honest and straightforward, everyman wants to conquer as much vagina as he can find. man is low by nature, its hard for you to understand and its hard for any man to explain. you need to have a penis to understand, the penis has a mind of its own and sex takes up a massive amount of space in a man's brain/thought pattern, hence its inevitable that he wants to dig deep into every attractive woman around. it takes years of meditation and self control to actually tame the penis.
Sunita H
Sometime it is Both Sex and Thrill and sometime it is the desire to self satisfy that i am still a hot property. Every one Has a different reason for it, Which they think is genuinely justified.
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Dilnaz Seth
Its an irony that many women mistakenly believe that the girl their partner is going around with must be more attractive than her. Actually, this is not often the case. It is man's desire for doing or finding something new or to add variety, as well as the their psychological needs.. may be
Ashish Gupta
But not all affairs happen because the marriage is in trouble or going through a bad phase but for a conflict-ridden marriage, certainly they are at greater risk.
Jesse Lalnunhring i will tell you, there are men who will strike up an affair just when they start to feel the fear and loss that comes with aging. They realize they are no longer young and invulnerable, so they have an affair to deny that they are getting old. And finding someone who is younger and new than them makes them feel more youthful and charged!
Afsana Rahman
I think, men also have affairs to either avoid intimacy, recover their lost youth, or escape an unhappy marriage.
