My wife is a case of what you call workaholic, she puts her work on top of everything be it me or my family or our kid for that matter. I often go out and attend our family gatherings and functions without her and needless to say its very embarassing and frusterating at times and now taht I am fed up of her attitude i want to give one last try to our relationship for the sake of my child, since I am ok n can understand work pressure in pvt sector but a 18mth old kid can't so guys anyone here can give me some sensible practical advioce?

Hi Varun, It very pain full to know about your relationship issue, but it seem to understanding issue, although I am not aware complete situation about you, but after went through your writing, I feel somewhere your wife also feel alone, the family gathering and functions is not more than important in comparison of marriage relation,if you really love with your wife along with your sweet child, don’t thing about the last chance to save to marriage, think or take it as it is being to understand and to successful of your marriage life, try to more speak with her, give more attention and love rather than previously you given, try to get her more attention toward your love and care, give more respect your relationship with full of fun, maybe she is a very good professional personality, but you one of who is able realize her a good family person also………..I don’t about your profession and your wife profession if

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It is matter of having comparable frequencies in thought and action. Couples who have common aims and ambitions can before and/or after marriage, arrive at a positive line of action beneficial for both......But then marriage should be taken as a pleasant fulfillment of the aspirations of both..It should not be taken as a half hearted attempt to feel "normal" with no feeling of pleasure affecting the body and mind...... So Varun if you two have not exhausted the positive attitudes that you had in the beginning of your married life, please do something to rejuvanate them and have a peaceful understanding talk. Where there is a will there is a way.....they say.

In the previous topic where u referred her as ur gf, it seemed she was not giving you space and u r chocking and here you are crying because she doesn't give time.

Even in last post you referred her as attention grabber then how come she don't want to join you in social gatherings, where she can get max attention.

How can a person have so contradictory nature at once??

Either you are totally confused about her or yourself or may be you are discussing your wife and gfs problem in the same group :P

If you have a kaam-waali, I think you should involve her in this...give some attention. When your evil-half finds out, you can explain that you were a rebel. Just say "since you demand more attention, I'll give you less of it"



Then she will learn her lesson and give you all her attention to take your mind off the kaamwali !

Well, in many other countries, men can spend more time taking care of babies and do house work if wives are busy with work. Why you cannot .... ?

hai friend the type of situation you are faceing will be their if both are working. to avoid donot send your wife to work so she can take care of your child and she will get time to attend your relative funtions. one thing you must know that noe your wife also going for work to have better living for your family, so do not think for spliting or any other thing. befor making any dicession you both site and talk freely.

first try to understand your wife and her problems too.

make her a special dinner, sit down with her and voice all your problems.

dude ... before you self contradict that she is a workaholic , you have a repeat check on your married life . I do not intend to make you doubt your spouse, however the chances cannot be ignored either . Its often mis-interpreted by men , that their girl/wife is too busy in work , which on the other hand could be true as well ! I suggest you have a look at yourself too . It could even be something about YOU that she needs to avoid !

Ground Rule -( Murphy's Law ) !! Anything that can go wrong will go wrong. !!

tell ur wife to quit the job as ur earning well enough (i hope so) so she need not work so much to earn money.. why is she working for ? money? then u need to manage some for her... tell her to pay attention to her kid coz its the kid of both of u not alone u or alone her... 18 month is very small kid.. so tell her take a break frm job.. n sit at home.. this is the practical advice i can give u... n its not difficult for any female to give up her job for her kid... she will understand.. n if she says she neeeds to b independent n all... then tell her tht she can get back to work after ur kid is a lil bigger in age n goes to school/nursery... this is a better choice... hope this helps...

strange thing.. is ur wife how come she can have extreme nature? attention seeker as well as workoholic.. very weird.. can u xplain abt her extreme behaviour?

Extramarital affair will revive your marriage instantly. Plus you have enjoy two women ...

tis better if you both go on a long holiday and discuss, problems will vanish when there is a true love towards each other ,try to explain human relations shld be given high priority when compared with work ,if you cant explain properly ,then you are not serious and looking for a chance to get out of wedlock for some other unexplainable reasons ,i'm sorry if my words are offending

She might be working hard to secure your family's future financially. You just need to develop strong bond with her & things will change.

Assessing from your post, and some replies...here's what you need to do

1. find your pleasure [apna haat jagannaath se kitne din kaam chalega] outside

2. get a babysitter for your kid

3. HAVE FUN

4. Repeat step 3 as often as required



better still if your entertainment/pleasure and sitter coincide (i.e. is the same)...that'd be awesome !

Varun I guess you need to analyse situation in depth as not only you but your child’s life is also depend on it, 1st you should understand the resone for this extreme mood swing like when she wanted you that time you were not there so she might have decided to get self away for you so that she become emotionally independent of you. This can explain like when you want some thing very badly but when you wont get it after so may try then you loose interest in it. 2ndly you need to change your self also make her understand that family is much more important than work and its main part of life. Give her time and emotional support, you can not draw a conclusion just only because she is accompanying you for family function there may some hidden resone like some one might have hurt her and she didn’t want to go face to face with that person. There is one more possibility that really her work is important like some deadline or some promotional work etc which need to be done so she may not be able to give time though she wanted to do so.

In any relation for successes you need to have communication and adaptability you cant sustain a relation ship by giving a ultimatum like THIS IS A LAST CHANCE.

Do some retrospection you will get way and success….

Well i kind of agree with Vaarun, deal with women and you will get to know their mood swings, they can be attention hungry also at the same time workaholic, it happens sometimes, And when you come to think of it, its only when they are too busy , they think their husbands or bf don't care for them or give them attention.. Just be brave Vaarun

@Vaarun then in this case I can only say one thing taht either you are lying or your wife is mad who craves for attention and after few mths has suddenly become a workaholic.

My girl is attention hungry 24/7!!!!!!!! , this was ur problem in july , how come u got 18 month old kid in months?