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Sp Singh Latika --- Listen to yourself... You say that 'You want to forgive him...' (That means deep inside your heart, you know that your husband t.. more
Anjali Sharma Hi Latika, it is easier said dan done... It won't be easy to forget, forgive and move on... It will need alot of trust and patience from both th.. more
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Neil Neil
Dear All,
I had read all the advice and suggestions from all the good hearted people. I really admired and surprised that in this recent money aid mordern days still there are compassionate,honest people round. I must say one thing that in this days people (most of the people both boys and girls are equally liable as they dont know the inner substance of marriage) dont know the meaning of marriage they just perform it only to be mingle forgetting all about the responsibilties of the marriage. Marriage is nothing but a bond to stay together forever accompaning with happiness and sadness. Yeh I must also agree that there are still bad people who just want to be flown by. Hence plez keep quite keep and silently try to take control of the situation because time is the best heal and may be in future u may look back together and felt that what time U two had spent together. Best of luck. thanks to Gilberto,Ritu,Noor and many...........takecare........NEIL
I had read all the advice and suggestions from all the good hearted people. I really admired and surprised that in this recent money aid mordern days still there are compassionate,honest people round. I must say one thing that in this days people (most of the people both boys and girls are equally liable as they dont know the inner substance of marriage) dont know the meaning of marriage they just perform it only to be mingle forgetting all about the responsibilties of the marriage. Marriage is nothing but a bond to stay together forever accompaning with happiness and sadness. Yeh I must also agree that there are still bad people who just want to be flown by. Hence plez keep quite keep and silently try to take control of the situation because time is the best heal and may be in future u may look back together and felt that what time U two had spent together. Best of luck. thanks to Gilberto,Ritu,Noor and many...........takecare........NEIL
Gopala Chintakindi
Before taking decision think about your kids, your life, and mostly your feelings and your heart...i feel when it comes to kids and when they are more affected you must have some pity on him...try to find out if he is really sorry and he really wants you back..he is really not goin to do and make sure that other woman stays out of his and your life...there are many things u need to think and take decision..in some cases dump him and go forward will be good and in other reconcilation is good..you decide what is ur case and do
Gilberto Defreitas
In these modern days when people have become more independent, moneyed and daring, you wil l have to expect such things to happen. Men and women have become adultrous in their ways and have abused the sanctity of marriage. The learned Bertrand Russell the philosopher once said that marriage is legal prostitution. Most men and women in the social middle and upper cjlasses have secret affairs after marriage. I don.t know how far the relationship has gone. If you want to save your marriage then both must pack in your jobs and move to another city. But if your husband has just been infatuated and foolish, you must warn him and give him a chance. We all make mistakes at times and are carried away. wish you the best of luck.
Girish Ingale
talk to him directly in a quite ambiance where there are only u 2 ... be polite and try to get the reason ... whether it was bcoz of you or something else...then when you have a answer take your decision tactically ...
Ritu Bahel
Give him another chance...Don't take decision in rage...He will realize his mistake if you behave like a friend to him,,,Ask him what made him to go to another woman...May be there was something which you fail to give him and that compelled him to look for somebody else!!! I would give my hubby another chance....You can make him realize his stupid mistake by loving him..Love fixes everything,,,
Noor Ahmed
Dear Latika, Do you think all those married men and women are not doing anything illegal. Most of the people are involved in illegal sex in today's life. If you get out of yr hub's life then yr opening a door fr other women. Be firm with yr hub that ur fr him only & guard him so that other should not get chance. Give him as much love as u can. Change ur life as if nothing happened. It may not ur hub's fault the other bitch might attracting to him who knows>>>>
Ankit Verma
Ur mad or wht.i mean Get OUT OF THIS Yarr,he is a cheater,he would cheat again.throw him out of your life ... don.'t be emotional fool and see ur looking for love and trust......u will not get that.history repeats itself.
Alchemist Alone
latika, u must remember one thing....that in a woman can forgive physical adultery by her man, but never emotional adultery. conversely, a man can forgive emotional by his woman, but never physical adultery. do carry out an appraisal, abt how strong is the bonding between the two of u, and also whether ur hubby did emotional or purely physical adultery....and then act. wish u all the best
Alchemist Alone
latika, u must remember one thing....that in a woman can forgive physical adultery by her man, but never emotional adultery. conversely, a man can forgive emotional by his woman, but never physical adultery. do carry out an appraisal, abt how strong is the bonding between the two of u, and also whether ur hubby did emotional or purely physical adultery....and then act. wish u all the best
Anil Kumar
Save your marriage by giving him a chance. This will be good for you and your children if you have any.
Sp Singh
Latika --- Listen to yourself... You say that 'You want to forgive him...' (That means deep inside your heart, you know that your husband truly loves you and you too deeply love him). Then you say 'But you are not sure that you can forget of what he did and move on...' (That means the love between both of you is so strong that even a hair cannot come in between your relation, which makes you wonder how will you forget an incident of this magnitude.)
I understand your situation clearly as I have seen many a cases like yours many a times. Please question your heart, the following questions and take your decision accordingly:-
1> Irrespective of what your husband did, just consider the facts whether your husband ever insulted you or hurt you or did anything else bad to you? Does he not loves you truly? Will he stop loving you in the future? Is he not a good father or not a good person? Is he not considerate to your needs and does not accept his mistake this one time? If answer to these questions is negative then I feel you already punished him for his mistake (as well as punished yourself alongside) and its now time to patch up. Time and your love will certainly fill the wounds inflicted by this incident. Happy memories will again build which will wipe-out this bad memory.
2> If you leave him forever, will your life be worth living? Will his life be worth living? Will your kids life be normal? If the answer is negative then its too much at stake, therefore its better to avoid the separation decision for this one time atleast and give it another chance.
Mostly people love their spouse but still end up doing silly infidelity mistakes for the heck of it, due to their stupidity or to seek a bit of excitement out of the monotonous married life, or sometimes the situations just happen to wrap a person in to wrong moves. That does not mean that a person is having low character or is not dependent and trust worthy. The person still loves the spouse truly and cannot dream of a life without it. When the hammer strike then they actually realize that due to their silly mistake they were actually playing with fire that can burn their marriage.
Their is nothing worse than staying away (or Divorse) from your loved ones, life becomes meaningless. I think you too have a beautiful marriage, but just a one-off mistake, for which you already gave enough punishment and its time to now patch up and enjoy the newly found, newly defined and much stronger love as well as trust bound ahead. Yes ! sometime mistakes are important and as there is lots of learnings out of these which actually do good in the long run compared to the short term harm. If your heart wants to go back to him, then most likely it is telling the right thing and is the best thing to do. Our instincts are the best judge, most of the time, compared to the messy argumentary logics of the mind's baseless questions and suspisions. Good luck and all the best.
I understand your situation clearly as I have seen many a cases like yours many a times. Please question your heart, the following questions and take your decision accordingly:-
1> Irrespective of what your husband did, just consider the facts whether your husband ever insulted you or hurt you or did anything else bad to you? Does he not loves you truly? Will he stop loving you in the future? Is he not a good father or not a good person? Is he not considerate to your needs and does not accept his mistake this one time? If answer to these questions is negative then I feel you already punished him for his mistake (as well as punished yourself alongside) and its now time to patch up. Time and your love will certainly fill the wounds inflicted by this incident. Happy memories will again build which will wipe-out this bad memory.
2> If you leave him forever, will your life be worth living? Will his life be worth living? Will your kids life be normal? If the answer is negative then its too much at stake, therefore its better to avoid the separation decision for this one time atleast and give it another chance.
Mostly people love their spouse but still end up doing silly infidelity mistakes for the heck of it, due to their stupidity or to seek a bit of excitement out of the monotonous married life, or sometimes the situations just happen to wrap a person in to wrong moves. That does not mean that a person is having low character or is not dependent and trust worthy. The person still loves the spouse truly and cannot dream of a life without it. When the hammer strike then they actually realize that due to their silly mistake they were actually playing with fire that can burn their marriage.
Their is nothing worse than staying away (or Divorse) from your loved ones, life becomes meaningless. I think you too have a beautiful marriage, but just a one-off mistake, for which you already gave enough punishment and its time to now patch up and enjoy the newly found, newly defined and much stronger love as well as trust bound ahead. Yes ! sometime mistakes are important and as there is lots of learnings out of these which actually do good in the long run compared to the short term harm. If your heart wants to go back to him, then most likely it is telling the right thing and is the best thing to do. Our instincts are the best judge, most of the time, compared to the messy argumentary logics of the mind's baseless questions and suspisions. Good luck and all the best.
Sach Ka Samna Sp Singh you really are a loner to write such long message. Get a life man
Sp Singh One more thing, I stay mostly in US and Europe, and here the divorce and infidelity rate is so high that the institution of marriage is almost lost. We indian people should be proud of our spouses, who take so much care and give so much love through out the marraige time. One time small slip, for which you already gave 6 months of separation punishment, will make your husband understand the gravity of his mistake and he will realize that your coming back is now the last chance he is going to get, and there won't be any next time pardon. As the popular saying goes 'Subaah ka bhula agar shaam ko ghar aa jaye toh usey bhula nehin kehte'; Don't strech this thing any further, if he does anything bad to himself then you will not be able to forgive yourself. He is back and trying his best for your forgiveness to one more chance, after already being punished for 6 months separation, which is what's important to consider. Talk to your parents, being elders they have much more experience of life, they can help guide you taking the right decision very well.
Sach Ka Samna
Infidel, infidel, infidel...slay him...ofcourse I am joking. Go get him. What you gonna quit for some slutty whore in his office. Eyes on the prize! Tie him to the bed for a month and let him know how it hurts if you love him too much...
Sp Singh Thanks for your time in analysing my life as a loner... but No Thanks - I have much colorful life and only wrote long message here to help the owner as much as possible in making the right decision. This is not fun blog but serious matter for someone and the words you used - slutty whore, eyes on the prize... or so... don't apply here. I feel you are much too young and inexperienced for matters related to marriage and likewise. Enjoy your teenage period for now...
Santosh Battul
Dear Latika...first see the reasons why your husband cheated you. Is the collegue more beautiful than you? Or is there any other reason? Yes if your husband is sex hunter than dont forgive him. In short find the reason and act accordingly.
Mukta Phulapakharu
I believe that men are inherently polygamous.. The only exceptional ones can control themselves from infidelity... But even then its controlling the natural trait/ basic instinct. Your husband is just another man.. But look carefully if its just a sexual relationship or does it go deeper. We often exaggerate the importance of sex in a relationship. Its actually worse if your husband is romantically/ emotionally involved with other person. Then you should take more carefully. I can live with my partner without having sex with him/her, but I can not stay in case I am emotionally indifferent. Of course my personal view... but as they say... "As we get more and more personal, we are actually thinking more and general. Whatever you decide.. I advise dont take it on the basis... that it was sexual or not.... take care
Virendra Kumar Chu..
Dear Latika, Your husband has broken the sacred bond of trust under what circumstances, i don't know. You have reacted as any sane person will react under these circumstances, specially the one who devotes his best to make this journey of 'togetherness' successful.
You walked out on him in the rage of anger, one can understand easily. But what now? There must be mountain of quetions which must be haunting you as I understand. You may sit down peacefully and very calmly go over every if and but with a mature mind.
Your social background, are there children in between, his reliability for future even if u forgive him, can you live for the whole life with the same face day in and day out who cheated on you. People who don't
know the sacredness of a relation shall talk like 'men will be men...' but it is your life at stake. You only can understand the pain and take a best decision.
I would like to say just this much that in case you forgive him and he does not prove to be of a "sensible brain" (I don;t want to use a harder word in this place) then you have to mature to the level of a saint or yogi to remain ABSOLUTELY UNHURT if his animal instincts win over him again. I believe if you can train yourself , even a little bit , about the art of DETACHMENT I believe you will be able to swim through this situation very peacefully.
BEST OF LUCK WHATEVER DECISION YOU TAKE.
You walked out on him in the rage of anger, one can understand easily. But what now? There must be mountain of quetions which must be haunting you as I understand. You may sit down peacefully and very calmly go over every if and but with a mature mind.
Your social background, are there children in between, his reliability for future even if u forgive him, can you live for the whole life with the same face day in and day out who cheated on you. People who don't
know the sacredness of a relation shall talk like 'men will be men...' but it is your life at stake. You only can understand the pain and take a best decision.
I would like to say just this much that in case you forgive him and he does not prove to be of a "sensible brain" (I don;t want to use a harder word in this place) then you have to mature to the level of a saint or yogi to remain ABSOLUTELY UNHURT if his animal instincts win over him again. I believe if you can train yourself , even a little bit , about the art of DETACHMENT I believe you will be able to swim through this situation very peacefully.
BEST OF LUCK WHATEVER DECISION YOU TAKE.
Prasant Dwivedy
do forgive him dear friend. but teach him a lesson. and keep a eye on him so that he can not get in touch with any body again. give him lot of love because men want love take care my friend
Mohan Ladhad
good people always forgive,so pls you to do the same, forget everything and enjoy your married life.
Partha Sarathy
Ms.Latika - We can see a lot of changes around the globe in recent years. We should not stick on to old type of relationships. Todays life is fast and no time to even talk.
If we think a men after marraige having relationship(Physically) with other women is cheating then everybody should stop even seeing televison and cinema where they can be mentally disturbed. Fortunately u came to know the relationship. Did you enquired what kind of relationship your hubby is having?
Understand him and discuss your problems
Ofcourse life is onetime only and will never come again. In todays world i can say people don't find time to share the good and bad things in their life.
If we think a men after marraige having relationship(Physically) with other women is cheating then everybody should stop even seeing televison and cinema where they can be mentally disturbed. Fortunately u came to know the relationship. Did you enquired what kind of relationship your hubby is having?
Understand him and discuss your problems
Ofcourse life is onetime only and will never come again. In todays world i can say people don't find time to share the good and bad things in their life.
Ranjeev Kumar
Forgive or not, Men will be Men (as a popular advert says!). All men who get a chance, will cheat. Some get caught, some get ignored and rest are doubly lucky.
Ranjeev Kumar Forgive me for saying the above. This is something I have started believing after closely seeing people all around.
Charu Singh
Yes you should forgive him but do teach him a lesson of his life so the next time he won't dare to cheat on anyone...
Gurpreet Singh
Latika... don't hurried to any conclusions ... take your time... give time to urself to overcome this shock and only then take any decsion. my all good wishes to you dear
Emily Anderson
When something goes wrong in a relation then it is not one person's faults my dear, try to find out your shortcomings and work on this relation with a better mindset. All the Best
Birjis Qadr
Kick him out of your life Latika... need not to waste your life and emotions for a cheater
Harpreet Singh
Latika i think the damage that have been done will leave it scars forever .. I don't think you shold give it a second thought as you can never trust such a person... Baby don't be emotionally weak and try to move on in life... Maybe you will have something better in store for u
Anjali Sharma
Hi Latika, it is easier said dan done... It won't be easy to forget, forgive and move on... It will need alot of trust and patience from both the ends. One thing you should ask yourself " Can you trust him"... you will have the solution for this problem soon... I will pray to god to give you strength to overcome this
Yog Padiya Anjali ,
I agree with you.
I agree with you.
