I have a sister who is 1 year younger to me. Recently my parents have been comparing us in everything we do whether it is the way we dress or our job. Even our boyfriends are being compared!

This is causing a lot of stress in my family especially between her and me. It has started ruining all relationships in my life.

I don’t think she will understand if I try to talk to her. Please suggest what I should do.

if its the parents comparing u both all the while then my dear ,its ur parents fault..u need to spk with dem not ur sister..

Why are you so desperate for the love and attention of your parents? In my not so humble opinion, your value should be based on what you feel about yourself, who you are, what you have accomplished, and where you are going...If you base you worth on what your sis hear from your parents, you are already doomed...if I were you, I'd consider reading a book called "total confidence"...or "feeling good" by dr burns...or "how to be happy no matter what"...all deal with this diminshed sense of self-worth you are obviously incapable of seeing and therefore, confronting!

you know the truth is ur parents feel insecured of loosing ur love for them in a long run , so they have opted for divide and rule , for them it does not matter if u both hate each other but love them and bring ur problems to them, and this will make they feel safe and secured . there is nothing thats going to change them except prayer, so call upon jesus he will give peace , i faced this very problem iwouldnt get sleep because i loved my mom n sis but they both wanted to ruine my happines so i alawys comme running to them , but now i am out by the grace of god

I Think a straightforward discussion with ur parents might not work here without hurting them.



When they do compare your boyfriends the next time around, casually ask ur parents if they would rate you superior if you exchanged boyfriends with your sister.



Once they understand that the world does not operate thus, it becomes easy to solve the issue.

Pl have family meeting and tell your parents that both u and ur sister are two separate individuals having different personality trait, IQ etc.They can not be same.

But u have to understand ur parents views also because they are the providers---They provider equal foof, education, and other resources at their best.It is natural they expect the same from both of you.I mean they want u equal not only in ur study and career but in other aspects of ur life.That what parents are. They are ur well wisher.

You have to be cool and understanding to make them understand.

All the best to you .

THE BEST WAY.. if you really mean what you just said above. Just stop your parents and refute them strongly and support your sister loud and clear when your parents or anyone for that matter undermine her infront of you.



JUST MAKE HER FEEL THAT "YOU DON'T LIKE GLORY THAT COMES WHEN IT TROUBLES HER"

sibling rivalry is normal also i have many friends (most of them girls oddly) who feel the same. The only thing that seems to work for them is to give there sister some space and make them feel better also u being the elder one you will have to make her feel easy.

comparison between both of you is normal but dont ever feel that you are not better then her. have confidence in your abilities



best of luck :)

if you have a doubt whether your sister might not understand you if you speak to her, move things through your sister's friend and try to get what she thinks and hope you can solve it

You are stupid if you cannot handle this much also. Just talk to your sister

Why are your parents doing this???

You are lucky you are sisters. It is so much worse when this happens between two brothers. It took me years to build back my bond with my brother after so much bitterness.



My advise would be to try and spend time with your sister. After sometime she will start warming up and you can tell her