My best friend has just got engaged, her parents are living abroad, the guy too is living outside India and his family is a different country.

Its an arranged marriage through someone, she is thinking of going for a prenuptial agreement before marriage, just to feel a little secure and have a backing, doing you think its ok

Friends please suggest I am confused, what to tell her ?

if it gives mental satisfaction and feel of security one should do for other but one thing is always there we have got lawyers to manipulate everything.LOVE IS TRUST

My understanding is that such agreements are GENERALLY done by wealthy people (prospective husband or wife) to protect their assets and i think that is justified.

I know i am little late in answering this, but just wanted to say something to people here, I dont think so there is anything wrong in a prenuptial, especially if the society can give it an ok for guys, then why raise questions if a girl wants it. The legal and practical wisdom behind getting a prenup can be found in the prefix of the word itself: “pre,” meaning it is agreed upon and signed before the marriage takes place.



You are taking out insurance against the failure of your own marriage to potentially cover substantial losses if your dream man suddenly flip

Dear Tina,

It is not a must but as per the suggestions here I would rather say that what is her own will?? MOreover if it is an arrange marrige and than also she goes for this than it is something like disrespecting her parents decesion !!!! my advice to LET HER DECIDE

Its not ok, its a must in cases where the groom is only gonna keep the bride waiting.

We have heard of many cases of NRIs getting engaged during their visits to India and months or years later call off the engaement.

In such cases its a must as well as in all those cases where more time is need on what ever the accord, like further studies, education, etc.

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Aplology............This is no way an attenpt to hurt you. My question is: If Trust , belief and understanding is there between two....why this is required ? After all it is relationship that is built on these three elements...Is it not ?

First of all let me say it clearly and upto the point. I feel it will be good if she goes for it but for me the important thing is not whether she is going for it or not but the way she deals with it. I would suggest her to think hardly herself and take a decision. She must not get confused. If she feels no then she should not go and if she feels yes no matter what happens she must go.



If she feels go ,I would expect her to do is to talk with her partner and let him know and if he is also mature enough then she must consult a lawyer and then the road will be smooth.



If she goes alone without even asking her partner and one final day she puts the contract in front of her partner and ask him to sign then believe me that will ruin all. So it is better no matter whatever she do she must let her partner.



Now to prenup in indian marriage. I cannot say 100% against it. But whether to go for it or depend on the marriage itself. In this case your friend needs to go to prenup and when things goes smooth and everyone is happy then after few years she can terminate it.



But in cases where both partners families live in India and partners live together after marriage then in that case prenup really will kill the love and surely men will fell does women are acting win-win in this situation. This will kill romance.



So in some cases prenup is good...it doesnot mean in all cases it is good... prenup in Indian marriages must depend on marriage itself not a law..



I will be waiting for comments..

rightly said supriya, your post got deleted can you put it again

Why not ?

she is doing absolutely right and good for her 'cause many brides are left lonely by foreign grooms so let her do it independently!!!!!!!

Wow what a heated discussion, I just want to share a real life incident about this IT couple i know in Bangalore. They went in for a prenuptial agreement , which had details about how the finances will split if the relationship doesn't work out.



Unfortunately, the marriage didn't really work out and it was this PRENUP, that saved them from a tamasha in court and embarrassing each other in public. The finances were split post the break up and each got an equal share.



Being a man, I want to confess, there are many women who stay in a abusive marriage as they don't have a backing financially, so why should they suffer,,, i think if nothing this PRENUP can save a women more..

I think the surge in prenups is reflective of the mentality today that divorce is always an option.

A prenup is a contract between two people about to wed that spells out how assets will be distributed in the event of divorce or death,, so how the hell is trust a part of it, i think its work well for the security of both the partners and also the kids, whats the harm guys

I think its should be no big deal, "Think of it as a business arrangement or as an insurance policy'

I am not too sure if its started happening in India Tina, but i know of people in India, mutually going in for such agreements, in her case i think she should go in for the prenuptial since its a blind marriage

@Tina- Nothing can kill romance faster than the word prenup.

any kind of agreement before marriage is against the institution of marriage in my opinion. Don't get married if you don't trust him

I don't think going for a prenuptial is a bad idea Tina, considering the scenario of marriages now, though you can go to your lawyer and consult him for all the clauses