I am in a live-in relationship with a girl for the past 2 years. we both love each other, are well settled in our career and take things practically. My job demands me to go out of station atleast once ina month. And i want to share and ask you also does it happen with evryone taht whenevr i am back after my trip my girl becomes extra sweet and loving. but if we are together for evn 15 days at a stretch she becomes careless and least bothered. Is it like out of sight out of mind thing taht wen I am back she showers all her love on me?

Absence may help sometimes in realising the importance of the person/thing that we suddenly donot have.. it makes to realise how much important it is to us.. and it is natural that we show more love and affection once when we get it back for sometime.. it is human.. not personal attack just to make a point... you said you are in relationship and and you love each other.. but still you kept this in public discussion... if i was in you situation .. i will never share such emotional and lovely things in public..that certainly not in discussion board.. i will talk with my friends who know me.. i see this as a matter of respecting and honoring the angel of my life

i do agree 100 % with Supriya's opinion.Please trust her love feelings all the times.She really love you.If she is careless then it means she is busy in her day to day working and very much confident on your relationship with her.One complaints and feels insecure, if there is any mistrust.Let her and your sweetness towards each other persist so long as it is possible.Better if you ppl get married, if there is no hinderance,life will be more sweet and your child will enrich with love,affection and sense of responsibility.

Keep it up with your girlfriend and enjoy your life.

Ravi Sharma

Its great to be in a live in relationship for 2 long years.. well first I being a girl I too behave sometimes like ur girl does when I meet my bf after a long time.. see I can tell you by my experience that if ur girl does shower love on u when ur back frm ur office trip that does not mean she has an affair out in ur absence n when u come back she shows her love to escape as some gentleman said below.. its just that girls feel the absence of their loved person when not around.. otherwise the remaiing days girls take it for granted that her bf is there but the love does not fade away or reduce.. its like girls get emotional when their love person comes to meet or comes back home after some time... otherwise normally girls tend to b careless n least bothered.. that attitude just comes in every girl naturally.. no specific reason for it.. so my suggestion is dont bother on such small things coz what all matter is love and if u both are so happy in ur live in relation for 2 years then continue enjoying ur life like that no why think of such stupid questions?.. and also some ppl said abt "giving space" n all.. i feel here u both have sufficient space in ur relation.. so just enjoy.. ur girl being extra sweet n loving when u come back frm office trip is quite normal.. this is a general attitude of girls.. as i knw it by expereince.. hope this answers ur query..



let me knw if not.. keep smiling n all the best !!

Regards

Supriya

' Sharing ' reduses and ' non consumption ' increases . Device something which is above the greed
of 'sharing '.

i think i put one answer of a discussion which is similar to yours on Supriya's on Mar. 31. Here is what i put: it is a boredom i think when two always stay together just as you always have the same food everyday. I have some friends who got married... when i met them they would tell me they are old husband and old wife meaning long time couple we describe it in China. it is a joke which i think it shows the boredom and familiarity of each other. So we think here that when staying very long, what you feel the other person is just like that feeling you put your left hand on your right hand... so tell me when you put your left hand on your right hand what do you feel about it? That's why you two need sth, to fresh up the relationship. I would say two do not need to be always sticky together.. let you two to be alone for a short period of time.. then there is a saying in China Xiao bie sheng xinhun. which means to separate in a short period of time when you get together the feelling is much more than the feeling when you two just got married..that is what you feel when you come back and your girl friend showed you.

Live In Relationship is a sin.Either marry the girl or walk out of her

BTW,Reply to your question: With phyiscal absense makes absense n hearts.

I see..it's normal in any relationship..once u r together, some arguments keep coming..when u r away..u have great feelings..

TRY THIS TYPICAL TRICK.TAKE HER WHEREEVER YOU GO FOR A JOB OUTSIDE YOUR PLACE .I FEEL THAT YOU HAVE ACCOMODATION PROVIDED BY COMPANY SO IT BETTER TO HAVE ROOM FOR COUPLE AND KEEP HER WITH YOU AT PLACE YOU ARE ASSIGNED.SEE WHAT IS THE RESPONSE OF HER.IF SHE IS SINCERE WITH YOU,SHE WILL AGREE AND JOIN OTHER SHALL MAKE EXCUSES .THE RESULT WILL BE ON YOUR FACE THEN. GOOD LUCK AND HOPE FOR THE BEST.WELL WISHER

My dad always says taht space is a very important ingredient of a sucess ful relationship. he always allowed my mom to go and meet my granny evry month for few days ...and wud in her absence take care of us.. so sweet no?

I wud say its avery normal thing and it ahppens in very relation. take an ex of joint family for taht amtter if you are together you will fight and have more of argument with your family mebers but once you are seperated you will have and show more respect and love when you meet them. personal experience...

I would suggest you to keep a chk on her in your absence may be she is going around with someone and ppl who r cheating their partners show extra love and care out of guilt...jst a thought

Its all about giving a space in a realtionship.too much of intimateness can cause friction.