My boyfriend is suffering from depression. I'm madly in love with him. So if anyone out there that is going through the samething or know someone I need to undestand!!!! UGH!!!!
Tell you what ... do something that makes him comfortable. Everytime he goes into a depressive mode, do anything, literally anything to get him out of it. I mean, you could do something like running your fingers through his hair, or just give him a hug. Most important be very very patient and never give up. Understand that if you give up on him, he will sink into a black hole from where he can never get out. Talk to him, talk talk talk.. talk about anything and everything ,you can on the face of this earth. If possible, try to find out what depresses him, and give him a way out. People who are depressed, dont want to sink into hopelessness. All the want is some hope ( which has to be realistic of course). It is because they are caught in a mess that they need the hope, and because they dont get that from within themselves, they sink into the morass we call depression. Dont leasve him alone. At the same time dont keep harping on the fact that he is depressed. The more you tell him that, the more he will sink. DONT ask him to go to a psychiatrist or for professional help immediately. The immediate response will be NO. You might force him to go once, but be sure, he wont keep it up. So, all your boyfriend needs is a lot of caring, affection and hope. And I guess you are the right person to give it to him.
All the best young lady, and remember, dont give up.
If it is actually depression then I would suggest that he sees a counsellor. It could be a psychologist or a psychiatrist or anyone experienced in these matters. If not handled correctly depression can completely ruin a person's life also affecting the people close to them. Through all this ofcourse you should stay close to him and support him every way that you can, that is, if you really love him and are ready for the fight.
Here in Australia we call depression, blackdog. So your boyfriend has the blackdog. Listen child. I suffered depression as a twenty year old nearly fiftyone years ago and I managed to come out of it because I was advised by my parish priest to take long walks and aleays be in company with my sister at all times. So, I took a year off university,and with my sister had long walks chatting constantly. She introduced me to her friends and they all helped. We attended parties and went on a long holiday. When we returned .I found a sudden change in me. I began to mix around with my sisterfriends and eventually got hooked up. I was so infatuated with Linda that it was only her that I thought of day and night. She was in the same university as me as we were always with eachother.. The depression left me and I was able to take up studies again. My sister always saw to it that I was never alone. Lonliness kills my dear and is very infectious. It does affect others and there is a possibility that your boyfried got the blackdog from another depressed guy. Believe it or no, lonliness is infectious. Be always with him and do as I had mentioned. Ofcourse we are all different but do have a try. Mail me on gilt_free@yahoo.com.au and let me know how your boyfriend progresses. Best of luck and God bless.
When my man was in depression he used to create and put both of into awkward situations. That time they are not in their right mind and may spoil your mood too.So you have to understand. Time may come when you can't make a situation better for him but surely you can help not worsening it by not reacting to his bad mood. So If its his depression which has to go, Its your patience level which has to come. Just make him feel better.
Deppression is a mental state in which a person finds himself alone. Mental and physical aloofness are the symptoms. May be, person surrounded by others, talking to him,he is distracted and unable to involve himself. Mental and physical rest and a proper companionship is required, a friend can be recreative but reason of deppression must be known,and accordingly the person should be assured and sympathicaly supported. If there is no reason, then medical treatment should be taken.
My boyfriend is suffering from depression. I'm madly in love with him. So if anyone out there that is going through the samething or know someone I need to undestand!!!! UGH!!!!
Tell you what ... do something that makes him comfortable. Everytime he goes into a depressive mode, do anything, literally anything to get him out of it. I mean, you could do something like running your fingers through his hair, or just give him a hug. Most important be very very patient and never give up. Understand that if you give up on him, he will sink into a black hole from where he can never get out. Talk to him, talk talk talk.. talk about anything and everything ,you can on the face of this earth. If possible, try to find out what depresses him, and give him a way out. People who are depressed, dont want to sink into hopelessness. All the want is some hope ( which has to be realistic of course). It is because they are caught in a mess that they need the hope, and because they dont get that from within themselves, they sink into the morass we call depression. Dont leasve him alone. At the same time dont keep harping on the fact that he is depressed. The more you tell him that, the more he will sink. DONT ask him to go to a psychiatrist or for professional help immediately. The immediate response will be NO. You might force him to go once, but be sure, he wont keep it up. So, all your boyfriend needs is a lot of caring, affection and hope. And I guess you are the right person to give it to him.
All the best young lady, and remember, dont give up.
If it is actually depression then I would suggest that he sees a counsellor. It could be a psychologist or a psychiatrist or anyone experienced in these matters. If not handled correctly depression can completely ruin a person's life also affecting the people close to them. Through all this ofcourse you should stay close to him and support him every way that you can, that is, if you really love him and are ready for the fight.
Here in Australia we call depression, blackdog. So your boyfriend has the blackdog. Listen child. I suffered depression as a twenty year old nearly fiftyone years ago and I managed to come out of it because I was advised by my parish priest to take long walks and aleays be in company with my sister at all times. So, I took a year off university,and with my sister had long walks chatting constantly. She introduced me to her friends and they all helped. We attended parties and went on a long holiday. When we returned .I found a sudden change in me. I began to mix around with my sisterfriends and eventually got hooked up. I was so infatuated with Linda that it was only her that I thought of day and night. She was in the same university as me as we were always with eachother.. The depression left me and I was able to take up studies again. My sister always saw to it that I was never alone. Lonliness kills my dear and is very infectious. It does affect others and there is a possibility that your boyfried got the blackdog from another depressed guy. Believe it or no, lonliness is infectious. Be always with him and do as I had mentioned. Ofcourse we are all different but do have a try. Mail me on gilt_free@yahoo.com.au and let me know how your boyfriend progresses. Best of luck and God bless.
When my man was in depression he used to create and put both of into awkward situations. That time they are not in their right mind and may spoil your mood too.So you have to understand. Time may come when you can't make a situation better for him but surely you can help not worsening it by not reacting to his bad mood. So If its his depression which has to go, Its your patience level which has to come. Just make him feel better.
Deppression is a mental state in which a person finds himself alone. Mental and physical aloofness are the symptoms. May be, person surrounded by others, talking to him,he is distracted and unable to involve himself. Mental and physical rest and a proper companionship is required, a friend can be recreative but reason of deppression must be known,and accordingly the person should be assured and sympathicaly supported. If there is no reason, then medical treatment should be taken.