Please accept my apologies if any of my words have hurt you. It wasn't meant to criticize you at all buddy! I never take pleasure in criticizing people. I believe each one has their own opinions which they are free to express. However, I only provide explanations when someone asks me to do so, which was in your case. Good to know that you try to take the best of both the worlds. I am afraid, not many people have the understanding and intelligence to do so.

Influenced ! me ? :) I criticize the media on this buddy , i am social awareness writer as well ! o no influence kinda thing with me ... yes as far as love is concerned ... i am not sure ,thats the reason i requested you to elaborate what love is all about.However, you took the pleasure in criticizing me ! And , as a matter of fact, i say this (EMA, Infidelity,swapping,etc.)because i work in an Industry where all this is a "No big deal", and I, am a bit-modernized, yet, stuck to the Indian-Western Culture ! Again, i take what is worth been taken from the West, that's Technology , and from the Indian culture, the heritage !

Dear Girish, if you think that if in today's world Love happens every now and then, then probably you have gross misunderstanding about what love is all about! Whatever things you mentioned, like caring, cuddling,walking together etc. are all expressions of love. Love itself is above all these! You don't even need the presence of the person to be around to be in love. Understanding the density of love is not that easy. Again, I would like to reiterate the fact that unless you experience love, you will never understand. Perhaps, someday you are lucky enough and have someone special in your life, then you would understand. I could have written pages about "What is Love?" but for people like you it will really not make any difference. It is something like a person who has not seen Taj Mahal in a moonlit night, you can probably explain what it is, but not make him feel the real thing! And, before I conclude, please don't mix sleeping and going around with girl(s) or boy(s) as love. That's having sex and for many people, sleeping with a person whom you do not love is act of self-gratifying glorification! It has seldom anything to do with love. I pity these people. To love is to sacrifice. To love is to walk hand in hand through difficult times. To love is to be by the side of your lover even when the whole world had turned against him or her! That's love! Again, my friend, try to broaden your horizon by rationalizing things by the way you truely feel. I understand that lot of youngsters like you are deeply influenced by the media, that strangely, have been harping on social decadence, EMA, infidelity, premarital sex, swapping,sex with no strings attached etc. These are bound to take a toll on the thought process of young minds. And slowly but in a subtle manner, probably these are casting a shadow over a divine feeling like love. But, India is a strange country. Once I spoke to friend in the media industry and he said a lot about freedom of speech and self censorship. Do not read the news that you don't want to. What a logic! The media can publish anything and everything, but we cannot have any censorship on them! Because it is suppose to be anti-democratic. Anyways, sorry if I drifted from the topic. But, at the end, it's up to you to choose whether you want to get influenced or build up a receptive mind that is open about the finer nuances of life! Choice is yours!

Well Said!!!

Attempts ! that is actually not required buddy ! Your "pyramid" of life is run down by the bulldozer of Life Pressures ! This is a true scenario my friends , money talks and love freaking walks !
Even i wish Ritaban, i could understand the meaning of love , but my friend , even the great legendary writer,William Shakespeare, is know to have plagiarized his stories from someone else ! See the difference my friend, "Love means never having to say you're sorry !" was a all time hit , which made the writer famous,rich and known by the world. This is the "co-relation" between "love happens" and "monetary benefits" ... this is way i say ... in the present society scenario .... Love is Carp !
And forget about all that ... what is love Ritaban ? Please help me understand it , seriously . Does sleeping and going arounf with a girl , mean that the guy loves her ? Does presenting with gifts and caring, cuddling, liking,talking over phone, walking hand in hand, having romance, mean that one is in love ? And how do you understand the density of love ?
Simply because , in todays world , love happens every now and then ... i am all entangled in your "too good " imaginative writing , my friend ... please justify !

Girish, my friend, I do not really understand that how can you co-relate a topic like "Love Happens" and "Monetary Benefits"? Is this a job interview or a career decision? Guys, one fundamental thing that you need to understand is love resides on top of the pyramid. You can see what is happening in a loveless world! Terrorism! Violence! Communal Riots! Fundamentalism! And the list can be endless! Love is Crap-this statement is very saddening and it really pains me to see that even a young guy like you can think like this? Strange, but true. Not everybody can write a Romeo and Juliet. Only a William Shakespeare, with so much love and languish can write such a beautiful story. Only a die hard romantic author like Erich Segal can write a "Love Story". Love is timeless! Nothing can match love. Drive for wealth and fame cannot motivate you to write timeless pieces on love. You need to be in love, understand love to be able to write such a thing. Yes love is a factor of bonding, friendship,compassion,empathy and sacrifice. To borrow words from Erich Segal-"Love means never having to say you're sorry". Apologies my friend, perhaps someday you will love someone and then you will understand my word. Till then it will be a futile attempt to make you understand love.

And how many survive the Pressure Cooker test ? How many are rally bonded by love ? How many are sure about their love not being with him/her for monetary benefits ?
Love is all crap and junk which has been MADE-UP by our ancestors. After all who really knows, if Romeo and Juliet were literally present on Planet Earth , or was it made up by someone to just increase his wealth and fame !

Hey,
Really appreciate your thought and view on it. I don’t know what it is … eternal truth/materialistic attitude (Heavy weighty words). Another point is stretching you, if you are talking about life … would be based on attitude, it’s independent of LOVE. You can see many people leading good life. Another would be changing attitude through LOVE (Minute change, generally overlooked). Here the question is “What is the involvement from both sides?” You would be saying/thinking why I should come to comparison? Otherwise, frustration is the stage after some time and love happens goes away and … contradiction. Right?
Happiness is depends on many aspect of life. And whenever Index is concerned, it’s dependent place, people and their requirement. Quite complex.
If LOVE happens, we don’t need to judge it with critical/pressurized situation. It would be independent of time, situation and others factors. It would be free flow … no environment can hold it back.
Prostitute – Simple Question? Did anyone take a look of the prostitute like normal women whom anyone wanna love. Sounds very strong and tuff, but the truth is that she had a beautiful mind and heart which has been broken and cannot be rebuilt.

Yes Gopala dude, i am in agreement with you ... coz this is no Alice in Wonderland or Bruce Almighty , this is a reality called as At the Enemy Gates !

@Debar..I appreciate your reply..i just want to put few things in front of you....first of all I feel you are not talking in terms of real world. In real world what ever you said happens very very rarely and when I come across them I can easily give many reasons why such rarity happened.
My life taught me many hard and heart breaking thinks,...and based on that I gave my reply to your post.. believe it or not..that is what going on in majority of people in real life..I was grown in an environment where I was taught to help others and friends when ever you can.. and when I followed it against the gals who I loved and friends who I admired..i became more like a trash bag..which you use once when you need to threw trash and after that never see it and again come back to it when you need to threw trash.
My life taught me yes beauty, money, things like car and bikes, flirting and those things have much effect and in many cases that is true...I guess you missed the point.. yes ones you have feelings the thing tho holds them together is love and my point is that in order to start the feelings in first place..the needed things are the ones which i said..the things which i said are needed for impressing.. and when you agree with this..i guess what i said is true in real world and most of cases...you said my example are rare instances.. but i feel what instances you age are rarest.. i will be waiting for reply...

Guys,
Great thought … I appreciate. I feel you are looking at the outer view of the LOVE. Giving a gift or riding does not mean that it is fake. It might happen that both like the way they are leading life and it is true love for them. And they feel complete …
Regarding men/women … it is based on the society and how they have grown. It cannot be said that women looks for money and men looks for beauty. Here the environmental is a big concern. However, if you go with your instinct, these, beauty and money, do not have much effect. In general, both looks for the opposite sex who can hold each other’s feelings. If it matches, true love can happen …. But most of the scenarios it comes with compromisations, impressing each other’s and in a fraction of moment … and in no avail …
I agree with the rear instances … Looking for your view on it …

well said buddy !

I accept with whatever Girish said..yes now feeling love is not sufficient... you need to show.. and the way you show it has changed and that will determine whether you get love or not.. now a days you need to give costly and fancy gift cards.. but not a simple email having beautiful and meaningful words.. now a days you need to give costly present but not needed one.. now days you need to give a gal a ride to let her notice you but not too have long walks with her..if you do walks..she will say I NEVER SAW you like that..people donot find time to talk abt life with you but they have plenty of time and topics to flirt with you..Yes now a days..TRUE LOVE is vanishing and hard to find.. LOVE is always conditional and who ever says it is not they are making fools of themselves...

true ... i agree on this point . However, love is a crap thing ! There is nothing called as True Love ! Simply because the time has changed, these days no girl would love(artificial) a guy who has no money , and no guy would love a girl who is not-beautiful. So , you see friends , time has indeed changed. Today at least realistic and practical people WILL NOT BE BELIEVE SOMEONE SAYING "I AM IN TRUE LOVE" ...!

Hey Supriya,

I am fan of your great thought, but it sounds a weak reply. Sorry to comment on your example … 23 yrs of leading life does not mean “love happens”. There are many families who are leading life for last 45-50 yrs where love is managed to happen after the marriage. The marriage, I mean, is a situation where most of the people forced to accept the scenario and there are different situation which makes them responsible to each other as time goes by … and they cannot realize that they are at the age of 70. Love happens is a question most of the time.

money is a brutal fact of life... as they say its all about money honey ! and yes please be specific when you speak . What i mean is your mom dad got married 23yrs ago ... gosh its 23 yrs ! Today a woman doesnt think twice before sleeping with someone , and you say "love happens" ... what is love after all ? Loving someone and sleeping with somebody else is love ? Ditching someone after s/he has no money or no job is love ?
IF YOU FEEL "LOVE HAPPENS" BE ELABORATIVE AND STAND YOUR GROUNDS ... WHAT IS LOVE AND HOW DO YOU "JUSTIFY" LOVE ?