I have long-distance reltion with my bf for last 2.5 years. Problems started between us from last 1 year. Earlier even though there were probs, I used to take it lightly and dismiss it as mere difference in thoughts. Things began to get bad and soon we were fighting for anything and everything. My bf has become more possesive than ever in the last 6 months. He gets mad at me even if I go the supermarket without letting him know (& he is not even in my city!). I have to stay in touch with him 24X7 by sms, phone or email. I find it to be very suffocating. I have tried talking to him many times and everytime the discussion ends with me having to oblige to what he says (whether I like it or not). He previously used to say that if I don't listen to him, he will break-up and I being so mad about him always agreed to him just so that he will not leave me. Recently, my patience level has crossed and during one of our arguments, when he said that he'll break-up I agreed...that was a shock for him and from then he is not saying that he'll breakup...instead I have made up my mind that we are not compatible enough and lone alone cannot let us live happily forever, so I want to breakup. For this, he is not agreeing and saying that he'll commit suicide or he'll come to my house and talk about all this to my family and he'll not let me get married to anyone. He even tried to hurt himself once. Finally, he wants us to stay together no matter what even if we are not compatible....according to him, we have our whole life ahead and we'll learn to be compatible sooner or later. I am simply fed up and can't understand if this was the guy I really fell in love with. I am completely helpless, I need some suggestions as to how to deal with him and is this how people behave when they are in love?

I m a gay & having a long distance relationship with my Lover in India. I m in abroad & we having our relationship from last 2 years. We both love each other very very much; we met lots of time & spent a good time together. Problems started from last 6 month when I received a mail from him that he getting pressurized from his family for marriage & he have to marry with a girl. I convinced him from many aspects that I will look after ur parents & all. He agreed but after some time he again started to sing the same song of Marriage but every now & then he started to fight on the same issue. but I don’t have big problem from this issue.

I m working here in central Africa from last 9 years & having some friends. Situation of India & Africa is very different from many aspects. We have friend here just like a family. Now & then we r helping each other like a family. But my Bf doesn’t want to keep relationship with any of them. If some one come to my place or I have to go some where, then in advance I have to inform him. This is not possible always. He doesn’t like if I will add any new friends in my FACE book or in ORKUT. Bcoz of him I removed many of my good friends from my-list. I told him after 1 year I wll going to be settle in India & at that time without ur permission I wll not going to meet any one. But he telling me if u not able to leave ur friend then I don’t have any expectations from u …

I tried to talk to him from many ways & to convince him but all in vein. What should I do now???

I don’t want to breakup any more nor he wants to do that but I m fed off from fighting of every day…

hey pia...donot breakup....he is desperate for u...give him some postive energy....ask him to be at peace when u are not able to reach him or text him or mail him....he loves u like mad...seriously...he is saying all those blackmailing rubbishes out of frustration...he is alone...he needs u ...he wants u...possibly because of some unaviodable circumstances he cannot marry u as of now....but yaar trust him....he loves u like a mad....in this era of cheating partners u have gotta a honest lover....dont break his heart in a way dont break ur heart either....ask him to feel the memories and the time u guys have spend together when he is misssing u badly.....sarransh is that chahta hai aapko woh...bepanaah...at the end of it he loves u...

Hey sweety, sorry to say you but people how r staying far from home country there behave like this only, i am far from my home country some time i to behave like this so please, he love you that y worried about you, thinking about you always. If he want that you must be in front of him 24 hour tell him to get marry as soon as that you will get result what he is capable of. Just try once and ask him to get marry you so u will be 24 hour in front of him. Try this it will work out. You will get result.

hi there... i guess you are facing the problem which is faced by the most of girls when they dont want to continue the relationship but bf wants... here you need to understand your self 1st about this relation i.e what you really wants.. now lest talk about the two option you have

1st continue with relation ship.. this is bite difficult to do as you have already decided to come out.. but just give a thought about it, it may be that your views changed rather than his..and when you are love then expectations are always on high so some time we get confused between expectation and compulsion.. i m not advocating that guy but as you are in relation with that guy for 2.5 year then there must something in him thats why you stayed for 2.5 years.. just do some analysis where thing went wrong and try to correct it if possible.. who knows with small push you got a grate life..

2nd option is break it..in this case you need to take in confidence your parents and need to tell then every thing.. you may need not to be tell every thing in detail but all points should be cleared to avoid any future problem.. i.e at the time of your marriage. you can ask you elder brother or some to talk to him so that they he can not bother you..and if he is given you threat that he will commit suicide then some how have some proof about it like sms or email or call record and give same to his family and police its for your safety coz if he do something like this and send a note with your name then you will land in a probe. once you decide to come out then change you cell no, orkut and other social site profile and tell you common friend that not to pass on any contact info of your to him so that he will not trouble you. and alway remember you cannot break relation slowly it become more complicated .. its like quiting smoking you have to stop once for all..



nway best of luck for you.. before ending i was just thinking about that guy.. why did he do like it i think there are lots of possibility 1. you may be better than what he think he deserve so he is feeling unsecured 2. you may be open minded but he is of reserve kind 3. you got better male friend than him so he feel insecure..

darling get married to the one of ur parents choice

TRUE LOVE COMES BY ITSELF & NOT BY FORCE LIKE THIS WHICH THIS GUY IS DOING....SO SWEETY I WISH YOU SHOULD THINK BEFORE YOU LEAP...DONT BELIEVE THE GUY STRAIGTAWAY AS YOU HAVE A LONG LIFE TO GO....ALL THE BEST

nopes he is getting u on a ride for sure.. well i would like to talk to u personally via private messages or telephonic conversation (if at all possible for u) sweety.. there is one reason for this.. i guess i knw this person.. coz i too was in love with a person similar to urs years ago.. but i have come out of it successfully .. the same situation was mine too.. so if possible private message me on itimes.. we can solve it together if u wish too.. rest is ur wish.. by the way this is not the way people behave when they are in love.. n obviously he is not the right person for u.. u hav someone better for sure.. if he is so much forcing tht if u dont marry him then he shall come to ur house n tell ur parents all abt it? ok so tell him to do whtever he can.. as he will only speak shit but has no daring to do anythng wrong.. "garajne waale badal kabhi baraste nahi" remember this.. n he told u he had hurted himself.. ahhhhhh excuse me for tht but u r away frm him.. so how do u knw he has hurted himself? hav u seen his injuries? if yes then he is mad if no then ur mad to believe him.. m sorry for this.. just trying to be straight forward to u.. the person u fell in love was different n it was just attraction.. whch normally happens to all once.. u were only 2.5 yrs in long distance relatinship it was 4 long yrs of my llife wasted.. welll cant tell u in detail out here the solution how to tackle this problem over just one discussion.. can u just private message me on itimes inbox or message box please? i m willing to help u come out of it.. rest is ur wish..



Regards

Supriya

Being a man I really felt bad about how your boy friend treated and treating you. Being a man I really feel sorry for you. I am also feeling bad what does love means to now generation even though I am this generation boy I donot like this kind of love.



What I am saying is just my pure personal thoughts and I donot wish and mean you follow it or they are 100% correct. I just want to let you know that what ever happened between is not TRUE LOVE and it is just attraction and infatuation. I maybe wrong but thats what I see. You see if you are in love it must be two sides and what does love mean..for me beside talking and flirting and being a comedian infront of your partner it needs respecting, comforting, trusting and supporting that is what true loves is. I donot want to go into your personal details since it is your life and I donot want to discuss it public but they way I see he didnot support , respect or trust since if ever he did and believe in them he would not have done what he did and is doing now to you.



My advice I guess first people to whom you need to talk is your parents or atleast you Mom since I believe Mom are best friends of gals..so talk to her and this will kick of events and I am sure your parents will support you and if you get any chance to talk with boys parents please talk with them and let everyone( I mean people who care and are effected by this ) know about it...it is surely hard path which needs your self-confidence, patience and strength..but they way I see is your boy is starting to harass you..( I may be wrong) but counting on your family and letting them know what happened and is happening will allow you to earn their trust and support... loving some is not bad and every good love doesnot end in "LIVING HAPPILY EVER AFTER"...all the best and I wish no matter what happens..I wish good for you..

Men r generally very selfish and overwhelmingly possessive. If you think, things will get better once you are together, u r wrong my dear. Thank God that he has shown you his true colors. take your time - do it slowly - so that he may not harm u in any way or blackmail u.

Take a firm decision and move out and move on...he will suffocate you with his jealousy and suspicion. Better call it quits. Start avoiding his phone calls; don't reply to his mails/texts; be v v cold when u talk and let him know that its no point carrying on- U R NO MORE INTERESTED.

It is not love. Now you are a prey.

say good bye to him as quickly as you can, if he says he will suicide, give him a knife to see if he really meant...

there should not be any compulsion in love but this fellow is compelling you to do what he likes so go with your decision.