For me having sex before marriage is like opening Christmas gifts early. Why restrict sex to marriage, Sex is something that is a bond that should be shared between two people who may or may not be into a emotional relationship.

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Good, nice way to open up gifts early.

I think its OK. But you should honest in your relation and must not cheat your partner.



One side its give lovely experience in your life and it can reduces the chance of divorce after marriage due to unsatisfied sex life which is one of the common reason in present days.

There is nothing related to sex with marriage...it depends on trust.....so, my answer is Yes..it is completely OK

in the human world sex becomes an art that keeps a balance between body and mind. those who are sex starved cannot do anything good but become a liability to themselves.

Hope Christmas gifts hav been opened till now

i think this is not fare .

mujhe ek baat samajh nahi aati ki ek hi cheez wo jayaj bhi ho sakti hai aur najayaj bhi?

I don't know why some of indian people crying for this issue. Its a personal matter of someone's life. If they enjoy sexual relation before marriage why other cry.

the peoples supports to pre marital sex,i think they does not worry,if their younger brothers,sisters,sons,daughters and even parents had sex with some one else.and if that is ok before marriage than it should b cool even after marriage,is this Indian thought these guys really needs psyciatrist this is neither manly nor indian behaviour good luck India.

It might be worthwhile to think about why sex out of the wedlock is considered immoral?



To begin with, it might be a good idea to consider how the instituition of marriage came into existence.



Go back thousands of years in time. When men and women lived in tribes in jungles. From that time, we have had the instituition of marriage. For Example, the tribes in Africa still have an instituition of marriage and sex before marriage is considered immoral. Why?



I am sure at some point in time sex used to happen out of the wedlock. The soceity saw some disadvantages, some social problems with that. And to avoid those problem they created the instituition of marriage. Some of the possible reason are:

1. To keep sexual urges in control 2. To avoid rapes 3. To avoid fights over women 4. To take care of the children



If sex is available out of the wedlock, marriage doesn't have much meaning. With live-in relationship and pre-marital sex, marriage becomes a mere formality. Couples will get divorced as soon as they sense slightest incompatability. That will result in more families breaking up and single parent families find it very hard to raise kids. Kids raised by single parent tend to have psychological/emotional problems. I am seeing it happening. My son's friend's parents are getting divorced. He comes to our house and doesn't want to go back to his house. He has very low opinion about women. Divorces can happen and have happned when there is/was no pre-marital sex. But with out of the wedlock sex, percentage of divorce is going to rise.





When sex is so "easily" available , Men and Women tend to have extra marital affairs. Casual sex becomes very very common Which results in families breaking up.



Soon, the age at which boys and girls become sexually active will come down. In today's world, if Boys and Girls have sex at the age of 18 or 19, few years from now it will drop to 13 or 14. This has already happened in the USA. Kids in highschool, 9th graders, have sex. Teenage pregnancy is a big problem in the USA.



If an unmarried girl or a boy has already had a sex, what will prevent him/her from sleeping with his/her boss for promotion or for some other favours. So, it does result in moral degradation.



The net result ? Soceity is ruined.



Consider all this before you support out of the wedlock sex.

Hi everybody,

As for me, involving in premarital sex is not wrong if you are fully determined to marry him or her. It is utterly wrong if you want to involve in premarital sex with someone whom you are not going to get married, here in this blog someone mentioned having sex is an opportunity and those who are not getting that occasion they are oppose to sex, this is stupid and silly observation, who creates opportunity???? We are the one who create opportunity. Opportunity is nothing to do with having sex. So, guys if you love your girlfriend or boyfriend the most and if you are confident of getting married him or her then go ahead and have fun I don’t find it wrong.

God bless everyone.



Regards,



Maddy

Oky?

How do think it is ok, when your parents will come to know that you had sax with your boy friend or girl friend then defiantly they will screw you.

If not then you will easily come to know that he is not your father.

It's true, if you have any doubt on that then cross check with your father and have sex with your friend?

Whatever we do we have to consider the moral aspect.God has given us commandments and that sex is only within marriage otherwise it does trangress His commandments.

So want early sex?........its ok; get married early!

I think this is not a topic for discuss because its our social right that what we want if some one didnt have any problem in sex before marriage then y another people worried abt that . I just remember one old quote on this "Virginity is not a dignity its just lack of oppurtunities."

So only those people oppose this who didnt get this oppurtunity in thier life.. SO cheers buddies n rock....

not agree

One of my friend never had sexlife before marriage.. after a year of marriage he realized he fancies guys more.. well eventually both of them went through counselling and he figured it out that he is gay.. well now in this case the girl got the husband who was virgin b4 marriage.. spend 2 yrs in counselling n now they are getting divorced.. so it was just waste of everything few yrs of life, money, humiliation and all the pain attached to it.. if he had an active sexlife before marriage he would have been able to figure it out what his sexual preferences are..and it would have saved that girl of all the pain during her married years and post..

earlier in our society girls education was strongly pretested by the masses.. but some people opened their eyes to make out the difference what is important in todays changing world and they broke the old thought-flows.. guess its time we open our eyes to a new improved society with an open mind..

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I wonder why indians are so obsessed with sex! Intercourse is the nature's way of sustaining the species- be it human beings or animals. Human beings who are blessed with the ability to think turned it into a means of enjoyment - and it has turned out to be the greatest pleasure one can enjoy. Whatever one says for or against pre-marital or extra-marital sex, no one can completely end it. So if a person feels it is wrong, don't do it. And it is no use wasting one's time on discussions about pre-marital sex. I think no other country in the world will be wasting their time on such unproductive discussions. That is why we still remain backward. One should use one's time for doing meaningful things.

Nothing is wrong unless we decide to call it wrong and "we" here means the larger society. Social norms, values and codes have evolved over a very long period of time - we call this civilization. These values reflect the collective and accumulative wisdom of mankind from centuries. If some of us want to deviate from these norms, they are free to do so but then they should be prepared for the social consequences of their actions.

Hi Meher Dastoor:



Yes i completely agree with u.That "sex is something that is a bond that should be shared between two people who may or may not be into a emotional relationship.

So in that way it is the individual choice to enjoy themselves.Be it with or without emotional attachment.because we boys can also share our bed with a prostitute with whom we never share our emotion.But in that case also we have to agree that our virginity ...(not all but who had sex before marriage) has lost.And to whom he/she is going to marry can not demand that she/he must has not lost virginity.But what about them who are still pure and want a pure partner.because in our society most will not disclose their previous relationship.What will happen when they get to know about their partners pre-married life?So its not a simple case for society.But as far as enjoyment is concern nothing is more enjoyable than sex.
But think socially......

is there anybody thought of a girl's virginity. They have a hymen which is a physical evidence of their virginity. Why that part exists. Virginity is the great gift a girl can give her husband and not to anybody else. Same applies to the man. He should preserve his virginity until marriage for his woman.

HI VERY SEXY

it shouldn't be accepted in our society because we are indian and we are unique due to our rich culture. So, if a man/woman have sexual relationship before marriage it's the insult of our culture....he/she must be punished. So, it is not ok to have sex before marriage and should be warned everybody.

pre-marital sex is all bullshit ... who is a virgin these days? they say virginity is not a matter of dignity but a lack of opportunity. However if one is not honest and true towards his/her partner after marriage ... that a shame... dance with many ,sleep with one..

I think we indians need to grow up in these matters.

sex is a personal choice and people have the right for it as some of our fundamental rights.Asking Should we do it after marraige or before marriage sounds so stupid.As long as you are a adult you have right to do it . Its just got to do with those individuals who participate and their consent.

love is very sex and my interest.

MAN

Shaadi se pahle sex thik hai ya nahi. Is baat se pahle hame ye sochna chahiye ki kitne pratishad log aaj apne aapse imandar hai. bas sharafat ka naqaab odhe hue hai. sex ek aisi cheez hai jo mann ke vicharo par nirbhar karti he. zahan do samantar vichaar aur bhinn ling mil jaate hai. to waha achha ya bura sochne ki kshamata khatm ho jaati hai. thode me agar sonche to ye ek aisi ghatna hoti hai jis par koi kaabu paa nahi sakta. Jo pakda gaya wo chor hai, jo bhaga gaya wo sayana hai, is gaane k anusaar hi duniya chalti hai. Waise to sabhi chor hate hai. Is liye agar shaadi se pahle sex thik hai ya nahi is mudde ko sapport karna mai thik nahi samazta. Isse achha ye hai ki har koi apne mann me zank kar dekhe ki muze ye pasand hai ki nahi. apne mann par kaabu paye. Be honest. Dusro k dukhon ko samze. to ham sex se kai guna jyada aanand paa sakte hai.

No matter what ever reasons you give, I guess it is not ok. It depends on your ethics. Are you willing to accept if you come to know that your partner had it before. I am a person who believes in being true for your partner in your life. You can share anything with others like money, happiness, sadiness and sometimes love. But your body, that intimate moments of love and romance that must be only with one and it will be good after marriage. I am ok with person who will be sure to be my wife and bear my kids.

Its a vry big ???

but i think its just only depend upon you !!!!!

because its a Christmas gift .

within or outside, before or after, you should have it daily

Pre or post it should be safe sex.

And its not a matter of right or wrong its ones personal choice.
If you are sure about the person and both are ready for it then its OK.
But don't go for sex if you want to show your partner how much you love him or how modern you are. Do it only if you two are ready for it.

Why you people give so much importance to SEX???????????

Lots some other more interesting around us

SEX is ones' personal choice!!!!!!!!!!

IF the BROTHER can have have SEX why not SISTER

शादी से पहले सेक्स ठीक है या नही ये बहस का मुद्दì 6; हो सकता है ? लेकिन मै केवल एक बात जानना चाहता हूँ , कि ऐसे कितने लोग हैँ , जो यह जानते हुए भी उस व्यक्ê 0;ि (महिला या पुरुष) से शादी कर लेगेँ कि उसके विवाह से पूर्व ही किसी के साथ यौन संबन्ê 3; रहे हैँ। जो लोग यह कर सकते हैँ केवल उन्हेæ 5; ही विवाह पूर्व यौन संबन्ê 3; रखने का अधिकाë 2; है।

good one ADIL...nicely put...pre-marital sex comes with heavy baggage its not for people who cant live with the consequences of their choices.

Its ok.

I can concur with Adil Adil. This young man is so lucid and eloquent in what he had said - and all that is to be said. Thanks Adil, you didn't let the fools rush in. Gilliana/Oz

if pre-marital sex becomes a common thing in society, it will only encourage a new breed of Joeys (Friends character who is famous for having sex with a date and never calling her back again!)


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The western culture..? It’s not the culture which is wrong.. it’s the people.. I totally think premarital sex is a personal opinion and in my opinion its ok to have premarital sex... it’s not about your loved giving you something from left over’s from others plate.. Why do you consider that your loved one is giving you something from some one else’s plate.. She liked someone before it dint work out and maybe she liked someone enough to that she wanted to have sex….. Is sex such a big thing for you to marry someone is sex the only thing you can judge some one’s character....? Doesn’t your love your affection, her love her affection mean anything to you..? doesn’t her commitment mean anything to you..?Doesn’t her willingness to give you your baby mean anything to you she is willing to take the pain of 9 months to carry your baby so that you can get an heir.. she gives up her name she givers up her parents she gives up everything she wanted in her life for this one man who she is going to marry and I feel sorry for all those women who are judged on the basis of sex..!!. This is not moral values my friend this is just selfishness..! sex is just a minor part of your marital relationship or any other relationship…if your sister has sex.. does it mean that she is bad person or she loves you less than if she hadn’t had sex..? No it doesn’t mean so.. guys grow up get your mind mature enough where you can make this world a better place to live..... and more over.. love and humanity is the biggest religion of the world.. people get married because they love each other.. not because they want to have sex or loose their virginity..people in these cultures look for matches to see if the girl is a good match the boy or not.. not if the girl is really good for the guy to have sex with.. stop making it a big deal.. Its okay.. to have premarital sex if you’re not hurting any one….

Pre-marital sex is considered as a tool of enjoyment in the teens however it's consequesnces are very serious & dangerous. It takes away the productive time, energy, concentration, money & what not from the person who is indulged in this. A recent survey in Mumbai says majority of the teens indulged into pre-marital sex lands up in some or other kind of psychological disorders which not only hampers their studies/career/reputation but also hampers their life. Sex is never a tool for enjoyment as viewed by the current generation of teens, it is rather a bond between two different souls.

Let's not forget the situations which arise out of unprotected sex performed between two teens who are not well advised/informed on the process of sexual intercourse.

They unnecessarily land up in suffering from Sexually Transmitted Diseases, unwanted pregnancies & what not..

My message to all is let;s restrain from pre-marital sex & lead a gulit free, healthy &, successful life.

no sex befoere marriage.i think that there should be transparent relationship b/w sex partner after marriage n us due to great faith .

Virginity of a woman and man opens a new life and that is marriage. To not be a virgin and marrying one is a broken promise and a slur and a guilt that will last forever. This is what makes one a cheat.

y all the people need to discuss on such issues i couldnt get it. let the boy and the girl in the situtaion and circumstances they are decide it.

it is not that sex is good or bad you always are in the flow of time and more than all that emotions

Most people don't consider the emotional effects of premarital sex. You see, sex is an emotional experience and it affects our lives in ways we don't understand. After engaging in premarital sex, many people express feelings of guilt, embarrassment, distrust, resentment, lack of respect, tension, and so much more.

ANKITSAHAL I guess, We should not have this before marriage. Cz when it come to your first wedding night, you don't feel that excitement which you had when had sex first time. So better is this not to have. And feel the first night excitement.

I guess, We should not have this before marriage. Cz when it come to your first wedding night, you don't feel that excitement which you had when had sex first time. So better is this not to have. And feel the first night excitement.

Marriage is just a ceremony. When one decides about his life partner, I guess he/she can go ahead with all the fruits of a relationship. Doent matter if its b4 or after Marriage.

to all the objections faced on this post i say that nobody does it intentionally it happens when to people to find emotional support come together and have it.all i object is it being treated as casual affair or one night stand.shoudnt be so.TO EVERYBODY I SAY MY PARENTS GAVE ME SEXUAL EDUCATION LONG BEFORE I GOT IT FROM FRNDS AND PEER GROUP.SO ITS OKAY!

its okay.no relationship goes with the view that it has to break and getting physically involved is the highest point of commitment by anybody wether it is premarital or not. i support the view keeping in lieu also the after effects of it. it shoudnt only be enjoyment but also commitment which u gave and intend to continue.

लिखने वाले से जानना चाहुगì 6; क्या कभी उसने अपने घर में यह बात रखी हे, अपनी बहन,मा 05;,चाची,म ामी, कसन ,से चलो ,सेक्स के बारे में बात करे अगर हां तो आप सही हे,और नहीं तो आपको सोचना चाहीयí 5; इस बारे में कभी बहन को राय दी हे इस बारे में . बाकी आप को जब इस की सही समज होगी जब आप अपने परिवाë 2; के साथ रहेगे और आपकी लडकी इस बारे में आप से जानकाë 2;ी करे तब आप यह राए जरूर दे की पहेले सेक्स में कोइ बुराई नहीं हे यह आज के समय में बहुत जरुरी हे पहेले सम्भंê 2; बनाने. जभी आप सही सोच और समज पायेगí 5; शायद .

sex mean pleasure to mind and body . if we say its not in our culture than we think according to our elder words or generation told us . but no parent want to share what they did in there young age, just use precaution and enjoy ur sex . dont care for what other say behind curtain we all are naked.

from every one who supporting premarital sex, i just wana ask one ask one question, will you allow your sis to sleep with hiis boyfriend at your home ,, you ll feel good han that its a bond of so called souls or love ,, its not a vulgar attack but just wana have all friends opinion

Peace be Upon you. Pre-marital and extra marital sex is Prohibitted in all the 6 Major religions. (Juidaism, Christanity, Islam, Hinduism, Budhism, Zorastrianism). God forbid PMS and EMS for a reason, today even though we are advanced in science, we have little knowledge. For those who are "non- religious" here is what it does to your life -



- Having patners before marriage leads to dissatisfaction with your wife or hubby. Having lived with various partners, your spouse will never be the best, on a contrary if you have had only one partner in your life, who is your spouse then he or she will be the best. that brings more peace that a 2 min orgasm.



- Desensitization, Having sex outside marriage regularly, makes humans desensitized, They will not be aroused so easily. This leads to people to try new things like- wife Swap, Orgies, Gay sex, INCEST etc. American and European societies have it all unfortunately. This takes away our peace of mind.



- Divorces. A person who has had many partners before marrige, most certainly wont be satisfies with his spouse completely, and easily get into Extra marital sex or even affairs. This will break marriages, and life of the children is spoiled. this makes us loose Peace.



One can never have success without peace. Peace of mind and soul, is the success of life. And One can never have peace, if the person is not guided.

sex mean pleasure to mind and body . if we say its not in our culture than we think according to our elder words or generation told us . but no parent want to share what they did in there young age, just use precaution and enjoy ur sex . dont care for what other say behind curtain we all are naked.

The western culture..? It’s not the culture which is wrong.. it’s the people.. I totally think premarital sex is a personal opinion and in my opinion its ok to have premarital sex... it’s not about your loved giving you something from left over’s from others plate.. Why do you consider that your loved one is giving you something from some one else’s plate.. She liked someone before it dint work out and maybe she liked someone enough to that she wanted to have sex….. Is sex such a big thing for you to marry someone is sex the only thing you can judge some one’s character....? Doesn’t your love your affection, her love her affection mean anything to you..? doesn’t her commitment mean anything to you..?Doesn’t her willingness to give you your baby mean anything to you she is willing to take the pain of 9 months to carry your baby so that you can get an heir.. she gives up her name she givers up her parents she gives up everything she wanted in her life for this one man who she is going to marry and I feel sorry for all those women who are judged on the basis of sex..!!. This is not moral values my friend this is just selfishness..! sex is just a minor part of your marital relationship or any other relationship…if your sister has sex.. does it mean that she is bad person or she loves you less than if she hadn’t had sex..? No it doesn’t mean so.. guys grow up get your mind mature enough where you can make this world a better place to live..... and more over.. love and humanity is the biggest religion of the world.. people get married because they love each other.. not because they want to have sex or loose their virginity..people in these cultures look for matches to see if the girl is a good match the boy or not.. not if the girl is really good for the guy to have sex with.. stop making it a big deal.. Its okay.. to have premarital sex if you’re not hurting any one….

Question arise Why pre-marital has increased in last few year

Answer is, in past few year, the age of marriage for both boys and girls increases drastically, now more an more people delaying there marriage only because of there own career. be a liberal some how our parents also responsible for this.

Well this is modern trend but human feeling would be same, when he/she reach certain age they need some physical relation, if you are not married in certain situation, one who is weak get involve in pre marital sex.(this is the primary issue other for ex Television,movies etc i don't discuss)

These weak persons say its a Modern World, well i have small question for this So called modern world peoples.

If it's right to change your habits with time.

Why this modern world producing More suicide rates than ever before our forefather period, why more Marriages are break every day, why percentage of Divorce rate increasing every day,

Why child abuse is increasing, why rapes are increasing.

These all thing very rarely had seen by our forefather, but for us its more often.

These So called Modern Word idiots make there role model to Film star, sport person, Business man and try to copy them in there actual here the problem starts,

If you call any young girl/boy and try to give him some religious information, you might see him next time he will try to hide himself from you, He will say 'Yar Pako hai Bohat" ,

problem is here going to temple, church, masjid is not means you become religious, you should know what written in these Holy books, This must be primary source of our teaching which is missing now a days. Our learning starts or divert is correct words from movies,TV,western life.

Just think for few second is it correct or not.



I could predict that more Turmoil will going to happen in future, If we will not change our attitude (Which is not possible), we will definitely punished by the god, either in the form of natural disasters or some other way.

Sound crazy, lets wait and watch,

go to internet and study that in last 40 years no of earthquakes and its intensity, floods, typhoons, storms, etc are increase so much that it never happen in last hundreds of year,

what is this, is our god is really happy with our modern custom change.

These are the warning of our god.

Question arise why we should thinks about it, this it's a human behavior, You will start thinking only when Turmoil will knock your own door, so just wait for your turn.

Hey Jeff, How I wish civilized & educated India, if not others, share yr beliefs of abstaining from fornication. Fornication is punishable by God but condoned by man.. Besides how BEAUTIFUL sex is in marriage (wedlock) & how ugly it probably is outside wedlock. Indians, stop copying the western world & stooping to below ground levels like animals. God put us on top of the foodchain so stop behaving like animals having sex with strangers. If you donn't stop, you have to classify yourself like a prostitute or male prostitute. Everything is all lies & deception from shaitan. God please bless us Indians!!!

Moral standards are so down nowadays that even reputated news houses are endulging in cheap tricks to get more viewers. Tomorrow, we may have people saying that it is ok to have sex with father-daughter or mother-son after all they are mutual consenting adults. Where will this madness stop? Do we think this will make us happy? If yes, think again. Cos western culture that we are trying to ape is not happy at all. There are more stress caused deaths than cancer and heart related. Stick to ur culture and you wil be happy.

Interesting to find a great deal of hypocrisy along with some clear cut thoughts.

Moral values are not something restricted to just when it comes to talking about sex. Every word that a person speaks ought to be morally correct, if he professes moral values in any topic. Else its hypocrisy. If your moral values permits you to speak or give illustrations based on another person's mother/wife/ sister, sorry to say but u are totally fake in your words. So better avoid it and be morally correct there also.

As for the topic, if its just sex that a person is referring to, it is just an act to satisfy a person's need, it need not have an emotional quotient attached to it.

But making love, is different. A person making love has a great deal of attachment with his sex partner. And its special. It strengthens the bond in the relationship. The emotional quotient involved in such a relationship is much stronger than what one may experience in any of his other relationships, be it with his siblings or even parents. So it gains a very special status. And anything is special when its unique. And such a unique relationship cannot be maintained with multiple people. It has to be with only one person. And that one person is the person with whom your life is the best. He/she is your soul-mate. Marriage is a ceremonial way , in which your loved ones along with the world around claim that they have found your soul-mate and it is the person you are going to marry. And both in the wedlock accept this whole heartedly. So he/she has found his or her soul-mate with whom he can share that unique relationship.

But the problem arises in the pre-marital version. You may lose the uniqueness and hence the specialty in your relationship, if your sex partner is not your soul-mate. So before making love, one should be thinking if his/her partner is the soulmate with whom he/she would like t share that special relationship or he/she is going to ruin the speciality of love making. Its his/ her call to decide on the fate of the speciality of his/her bodily relationship.

Some people seem to be all confused between sex and making love. A normal person would never go to a brothel to make love. He would go there just for sex. There is no emotions attached between the participants. If a person would want to get rid of any emotional bondages involved in sex, it just means that the person has no respect for his own body and life. No point speaking to a person who does not have any self respect. He can come up with the most convincing looking radical thoughts, to cover-up for his inablity to control his bodily needs.

I'm sorry if I have hurt any person's sentiments. Just my thoughts. ;)

Guys who get their wives non-virgin, dont make it a issue bcoz its past and see that in future she/he can be loyal to each other... Bcoz now a days its very normal of pre-marital sex which cannot be denied . So we have to go with it.

What is the big deal about it?

I feel pre-marital sex is fine, but beware of its aftermaths in d form of pregnancies n abortions....enjoy widin limits....

sex and life are both are separate issues. Premartial sex is certainly ok and that should not be seen as sin.

Sex before marriage is very normal. The one thing parents should do is educate their children about contraception and the dangers of unwanted pregnancies.

I think it's totally normal and should not be discouraged. However, parents should warn their children about unwanted pregnancies and encourage them to practice contraception.

pre-marital sex is not at all immoral but it is also important that one choses his partner carefully and remains dedicated to him/her afterwards..

I think pre marital sex is not right at all

If I understand morals and purpose. If I know that there is God the creator who created sex, then I must seek from him the purpose of sex. Even though desire for sex before marriage may be an urgent need it is not necessarily right for me to do it. Sex before marriage is called fornication. Breaking the law incurs judgment. Beware law breakers. You have to give an account to your creator!!

Pre-Marital sex between two consenting matured adults is perfectly alright. When these two people know what they are doing and are okay with it, then no one else definitely has anything else to say in it.


However, for the emotional man, it becomes a bit difficult for him to both have sex with someone who he is not sure of spending the rest of his life with as well as accepting the fact that his wife isn't a virgin. Similarly, for a woman, if she does treasure losing her virginity to that very special person in her Life, then she better be sure of it before the act. A relationship gone wrong will mean she meets the man in her Life (who, obviously, she meets thereafter) as a non-virgin.


Obviously, we do have the other school of thought too, who believe that Sex is a means of deriving pleasure, knowing your partner better and connecting even deeper and more. For them, the emotional factor associated, though obviously there, is probably not as much as it is in the previous kind of men and women.


The question of whether or not pre-marital sex is okay, arises when a person from the first kind meets one from the second. It is then that a gap in the way the two people perceive Sex (one from a more emotional standpoint, while one from a means of pleasure perspective) brings about questions between them.


Having said that, I believe that the present day Man & Woman is much more open and are ready to accept things which they wouldn't have 10 years ago. If truly and honestly in Love, I believe it doesn't take much for a Man of the former kind to accept a Woman who's no more a virgin - it's all in the mind and heart and once you look at Life and the big picture, you will know that this (being or not being a virgin) honestly holds very little importance and value when compared to the other greater things. It's something that happened in the past in one particular kind of a situation. Today, the situation's no more - and what's happened, is passe. So why break our heads over it?


Take Care & Rock On !

CV KUMAR: EVERY ONE SPEAKS ON ANY SUBJECT ACCORDING TO HIS UP-BRINGING AND WHATEVER KNOWLEDGE ONE DEVELOPS WITH EVERY PASSING DAY OF HIS LIFE. HUMAN BEING ARE SUPPOSE TO HAVE BEEN EVOLVED AND GROWN FAR ABOVE FROM ANIMAL LEVEL AND WHAT THE "WISDOM OF ANCESTORS" DICTATES MUST BE TREATED AS TIME TESTED TRUTH. THE DIFFERENCE OF OPINION ON THIS SUBJECT BETWEEN ANY TWO PERSONS SHALL ALWAYS BE ACCORDING TO THEIR SET GOALS OF LIFE. IF YOU THINK OF THE PURPOSE OF LIFE IS TO REALIZE GOD, APART FROM EARNING DAILY BREAD, AS EVERYBODY IS TIED TO SOME OR THE OTHER RELIGION, THEN CERTAINLY SEX , WITHIN WEDLOCK OR OUT OF WEDLOCK, PULLS DOWN TOWARDS ANIMAL INSTINCTS AND HINDERS THE SPIRITUAL PROGRESS. AND SEX OF ANY KIND FOR THOSE, WHO ARE YET GROWING UP AT ANIMAL LEVELS IN THE GARB OF HUMAN BEINGS, FOR THEY WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND THE SANCTITY OF FAMILY INSTITUTION AND PEACE AND HAPPINESS ENJOINED WITH THAT. I BELIEVE THIS MUCH IS MORE THAN ENOUGH TO CONCLUDE THAT IT IS NOT ADVISABLE TO GO ON FEEDING WHAT THE "BODY" WANTS, WHEN THE DESTINATION FOR IT IS EITHER GRAVEYARD OR CREMATION GROUND.

how wow...

just wait ...

its the topic a very normal these days

as far as the higher sex(females) are concerned they are very narrow in these respect and thats true..

you may not like when your partner says you on the first night of marriage that am not a virgin...

i lost it tons ago.how would you feel.

just sheer helllll.that was my perspective...

but i enjoyed writing

SEX IS GOOD. MONEY IS GOOD. SPENDING MONEY ON DRUGS IS NOT GOOD. HAVING UNSCRUPULOUS SEX FOR HEDONISM IS NOT GOOD.

NOW PEACE!

It's all personal choice. Live the way you want to live and don't let the society or religion dictate you.



If you want to have sex before, go ahead. But keep in mind you lose your virginity only once and make sure you do it to someone special.



Of course this is coming out from a virgin.

Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right .. SO ENJOY LIFE WHILE U CAN.... let other take care of morals

I think pre-marital sex is completely ok?

well sex before marraige can be fun...but being very experienced in this field i can say, no matter how attractive the woman...the guy is most cases will loose interest in that woman after having sex many times over before marraige. Men fall in 'love' for sex while women allow sex in order to fall in love. opposing ideas. which is why many guys like me will have sex and then behave very rude and get her to dump and then go out and have sex with another. Every man is low by nature and his innner most thoughts are always to go out and 'conquer'. Sex only after marraige is a clause that is very diffcult for men to take but men love the chase, dont make him wait too long, spend a few months as a couple, get married and have marital sex for the first time, feeling described by most couples is heaven. sure the man will loose interest but he wont try to loose his partner and learns to adjust, experiement, has moments of clarity and also tries to improve sexual performance and for the first time in his life the man will learn to 'commit' because he realises she got character by not having sex before marraige, it gives great comfort for a man to know his wife is not so easy to get into bed. We all know sexual pressure and frustrations can be very daunting. Now simple advice if you really want to be with one partner and your fortunate enough to find someone who has the potential to meet your requirements, then wait, dont have sex till you get married, the man may feel pissed at this point but he will love you from deep within. If you have sex with him before marriage, well chances are he wont marry you, even if he does the relationship is not sustainable on the long run. For most of us the choice is clear, you can be married and bored or single and lonely. so pick your choice and act accordingly. now sex just for having sex without any strings can be fun as well but sexual encounters from the past can be real mess when they turn up after your married or settled and this can cause problems in married life. I happen to be a believer in the 'Almighty' and i have always known and seen that the sanctity and honesty in every relationship is tested during the course of the relationship at one point or the other. You will never find an example of a marraige where the couple at one point didnt face a severe test of their love for one another.

different strokes for different folks. best try both ways. works both ways really.

Have sex everywhere: in roads, traffic, public toilets, in office meetings, while dancing, while eating...hahaha then this confusion of sex will be dealt with!

Live and let live guys .... if you want to have sex, so be it... go ahead, indulge yourselves ...

I think Sex before marriage is probably one of teh best testing agents..... It's not dirty, it's a connection....You have to connect emotionally, spiritually and even physically.....You lose in one of those, your relationship is a waste.......

Whether the pre-marital sex leads to a long term or just for fun, I think pre-marital sex is way more fun. Atleast, you're not having an affair......or cheating on someone, right? It's just sex.

I think Sex before marriage is probably one of teh best testing agents..... It's not dirty, it's a connection....You have to connect emotionally, spiritually and even physically.....You lose in one of those, your relationship is a waste.......

Whether the pre-marital sex leads to a long term or just for fun, I think pre-marital sex is way more fun. Atleast, you're not having an affair......or cheating on someone, right? It's just sex.

In my humble opinion sex is sex. Why equate it with values- moral or emotional? It's true sex and emotions are not mutually exclusive but it is also true that moral values are a human creation. It makes sense that one should be faithful to their partners, but to what extent?

Are you being unfaithful to your spouse if you haven't even met them yet but are having consensual sex with a person you have feelings for currently.

And all the nay-sayers who say it is a sin to have pre-marital sex, ask yourself if you are being a hypocrite. Do you drink? That is a sin too. Do you smoke? - Sin! Do you work for making more money or having a bigger car? - Sin (greed). Do you eat more than you need to sometimes? - Sin (gluttony). After you ask yourself all these questions and then re-think your opinion about pre-marital sex.

Is it so wrong for two consenting adults to have sex knowing full well what they are doing and the choice they are making?

In the end you have to admit to yourself that nobody is perfect and we all have our shortcomings.

Sorry for this long-ish rant but I feel very strongly that people need to stop other people's lives and just try to live their lives to the best of their ability.

Thanks

Sex is just like priscription medicine. If both agrees it is good but in limits. Who has power of control on body parts due to eating habits.

For rich people there is no problem and the problem is with average families.

Nothing wrong with the pre-marital sex but both partner should stick to each other faithful to each other till the end of their life .



Because if your wife indulged in pre - marital sex with some other man before marring you . Then what is the difference between your wife and a Prostitute ?

Hey guys why to fight over a topic which is very personal. I think for some people sex is just a fun, for some its eternal love, for some its lust and some r psycho abt it. So simply do the right thing at the right time on ur part. If a women or a man is not virgin at the time of marriage that doesnt make that person bad. Now a days when men and women do everthing hand to hand , they may get attracted with each other and sex may happen. But i think once u r married u sud be commited to only one person.

:) ppl who have got sex before marriage will be for it and ppl who didnt get a chance will be against it.



why make a scene out of it...

@supporters (who had pushed the humans to the level of animals)...... if you accept that your mother / sister / Wife can have sex outside ..... that means you already a illegitimate child and we dont want to learn values from you..... I dont want to hurt sentiments of others, but i dont want to suger coat a filthy topic, Snake venom as such is not bad..... it can be used as anti-venom and save lifes..... Sex as such is not bad tooo.... it shall be use to give life.... and have real enjoyment and pleasure of calmness and closeness and showing deepest love.

well every coin has two sides

if not paid for it is good

if you have knowledge it is good

if you are not cheating some one it is good

if you can accepty your non virgin better half then it is good

if you dont belive in the theory that boys love for sex and girls have sex for love then it is good



i belive marrige is a beautiful happening in once life and virginity is the the best gift that you give and take on the first nite

As a european woman, I would like to ask men in this group: if you are in favour of pre-marital sex for you, would you still be for woman? If no, why? I really think sex is a normal thing in life, and we should not believe it is some sacred or religious moment... What I really cannot understand is how can you marry and have sex with someone you have not chosen (without any emotional relationship, how sad is that)!

Well - if it is not going to have bad after effects, I think sex before marriage is ok. I think the beliefs we have about this are because we have made Sex as an objectionable topic, which is not true.

Christianity believes that sex is the original sin which should never have been committed..so why Christianity does not ask people to stop sex.. pseudo moralist make all the rules to run the society in their way..which is wrong...so people who are saying they don't believe in pre-marital sex, specially men..i would like to challenge them if they can resist an open invitation before marriage...all morals are bunch of bul...it..i believe in sex..it not marital or pre-marital or extra-marital..its just sex...be it one night stand...