My elder brother who is of marriageable age has been denying all the marriage proposals from the very beginning. Though my parents were pushing him hard but still he would not accept till few days back when he gave up and revealed the fact that he is GAY!
My parents are shattered & speechless. We are not able to gulp the fact. what to do now? Can anyone here pls help and suggest how to deal with this now?

This apsect needs a very Sensitive Handling . This is purely some one's own orientation, one should let that person have his or her way . But pls under no situation pressure him into normal marriage as unitl he really is not mentally ready to accept that marriage will only ruin a girl's life too. There are many cases where parents of persons with different sexual orientation forcing them into marraige which just adds to the problems of that person as well as for another person who has no fault at all .Leave your brother alone & let him enjoy his life the way he wants .

I totally agree with Ms Asha Gupta and the way to go about it.

i am sorry and surprised.it goes to his credit that he admittedthus saving many lives nd families. be bold and give him all the sisterly love. he needs you alls support

Second is. He should have a friend who is mad about girls and their parts. Who can describe the magic of every parts of beautyful girls.

Piyali, I wants to know that from where u belongs because first of all u r family should change your city. It happens when u r freind circle is like this. Change his friend circle and try to keep close with nice girls. He should have a good girl friend.

Hi All,

What kind of suggestion you all are giving to a girl who is worried about sexuality of her brother? It is all out of ignorance. I hope that you do a little research on internet before writing your thoughts here.

Piyali, bad news(maybe). If your brother is gay, taking him to a doctor will not change anything and neither would be introducing him to girls. He is not interested in women at all and no amount of pyschologial counselling will help to change him.

We Indians are always in denial state that something cannot happen to us. And if society abhors that God forbid.

You have to see that he is not sick not pervert. He is the way he is . It is abnormal only in India. Rest of the world is not like that.. Do some research on internet you will find millions like him.

Good news , he still loves you and will love more if you accept him.

Thank you all my dear friends for your concern and suggestions...me and my family have taken into account all of you's advies and thinking over it..whatever be the decision or outcome one thing will always remain the same and that is my love for my brother.

I'd still stick to my earlier advice.

Piyali is a pretty girl and am sure her parents have 'shown' her to many a guy. And some may have turned down her proposal - and why would that be? I'd say only an homosexual could have turned down the hand of such a pretty girl... So Piyali ought to introduce her bro around to these guys!!! ... Nothing so wrong in him being what he is...

I don't know about other people.But you should start a research about it first.The issue here is of personal choice and the nature by birth.I read about it and scientifically it is by birth not a choice to be gay.As you know our society is nothing but a joke on us.They won't let others live happily.Don't seek the advices as you know its free everywhere.plz go to some doctor and they would better know about it.I am not sure if there is any solution to this problem.But nothing wrong in trying.And if it doesn't work let him live his life,it will just make it worse for him to cope up with and he might opt for wrong direction.Don't stress too much on this.Take care.

He needs psychiatric counselling and the support of your family to come out of this issue. I hope you people understand this is a psychological illness and he can get out of it. Its quite possible, don't lose hope!!!!!

He needs psychiatric counselling and the support of your family to come out of this issue. I hope you people understand this is a psychological illness and he can get out of it. Its quite possible, don't lose hope!!!!!

He needs psychiatric counselling and the support of your family to come out of this issue. I hope you people understand this is a psychological illness and he can get out of it. Its quite possible, don't lose hope!!!!!

Hi Piyali,



I too think that a Psychiatric counselling will go a long way. Also introduce him to as many of your friends, preferably girls.

dear piyali,



i think ur bro need psychiatric take him to any good doctor hope that will help u bettre

Why not introduce him to a couple of handsome guys.

Maybe a couple of guys who rejected your hand in marriage!

Becoming Gay is not new problem.Consult phsycatist and after few sittings he can be cured. Before he comes out of this phobia. do not talk about marriage.

Becoming Gay is not new problem.Consult phsycatist and after few sittings he can be cured. Before he comes out of this phobia. do not talk about marriage.

Dear Piyali,

Is he your real brother,then how the family has been in dark for such a long time and cold not come to a conclusion about his verginity.Since now your family has known the fact,it is better to consult some senior physician or put your problem in BOROHEALTH ,where some doctor may suggest you better about treatment if any and to deal with the boy further.Donot insist for marriage and keep him busy in some work so that he may lead his own life.Even if any proposal for girl comes to your family,please tell them clearly about the status so that atleast the girl life is saved .Hope you will agree to it and acknowledge.

you all should try to convince him, and show him about the feminine side of nature! may be some erotica, love, care, or even sex(with a girl) can change his mind! as you know it's all in the mind only.

dimaak ka pro. hota hai yeh...try if he can fall in love with a girl

He is not alone, there are lot of gay people in the world and it is not a big deal. He don't want to marry don't force him. Todays world marriage is not everything. I know many people in my friends circle who are not inerested to get marry by their own choice. Besides this gay or normal, marriage is very dangerous for indian man. What surety the girl coming to your house not file all the draconian laws like ipc498a, d.v etc against your family. If he is not marrying it will be good for him and your family.

dont try to change him coz its a emotional issue not a physical disability. he's the same guy as before, dont make any rubbish thinking in ur mind. let him live his life.

Itz his choice 2 b gay...u cant do nethng bout it...Tryn 2 change him wl be of no use...Jus leave d marriage topic 4 a while...Keep a close watch on him and his whereabouts for a while...See whether ne chngs occur on him in course of time...

MEET THEM TOGATHER & CONVEYANCE THEM FOR THEIR FUTURE .I THINK ITS NOT A BIG DEAL.IF ANY ONE OF THEM CAN UNDERSTAND THE FUTURESTIC FACTS & READY TO MERRY TO A GIRL ,YOUR PROBLEM WILL SHORTED OUT.AND ALSO TRY TO KNOW ,ARE THEY DONT'T LIKE GIRLS & WHY?

keep him in all girls company for at least 60 days

It's what he likes. Just mind your own business, live your life, and act the same around him.

There's nothing you can do. Physically and scientifically it should be only man and woman. We are physically made that way.but your brother has chosen the wrong way!!

Definitely love him and be there for him, more so now than ever.