Recently a French psychologist claimed that extra marital affairs were actually healthy fr a marriage. She also goes on to say that men who DONT do it, are not in love with their wives.
Now i dont really understand the logic, but i can certainly say that a lil extra marital spice keeps things active in the marriage also. i pray more such psychologists spring up from around the world! hopefully my wife wont read this...
Tell me, does anyone else agree here?

Yes it is necessary

no end with AIDS

yes, I totally agree !!!

One who stands in the sun knows the importance of the shade. You should have an extramarital (referred to as EM from hereon) to know how good [or bad] you've got it !!



More mixing leads to a more pleasurable life !!!

What does she say about having more than one wife? Spice wont end in such marriage.

its all rubbish....luv happens in life only once.... that 2 only 2 ur family members.....

The whole argument is baseless. Even if there something going wrong in a relationship...either you are in it or out of it. Its your choice. But once you choose to be in it.. one must work to make make things better.

The whole idea of an Extramarital Affair is pervert....you cant build a sane society with such ideology.

Don't buy the argument at all....can't see any logic behind the saying that the persons not having extra marital affairs don't love their wives. I Don't have any....n love my wife a lot. Also, if its true for men, while women shouldn't have any affair, n if they do, what's left in a husband-wife relationship...?. Last word.. Be loyal to ur partner...

First I would like to state that extramarital affairs is not a mandatory requirement. It happens only when the relation between a couple weakens due to any reasons. In such a situation extra marital relation really helps as it decreases the frustration. But definitely this extra relation is for both not just for men. But Men by nature are always looking for such relations. Pls. friends this is a general remark. I don't mean to say all men are like that. And men who have such relations are generally very active and successful in life as they have a means of venting out their frustrations. In our country society prevents women from having extra relations. Otherwise if either of the couple is frustrated in their marital relations, extra relations are of great help.

Dear Sagar,



The simple formula to lead the life should be "JO KAHE HAAN USE CHHODO MAT AUR JO KAHE NA USE CHHUO MAT" means whoever is ready to offer U something incredible please don't ignore them and Vice Versa.

In real fact these types of researches and surveys most of the times comes under superfluous category. Hence in this type of issue our tradition and culture plays an important role to think twice. But a human being studded with an STUPID GENE in his DNA would be totally unstoppable in adopting the uncomfortable way to entertain themselves. Here male or female doesn't matter. Hence it would be better to adopt a lot of dignified ideas to live life king size with an ultimate pleasure. Am i right....?

Extra marital affairs[ sex?] can be discussed now because people now know how to make it conception-free. A possible out come of sex was pregnancy, child birth and rearing the child......all heavy responsibilities. Since this condition can be made non-existant, sex will be purely for healthy enjoyment. If the partners of a life take sex this way there is no harm in extra marital relationships.

Dear Sagar, if you are serious in your words and take so much fun by the idea of couple having extra marital affairs, then, you should really consider encouraging your wife to read your expressions over here. Who knows, upon reading them, she may decide not to protest if and when you are to get into an affair. Nonetheless, your own affair might encourage her too to latch onto another guy, resulting in a lovely situation, whereupon you may get to taste only added spice in your relationship with your wife. Hum do, hamaare do do..[ we two, our's two two..]. Pun intended.

I assume a survey by French psychologist is done in France. Now, France's culture is totally different than that of India, whoever is been to France can confirm this.

I am not saying that the study is completely true and relevant, but I have a case in point to prove it has some meaning, i had a friend who got married to a girl of his parents choice, he was not really interested in the relationship, wife was nice and he was taking her for granted, he was having an affair with a hot colleague at work, when he got really involved with her mentally and physically , she betrayed him, robbed him off all his money and asserts, blackmailed him, accused him of raping her, it was the wife who got him out of this mess and it was during this hard time that they came really close and the relationship became stronger for life, so in this case the affair worked to their advantage, so i kind of have faith in what Sagar is saying

Dear SAGAR

What a bullshit the French psychologist has gone through, it sounds like a person who is no-where and for become every-where he breaks the glass of police-van.I asking u directly, kindly don't take it as insult, coz every man has this questions in his mind and answer always comes from inside, am too one of them, beleave i already answered this too me long ago. So first thing do u want honest life-partner,second without behaving honestly how we can expect the same from others.Third u r praying that ur wife may not read this WHY? She should not? Here is the Guilt .Than decision is ur's, would u like feel guilty all the life,at this stage u have to answer urself we friends could not .ANd please do not be-leave on the study of So-called Western-experts.Please refer SATYRTH-PRAKASH book written by indian expert it is completely Scientific book written 1000 years ago.And in future the western brain may opt for copyrite of the book as they did for HALDEE.TAKE CARE .GOOD LUCK

Hi Sagar, Women won't understand this ?? Where do u get these ideas from. The only reason you are saying somethng like this is because you would have a cow if your wife did something like this. You'll be asking for a divorce the next day.

I read the article too. It doesn't naturally mean "CHEATING". It actually means having an "OPEN MARRIAGE" where the partners can have physical life with other ppl., but emotionally the bond lies only with their life partner.

Talk to her about this subject and you might be surprised that she might be thinking about an open marriage or maybe you think yourself to be an answer to every women's dream.

Yes the word sorry will work with flowers and chocolates, because the truth is the women are much more bigger and stable emotionally than most males like you and me.

Try talking to her and maybe both of you can enjoy an open marriage or she might be fine with the idea of you going out for flings. If you cannot be honest with ur partner, then don't be married. Honesty is what drives a marriage and nothing else.

are guys forget french this is India ... today in my native place if someone comes to know that either the boy or the gal is having an extra marital affair... swords nikali jati hai ,,, so no body dares to do that !



Spice and mirch masala in marriage can come by clothes... get a hot & sexy night dress and a bottle of vodka ! ghar ki biryani is anytime safe boss ! atleast for me ...

ok sorry if i hurt a few feelings here... but i was just letting you know what my fave psychologist claimed! have mercy on a poor deprived husband !! yes, i pray my wife wud not read this post because WOMEN will never understand some things... men look at things a different way. of course, i love my wife and theres no way i wud leave her for anybody else. we're talking only casual flings here. and hoping that word 'SORRY' will always work on her... and some flowers... and chocolates...

Try doing that and see if you life is spiced up. When your wife come to know about your infidelity. She will definitely loathe you and leave you. Then you will left with all spices and no marriage. Some times extra spices ruins the food I hope you understand that.

Well Sagar, you are saying that extra martial affairs during your marriage may little bit spice up your life and at the same time you pray that your wife doesnot read your post...just ask why you dont want your wife to read your post and you will find answer yourself..spicing up your life doesnot mean it is good...infact affairs in whatever stage of your life are bad..

Well Sagar I hope you don't mind if you come to know abt your wife's such acts??? I am sure you would be as open minded if you find her seeing anyone else...

Well marriage is based on Trust. And if one partner betrays the other I think then there is an end to the marriage.

I do not agree as extra marital affairs only lay adverse effects on one's married life because neither a husband nor a wife after the marriage would like his or her partner to keep extra marital relationship hence such relationships only result in marital discord.

What a ridiculous thing. How can a thing like an infidelity be acceptable to anyone. It is so inhuman.

I agree with you Sagar. It gives a lot of space in a relation to both the partners. You get to know the good qualities of your partner