I am in a long distance relationship for the past 18 months, everything was going fine. But off late, have started liking a guy in my office. We meet & talk so much everyday that i look forwrd to meet him next day.The more we talk the more i am getting attracted to him. He has filled the loneliness, am more happy and confident now but the only problem is how do i tell him (my long distance bf) that i want to discontinue with him. I don wanna hurt him. Pls suggest...

babe ask the new guy to perform oral sex on u.. if hes any good then u will know that u gotta dump the long distance guy.. coz a guy wid a good tongue can do wonders...true story

My Dear Anjali .Just want to know one thing this is not your love.. most is lust.cause love happens only once in life and next its just compromise with life to full fill loneliness or what ever.So dont you feel you are cheating both at a time.By the way if you want to continue with new one you should break with 1st one and there is no reason for you to break up.and as this way you can get another and do sex and then leave and again get another one and then and do like this. will it possible to do it for you ???? So you mean whom ever you will like you will love and whom you dislike you will throw ?? How can you do this kind of ? Are you a bitch or Pro****te

If you feel this , be honest and say every thing to him , he have all right to know truth . If he realy love you , he can understand your feelings , first time may be he feel hurt but later all things will be fine . I only wants to say love never sustains without truth .

If you feel this , be honest and say every thing to him , he have all right to know truth . If he realy love you , he can understand your feelings , first time may be he feel hurt but later all things will be fine . I only wants to say love never sustains without truth .

Anjali dear ask ur heart and not mind if u love this guy in ur office , though the heart is on the left its alawys right

Hi anjali , the guy u hav long distance relationship is not infront of u so its very rare chance to knw all things abt dat guy but the guy infront of u is whom u knw very well so better to go with office guy ..

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS CREATES DISTANCES ONLY

There is nothing wrong in what you are doing. It is more profitable to take what you can see than what you can't. Actually, you may not have the opportunity to judge the first guy as to what he is and what he could be. It is very often that you hear from the media of such relationships being dangerous as there are many sexual addicts and psychopaths that seek their victims by online contact. It has many a time occured in my country where young women of your age group have fallen victim fatally in the above circumstances. You must not be afraid to tell this guy that you have found a soulmate who has filled your life. Do thank him for being patient. understanding and kind. Change your mailing address. phone numbers etc and refrain from giving any further information on this new guy or of yourself. Good luck girl.. I wish you well.

anjali i think u think once again about your 1st relation then take decision

Anjali, don't feel much more, just u r doing as every girls does. when u will got bettter than your past...... u will choose new one and it will be happen again and again.

anjali..dont waste our time..as if you will do wat we say ..

tell me one things... what if your Long Distance BF Reads this thread???

Hi

Seriously i wonder if you were in serious relationship with the LDF. If so, you would have not come to this question.

Which brings us to the question ... first ask yourself do you love or want a relationship to be there, either one.

Remember if your LDF was in love/serious, his castle might break ! If u have decided, update your LDF now than later but make sure his castle doesn't break. Offer a friendship(without love) if he needs it.

True love does and cannot change. If it does, then it was just a friendship without the heart in it !

My quote: Love is like the "RAILS", they are always in parallel to each other, carrying the "TRAIN" of life.

If the "rails" break, the "train" derails !!!

Know your love before committing ... friendship can last without love, but love when blossomed can never close !



Good that you put the question here for some thinking before deciding.

well relationship never died if there is God between two true friends ..

Hi anjali..As u mentioned, you have a long distance relationship which is fine and smooth; you must have been involved emotionally.
Your second relationship as u indicated, is a work relationship, which normally happens at work place if the person concerned is on the same wave length.So first you have to think calmly and decide whether these two relationships are replaceable..?

Because the work relationship normally changes as the person change.
Anyways, i wish u good luck.Pl let me know afterwards; what happened.

hi anjali... i have been in a successful long distance relationship for 2 years.. my GF was in Australia for two years... she came down only twice with atleast 9 months gap... but the memories i still cherish... waiting for her one message, talking to her for 2 mins everyday (cuz the rates are high) had its own charm as it made her even more special. I was apprehensive in the beginning that it wouldnt work, but it did.. 18 months is a long time in LDR... i would suggest you measure the pros and cons, give ur mind sometime to decide upon who is the right guy... dont take an impulsive decision as you might lose both of them... if the LD BF is sincere and loyal to you, he deserves some more time from you. But over a period if you still feel that your office guy is the right one then theres is no point in continuing the LDR. It is natural that you like someone else who you meet everyday, but for all you know it is just a minor infatuation... Think and weigh all the pros and cons before taking a decision...

I will say first check this current relationship at the alter of long distance also. If he has been loyal to u frm last 18 month,where would u find this type of guy again. A hurriedly taken decision will pain a lot. BTW what is the guarantee that the guy u are roaming around is not with others after getting some distance..or even deserve u....

So think abut it a bit more &take d right decision. Best of luck.

Anjali recently i have a break up with my girl friend.( the reason she wants to go back to her ex)......its quiet painful......if your LD BF is loyal to you then I would suggest you not 2 leave him in pain........bcoz the prob i faced your new bf might face with the same prob......and in this way you will destroy three families all together..so dnt break your relation ship........

Hi Anjali. I had a friend of mine who was heart broken when his girl friend asked him for a break up. He lives with me in london and she works in chennai. If you can't keep your love to him for a few more months until you get married or something you will miss him forever. These kind of attractions are just a test to your love towards your distant lover. Win the test and you will be happy ever. If not always remember "what goes around comes around"..Your new love may get attracted to somebody else in future and may have to break up with you. which exactly happened with my friend's ex-girl friend in chennai. It was too late by the time she realised that she missed him forever.

and tomorrow if you come across a much more charming and interesting than this 'latest guy' then would you come back again on this platform to guide your "jumbled up life?" perhaps you don't have any creative hobbies or activities that you find 'fulfilled' when someone is there to talk with you? just find a absolutely free holiday/day for your ownself and sit down and think where your life is going and what way you would like it "to be?" topic for thinking is: ' will your happiness always depend upon "somebody else" through out your life?' what shifts every other day is not love, my dear. one certainly needs a strong and lasting partner for life who can fulfill the following to "some extents": ' love me little but love me long, love me till i would have gone'. just a warning : these kind of people don't know how to love from heart but they do by their head.

@Ashish; Life is full of uncertainties. Nothing is permanent! So stop assuming things no one has that much time to come and create stories... I trust such forums and so should you!

I think you should simply tell your boyfriend that you have found a new guy and have a few strong reasons to back your point. don't play any game with your love life.

btw.. Anjali Sharma, you posted a discussion on Nov 9, 2010 stating "My bf is not willing to have sex...?" http://www.itimes.com/groups/Our-Relatio nship-Issues/topic/My-bf-is-not-willing- to-have-sex_1



and nw you say your relationship is a long distance one for 18 months... Is this the same boy friend you are talking about?

I do understand your situation and which is quite natural. Only point I would like to make here is, you have to ask your self difference between 2 words A really Good Friend and Life Partner. I guess rest of the answers will come automatically ..... All the best :)

who forced the two of you to live apart?

i can understand ur problem...and it happens with so many people who r in long distance relation... bt i would suggest if ur LDbf is honest and caring to you...so u must go with him.... in a simple words put urself in place of him...if u love is true...and later u got to knw that just bcoz of a distance u r going with someone else...how u feel....??

k... Now tat u said, the new guy filled ur loneliness.. what I feel is that you were not into a relationship with either of the two guys. You are just into companionship. Just think over it, let your heart speak more than your mind now. The rest of your life would be happy.

it's very tough to keep up the love in a long distance relationship but i wud suggest that you should hang in there and wait for things to fall in place. dont take any decision in haste.