So with women's lib n all happening all over the place, what do feel about girls making the first move when it comes to relationships? Do you think it's okay for a girl to ask a guy out. Is that the way it should be? Write in & post your views.

I know nowaday that women can do the chasing but I'm an old fashion girl so I'd rather have the men do the chasing. All u have to do is be honest and tell them if they should keep it up or are they waisting their times and urs.

If a woman is head of office will she not issue the orders or will she be not taking administrative anitiative ! Why we are complicating the issue ! Regarding her own life and prioities we are expecting her to follow others suit.

what to ashamed of when u have true and genuine concern for the guy some one have to tell it is not a ego game if u caught in ego game than don't play a false one because if in love than it does not matter who is first and who is second it is just love don't bring in the ego factor yeah it's true that u can be hurt so what if u love from heart than be ready for any outcome don't expect it to be nice and cosy just jump it may be pleasure or a suicide who knows. That's love nothing is certain and that's the beauty don't ever jump with safety strings have faith in u but if u love truly from heart just jump for it

Hi @ supriya she is very correct why not girls first move if dey likes someone dey must infact if there is a affection nd liking from both side den anyone can express..thx supriya

Hey its perfectly fine if girls approach a guy first if she likes him she should do it before time goes away.. WHY SHOULD A GIRL FEEL ASHAMED OF EXPRESSING HER FEELINGS FOR A BOY FIRST? I personally believe in this and I would give you my own example:- I had a very severe liking for a boy in my 10th class and we were very helpful towards each other.. i never wanted to lose him so decided after a year gap to tell him that i liked him and wanted to be with him.. yes as all girls I am shy too so i wrote a letter to him asking for friendship directly and commitment indirectly through a physics book and a gift.. and he agreed to be my friend but not committed.. I left that thing with just friends with him.. n v still r friends committed to different ppl



Second time I had this feelings for a guy and though this time i didnt take any initiative the guy showed me some positive hints that he liked me.. and I still wasnt very sure if he really liked me or not.. we both liked each other unofficially i mean no one had proposed anyone, we both knew about each others feelings but to come up to some conclusion I took the initiative to propose him officially by giving him a lovely hand made written diary and god idols on his birthday.. he loved that gift so much and got very emotional.. we still like each other as we did 5 years back.. but yet to marry..





so u see I have fully utilised this wht u called as "equality in all things"

whats ur view on this?

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN ASKING OR MOVING FIRST BY THE GIRLS IF SHE IS IMPRESSED BY THE BOY AND HER HEART ALLOWS TO ASK A FRANK DESIRE OF LOVE WITH GUY

it should not matter friend.the important thing is that the magic of love should go on.

Let me bring some light ... Girls , as a matter of fact, are never shy , they just pretend to be . it is proved worldwide in the subject of Body Language, that women are just perfect when it comes faking, make it be orgasm or love . The brutal fact is , girls always make it a point to keep a loophole to run out of a relation or a situation . They have one sentence handy all the time... " YOU asked approached me 1st , YOU took me out , YOU made the 1st move for sex .... blah blah " See this is what i mean to say . If girls are so fcukin irate over a guy , just for the reason that he made the first move, what the fcuk where the girls doin when the guys kissed them for the first time ? If they were so against it , why didn't they call the Police and file a complaint of sexual harassment ? ARE THE GIRLS IN DEEP SLUMBER WHEN GUYS " MADE:" THE 1ST MOVE , MAY IT BE FOR A DATE OR FOR A SEX ?

ALL YOU FREAKING GIRLS (WHO THINK IN THIS WAY OF KEEPING A LOOPHOLE) THINK OVER THIS AND ANSWER THIS TO YOURSELF. WHAT THE HELL ON PLANET EARTH WHERE YOU UPTO WHILE GETTING DRESSED FOR THE 1ST DATE ? WHAT THE FREAK WHERE YOU UPTO WHEN THE GUY MADE THE 1ST MOVE TO HOLD YOU TIGHT AND KISS YOU ? WHAT WAS GOING ON IN YOUR MIND WHILE YOU RODE PILLION , HOLDING THE GUY SO TIGHT THAT EVEN THE SLIGHTEST OF SIR COULDN'T PASS ?
DO YOU GIRLS HAVE A DAMN SMALL justification FOR THESE BOLD LETTERS ? TRY TO APPROACH A GUY AND JUST EXPERIENCE HOW IT FEELS WHEN SOMEONE rejects YOU ON YOUR FACE .... THEN YOU MIGHT UNDERSTAND WHAT IT TAKES TO BE " A MAN " .... AND STOP SAYING THAT FREAKIN " WOMENS RIGHTS AND EQUALITIES " AND ALL THAT CRAP

first move...i guess women r alwez d ones to make first move.........esp in moving out of the relatioships....

What you mean by asking out. If you fall in love with some and want to marry him, yes you can ask.



If you are interested in some one and want to know him more and take a decision and want to ask to go out with him for dinner yes you can.



But if you are thinking about dating and which you intensionally want to end in bed as for some time relationship then I say no..or atleast thinking morally before doing it.

halleluuiah !!! its ABOUT TIME somebody brought this up... seriously ladies, u fight for equal rights everywhere...and you even GET it... so tell me, what holds you back from approaching a guy? whats with the ego and pride and all that rubbish. we guys hv been making that move for centuries, f-words, slaps, rudeness, nose-in-the-air, drinks on our head - nothing puts us off. but it would still be great if we could take a break from that 'responsibility' for atleast a little while ! THANK YOU!!!

i don think thr is anything wrong in gal making first move that too in todays world . i feel men r also hessitant wen time comes to express their love n scared if she says no . gals r very good at replying we can be still good friends

Men should just shed their inhibitions & not be scared! Many a time, they can lose out on something great, just b'coz they never asked & the girl kept waiting, but wasn't planning on asking anyway (since it's just something she doesn't do)!

I don't like the idea of women making the first move. It's nice when the man gets to do the chasing, the wooing. It's more interesting that way.

I'm just kind of conventional about this a little. Maybe because a woman may be sure in her heart about something, but is a little shy or afraid of asking. Maybe it's got to do with one's vulnerability. B'coz by asking you put yourself at risk & there can always be a 'no'!

Well, different people think about this differently. Actually, there really is no problem with who should make the first move. It shouldn't matter. But it really depends on the people involved - how comfortable they are with the idea.