One of the most difficult matters to confront with respect to family relationships is that you don’t control the entire relationship yourself. Whether the relationship thrives or withers isn’t up to you alone. As the saying goes, it takes two to tango.

When major family relationship problems are encountered, it’s common to attempt a control strategy. You try to get the other person to change. Sometimes this approach works, especially if your request and the other person are both reasonable. But many times it just leads to frustration.

On the other hand, if you can’t change the other person, maybe you should just accept them as they are. That’s another strategy that sometimes works, but this one can also lead to frustration and even resentment if your needs aren’t being met.

hi friend your think absolutly right

in some case we can not do anything

family member ko motivate karna bahut tuff hai

iska bahut bada factor generation gap hai

As your topic is on family relations and so I will talk on that as per my own experience and the problems seen in families known to me in depth. The problems are categorised as per the educational, economical, social and spiritual standards. If all these parameters are alright in all the family members then generally no problem. When these parameters differ in family individuals the confrontation starts. Now the genious elements try do to the best and it should have been regarded and followed by others. But few try to exploit for selfishness or to dominate others, then the trials of genious becomes unfruitful and frustration starts. I feel that in such case family is divided or if it is between husband and wife the happiness disappears and the family continues like a heavily loaded cart creeping on semi broken wheels.

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Hi Nupur,

I think we often try to "control", the other person which gives resons to make matters worse. in any family related problems, trust should be the first to be reinforced. people will not speak their minds out if they dont trust the listener. when truth is spoken any problem will get resolved in due course. "open hearted dialog" is the right way to find an amicable solution. no use in changing the other person and if he feels is is forcefully coerced into getting changed. thats will not be a lasting solution.

I already accept that things in ur disscusion!

Hi Nupur! UR Experience is very good but at where still that i don't know! But I already suffered from what u explain or mentioned.

Nupur how well u defined the Relationship Problems, Thx a lot to u....... keep it up

well truly said but have you ever wondered why does the problems starts in first place? its because the family member or the elders feel that v r intruding into their closely guarded space.............when ever you try to uproot your parents from their land problems start.......they are happy to stay in a shabby village rather move to a good and well organised city becoz for them their heart lies in that house..same goes with siblings......you disagree with them........you intrude into their space and problem starts.........to best way out is to avoid an altercation......rightly said by a poet

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