After a few years together, things become so routine and dull that you begin to wonder what is the future of the relationship despite investing lots of time and effort so far. Even with mutual respect and faithfulness, the passion goes away. How do you bring back the spark? Or is the spark meant only for the start and meant to remain as a memory of the past?

It's starnge, ours was a aranged marriage, even after 22 years of married life, we are still discovering someting new of each other. Here it's more of how one is involved with each other rather than what you need from each other.

this is not a business inwhich u have invested now u want to reap profit u both have explored each other very well and now nothing interesting is left in u hence monotamy because u have stopped floursing and growing ur self day by day u r no more surprise element ur perdictable u behave in same manner everyday no exploration of new no courage to try something new u have become absolute and certain and hence a big stagnation with bad smell and odour therefore bring new fuel u have already burnt the old storedone if u get freshness of life the spark will automatically come

sit together, share some old pictures... some old memories. hold hands in hands... try to make her something... urself and do something special... little things... life needs to have sparks... :) she has left her whole family to spend her life with u... and u better try n keep her happy... may b u ppl can use a lil vacation... life is standing on pillars of memories... as time goes by the old memories seem to fade away. so either u can refresh those memories and u can also make new ones... and u ll get wht u need...

1) flirt with your wife.. initially, dull responses may be there... but you've to persist and she'll respond. 2) chat with youngsters about sex and then share the story with her... may turn her on... (risky.. she should be ready for this) 3) watch porn together.. 4) gift her, take a vacation, bring some change in life... 5) Praise her body and do more of foreplay... she may not have the body of a newly wed, especially if you have kids... but talking right things can make the mood 6) if you know of any of her fantasy... any hero/person she liked in past or so... during sex... encourage her to fantasize about him fucking her.. maybe a huge step on your part, as you might have to let down your manly ego, if any... with thoughtful approach... you can bring that spark back, even better.... all d best

do complete make over both of you including hair , dressing & discuss this issue, find out the reason beyond it, do roleplays in ur sex life , it ll be exciting, n diamonds r woman best friends

Communication is the best way to rekindle the fire.

I hope you will not be as rude to my thought as you were to Nitty Gritty.

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