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Girish Ingale Everything in life is important, important things are simple, simple things are never easy. Think about it, complete the circle ! However,.. more
Kareen Sawlani You see my friend, if Bharat loves Ananya so much, he could die for her. My God, what more does Ananya want? Karan is just a lust, maybe it started i.. more
Topic owner: Supriya T Jagtap:
Hello friends, another topic for discussion, what should be done if a person say Ananya married to a person say Bharat but due to some wrong misunderstandings and preassumptions person Bharat constantly doubts person Ananya, doubts in terms of her small small moves, like checking personal sms to calls to her balance accounts and all, its pathetic for person Ananya to take this doubt full life anymore, she is not leading a happy life but she pretends as if she is very happy in her relationship and her hubby is a perfect partner though he is not.. he has done many sacrifices for her previously, equally she has also done lots of things for him, but somehow now the thing is not clicking between them, she is just messed up with her work and her personal life too much that now she has started developing feelings for her frnd Karan, her frnd likes her alot n she too knows it tht Karan loves Ananya but Bharat loves Ananya above everything and can even die for her. This is the main problem, Ananya cant get rid of the possessiveness and doubts of Bharat neither she can leave Bharat coz she loves Bharat but she is getting these weird feelings for Karan too.. but she wont commit to Karan coz Karan is of different religion and its whole complicated game.. am very confused what to advice this person Ananya?? Hope you would have understood the main problem, and i do not expect lectures to be given about faithfulness and loyality and all, i just want to know the solution and ways to handle this problem please its a request..
Abhay Gupta
supriyaji
your brain is quite fertile, thanks for posting numerous topics on relationship, which tells ur in depth thoughts on subject and eagerness to acquire lot of knowledge ...keep it up..good luck..i always respects both parts of coin..coz without equlibrium nothing works in the nature..again good luck and good day
Vivek Govila
HI Supriya, The situation is indeed complex. I would suggest that Bharat and Ananya should sit in a relaxed manner and openly discuss all issues amongst themselves (involve both families later if talks amongst them fail). All possible actions should be taken to remove the differences in the minds of two characters.
If situation only deteorates then yes divorce is the only alternative and only then Karan should come into the picture.
Abhay Gupta
PLESE CHECK KI CHOTI-CHOTI BAATON SE MILANEWALI KHUSHION KO ,KISI BADEE KHUSHI KE INTJAAR ME CHOR TO NAI RAHE
Abhay Gupta
when love and care reaches to a critical point then it takes shape of doubt and such type of beahviour,at one side excesive care i.e. passesivness is thr in bharat and on second side annanya may b tacking some things as get_it_granted.very thin line in between them is causing problem, but these thin lines effects drastically,,we generally forgets females have to loved and males have to be understood,but we do reverse.tacking care of minor things by both husband and wife will solve the problem.BADEE BADEE KHUSHOYAN HAIN CHOTI-CHOTI BAATON ME
Ravinder Rattan
just getaway from both for clear solution and clear thinking to be alone and with urself than listen to ur heart what it says and analyse the relation with bharat and karan both may be one is the problem and another is also a another big problem in waiting hence give sufficent time to urself away from both to know what is expected ,how much u tolerate,what u want from ur life,to what extent u can cooperate,and ans will be clear from ur heart
Rum Peekay
Hey Supriya, I feel there is nothing wrong in anaya playing a double game both keeping her dying love forever & carry on with the new found love & see where it goes. Yeah, really I mean it. Pl. give it a try & see..........
Ratnasekhar Bhatta..
suspicion is always suffocating. well wishers must convince them to undergo councelling.
Manish Garg
Hi Supriya .. i can only give a suggestion that .. claps sounds not from single hand .. if they want to live happily in their marriage life .. they both need to give time to this relationship. These situation arise bcuz couples will not able to give proper time after marriage as they give b4 marriages. And time relaly matter in a relationship. I suggest both ananya to speak with bharat regarding his insecurity and both have to give proper time if they want to take forward their relationship.
One more suggestion , i like to give ananya is to casual frnship with other's male frnd is fine .. it's indian culture and here husband never accept her wife relations or talk more with other male partner's .. i know it's wrong but we never change 100 yrs of belief of man -mind.
Last not least .. just pay attention to bharat and proper time to him and it's not from ananya ..it's also applied to bahart too..
Avs Avs
Ananya loves bharat so no point in leaving bharat & going for karan. Else later she may leave karan & go for someone else. I feel she is very lucky to have bharat who loves her so much & thats the reason he is possessive. Ananya should build trust in bharat & doubting will go automatically.
Whiskay Peekay
How about trying a theresome..they all cqn have plenty of fun that way...play out roles from b-rated movies
Whiskay Peekay
Hey ...Rum is a awful drink, dulls the mind ...have some of my whikaaay !! Smarter ideas may start flowing to you too........
But maybe not...one needs to be blessed with an original mind...and judging from your profile and pic...you seem disadvantaged !!
HEHEHEHEHE... shall I pour you some whiskay then ?
Rum Peekay
Awesome boy ! where the heck did you come out with such idea my boy !
Whiskay Peekay
Jagtap, this is a classic case of plagiarism [look up the word at www.dictionary.com]. Your scenario is akin to a either a cheap afternoon soap-opera or a problem from "anat" section of a cheap GRE book.
Person A cannot sit next to Person B, Person C is allergic to A, and B wants to sit in D's lap but D is gay and has feelings for A.... I can go on ranting like this till I construct an impossible scenario.
What sort of a name did you pick .... " Ananya" Where the heck did you come up with that ?
My advice is ..one should have sex [and/or a few glasses of whiskay] at every chance one gets, because they are far and few!!
Rum Peekay
Yeah supriya, listen to this educated big JERK asshole. Sound advice dude..........you do the same in situations, laughing stock advice maan :)
Rohit Gupta
hey supriya say to ananya that this problem is normal for any married couple . he got wrng information about you. and now he is doubting on u . nd because of his behaviour u get stessed . nd ur attraction is move to ur frds karan because u want to forget the problm related to ur husband nd want to a happily moment so it is only a attracion with karan . u have to talk to u husband that i am not with any one nd i love u most in the world . bt if u go with kran then the doubt of ur husband will confirm . nd in whole life he will never believe u or any other nd he eill make his life like a hell . so plz talk to him properlly beause it is stress of work nothing else share more time with him go for the vaccation like goa or rohtang .....plz if u think i am right the write me at rohit1288@gmail.com or call 9953131312
Gopala Chintakindi
Simple.. if she wants to walk away from marriage ask Ananya to start with Karan.. but if she really loves Bharat then she must talk with him and show him her love..it is wat Ananya needs that uis important...and please donot say to remove loyality and those things.. because since without them there is no discussion at all.. as if you want to hear what u want to hear from others so that they can say waht u wanna hear
Sunny Siddiqui
Okk supriya.. if its a real situation.. guess we have to take it really seriouslyy... listen.. wat i suggest is.. She shud not hurry in taking the next step.. wat nature of issues she is suffering at the hands of bharat.. if he is a violent person, like he beats her, or abuses her or gets physical, and then becomes normal and claims he loves her, THEN I THINK SHE SHUD NOT BUY THIS SHIT FROM BHARAT AT ALL and initiate proceedings to discuss the life ahead - WIDOUT bharat!!!
But is the situation is such that Bharat and ananya share differences which are more trivial.. or maybe aise jinko discuss karke. pyaar se counselling karke suljhaya jaa sakta hai then she shud attempt her best before givign up.. itna waqt saath guzaara hai.. itna pyaar diya hai dono ne ek dusre ko ek waqt mein, to ab bhi jaldbaazi ka faisla ghalat hoga, i think..
About Karan, I think its not right for ananya to marry him.. right now it wud appear that the situation wud be normal .. but in india its a biggg problem for inter-religion marriages to succeed.. so my STRONG advise is.. even she has to seperate.. she shud not marry karan.. or else ppl will also feel she divorced bharat bcoz she wa shaving an affair wid karan and the whole story will paint ananya as the victimizer rather than the victim.. hope u got my point.. Karan can continue as a friend.. but she shud tell karan not to get too ambitious and dat she is only in a platonic relationship wid him and needs time..
This way.. i think she can move forward.. if any more advie needed u can send me a private msg, we can see wat options are available. fine?
Whiskay Peekay
Are you seriously attempting to answer this stupid B.S. ?
Sunny Siddiqui
Hmmmmmmmm.... yaar ab kuch to solution nikalna padega na.. i both are loyal to each other then the question of breaking up doesn't ariseee.... they just had sum doubts and now both have clarified..so they shud plan a long holiday, WIDOUT ANY INTERFERENCE WID HTE EXTENDED FAMILIES .. even they shudnt take calls also.. just the 2 of them together in sum romantic place.. and there they clarify all doubts, wid a cooool coooooll head (warna wahan bhi lad lenge) and then hopefull they will retake the pledge of togetherness till eterntityyy and stay happily ever after!!!
:-)
Supriya T Jagtap
yes she tried confronting him too, but she found tht Bharat is totally loyal to her.. and m sure bharat is not cheating her but its just tht he is over over posessive abt her whch is making her feel suffocating and ruining their relationshp..
Sunny Siddiqui
hmmmm.. okkk.. is case mein ek baat ho sakti hai bas.. bharat is not faithful to ananya himself... i can bet on dat!!! either he has been unfaithful secretly in the pat.. or he is unfaithul rght now.. samjhiii.. so tell her to confront him instead.. offence is the ebst part of defence!
if he objects, then ananya shud tell that idiot, now u realise how i feel wen u ask me????
Supriya T Jagtap
yes agreed Ali.. wht u said is perfectly fine.. ok she wont maary karan.. rather she wud remove his thots but how are the issues of bharat n ananya going to be solved? i really doubt.. bharat is not violent.. he doesnt beat her up.. he is very calm.. but his doubts annoy ananya coz when a girl is doign nothing i mean when she is purely in love wid bharat n bharat is doubting her only for having affair doubts wid someone else.. how wud she feel? i knw wht she must b going thru.. so its not easy tht the probs can be solved.. n she neither cant breakup.. so any more suggestions?
Girish Ingale
Everything in life is important, important things are simple, simple things are never easy.
Think about it, complete the circle !
However, "every step taken to solve a certain problem , will not actually solve it , but maximize the chances making the problem more critical ! " - Murphy's Law
Rum Peekay
Hey supriya, Whiskey peekay is a big asshole JERK on itimes. He has no other sound work except to intervene in other's affairs. Mind it I just cant believe you made friends with such a JERK on itimes !
Girish Ingale
take it light Supriya .. chill out ... it happens
Supriya T Jagtap
Abbbbeeeee whiskay, u mind ur own business na.. who the hell are u to interfere..
Whiskay Peekay
to that I say .... "the butterfly effect"....each option you choose has consequence. Stop being an idiot Ingale and get on with more important things rather than discussing who "Ananya" should sleep with.
Leave that to a pragmatist like, yours truly !
Girish Ingale
EMA means - Extra Martial Affairs.
And, as you say Supriya, that having male friends is normal to which i agree, however, it even depends on the male:female friends ratio ! If she has more of male friends compared to female friends, it is very much obvious for any man to doubt her loyalty. As you may know that "1st impression is the last impression" , its quite difficult for a female to get that impression diminished .
On the humanity part , i would suggest a strict NO for EMA's , as they will only help her lose her character. Trust me ! As a helpful tip , i would suggest her to SHUT DOWN all of her social networking sites , e.g. orkut ,facebbok, linkedin,itimes,etc. and make her husband aware of her shutting down her social network. Later on she could even spend some time talking to him in very polite and understanding manner about the issue. Remember, if she is not polite , she will only make the matter more critical .
And ha, all men are possessive, its in our DNA. You(women) actually cannot help it vanish , but could help it in being concentrative.No man will be cheap enough to tolerate her wife/girl going around with other man. Vishwas ke samundar mein shakk ki ek chingarri girne se sar kinara jal sakte hai !
Supriya T Jagtap
also tell me does EMA means Emotional Mental Attyachar???
Supriya T Jagtap
yeh i agree to wht u said Girish, yes previously in the past Ananya had many male frnds.. but just frnds and she is a social animal so likes being updated on orkut and fb.. but this created an impression of a girl whch just wants more boys in her life in front of Bharat, though after he proposed her and they married, she stopped talking all her male frnds and no networking and all,but the image of old ananya is still present which I feel is not wrong on ananya's part coz normally even we do netwroking and we too do have normal male/female frnds so it shud not be a big deal.. she left everythng for him but still he is doubting her for things she is not doing.. now what would u suggest?? Would be waiting for ur reply Girish..
Regards
Supriya
Girish Ingale
its a dicey situation actually , hence as everybody knows EMA will not help , but make the matter more worse ! As you say , her husband loves her beyond limits , she should speak to him , directly , about the issue. However, what comes to my mind 1st is , if he(her husband ) loves her so much , then why would he be skeptic about her freedom . It could even be something which she might have done in the past . As you know , every human being has got something or the other to hide !
Supriya T Jagtap
true but how is murphy's law suppose to be implemented Girish practically?? any suggestions??
Prem Nath
Wonderful lines - U can’t hug urself?, U can’t cry on ur own shoulder. LIFE is all about living 4 One – Another, So live wit those who LOVE u most!
Kareen Sawlani
You see my friend, if Bharat loves Ananya so much, he could die for her. My God, what more does Ananya want? Karan is just a lust, maybe it started in her time of ovulation, that time most women is likely to cheat on their spouses. so I beg you to tell Ananya, pls speak to Bharat about the issues and concerns she has. Take Bharat to dinner, let him feel special, tell Bharat what she desires fro him, theyll find their way back to each other.
Rum Peekay
This guy Whiskay peekay is sick & paranoid Kareen & supriya. I mean PARANOID SCHIZO, utmost INSANE type........pl. be aware guys & gals not to entertain this guy.
Whiskay Peekay
Are you writing some sick romance novel Jagtap? To each question, you seem to be building up an apparent impasse,
Either you are schizophrenic or you've just posted this for the heck of it
[schizophrenic is pronunced Skit-zo-fre-nick and not she-zo-fre-nick ...just being habitually considerate]
Supriya T Jagtap
Nopes Kareen.. am sure Bharat is not having any affair... its just that he is over over possessive about her so doubts her which is killing their relationshp and she is not getting sufficient space to breathe in...
Kareen Sawlani
I feel Bharat is having an affair.thing called reverse psychology, thats what Bharat is doing. Ananya should ignore him completely for a week or more if she can
Supriya T Jagtap
okk thanks Kareen.. i will tell ananya about her attraction towards karan.. but issues between bharat n her are hard to be solved... she tried taking him to dinners n talking it out.. but each time no solution to this problem... whch bothers her
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Supriya T Jagtap
thanks but not required... plz dont interrupt
Shikha Srivastav
Hi to be honest, Ananya will never be happy with Bharat, because of doubts enter a relationship they always leave a crack no matter what. And as regards to Karan, i think its just a rebound or infatuation coz she is unhappy in her personal life so she finds solace in him. For now she can try and talk to Bharat or else she should quit the relationship
Supriya T Jagtap
okk thanks shikha. i find ur advice worth taking note of...
Meghdut Guha
Supriya,
Just simple answer- from my side:
She should live where she thinks she will be happy and leave the place- where she is shattered.
Love is above all- cast, status, religion......why she should bother about the world and the people ? She should start a anew life and get back to her own identity
Supriya T Jagtap
true but she cant.. due to her family n parents..
Tommy Sampras
she has to win her heart and trust .mens are usually insecure so she should try to adjust because he wont adjust
Whiskay Peekay
Jagtap, if you know the answer, why pose the question?
Supriya T Jagtap
i dotn agree.. why is it that always females have to adjust for no mistake... Bharat shud stop doubting i feel
Sunny Siddiqui
okkkkkkkkkkkkkk... hmmm.. now lets seee what we have here....
ek query.. is it a real situation???
Rum Peekay
Hey Siddiqui, this Whiskay peekay is much a bigger IDIOT, pl. mind it.
Whiskay Peekay
are you an idiot Siddiqui ?... if you want to see "what we have here", why don't you just read what Mrs Freud has posted above?
And yes, it is a real situation..............from a soap opera [read my response above]
Supriya T Jagtap
yes its a real situation...
Sinni Sin
Divorce and live happily ever after...
oops...srry...quiet got illiterate n lazy after reading two lines...:)
Rum Peekay
@Whiskay Peekay, ha ha ha.......what a laughing stock you are a Big ASSHOLE JERK really..........that's funny dude.
Whiskay Peekay
Yes, she cannot marry because Karan has gas and leaves the house reeking from his indigestion
Sunny Siddiqui
sinni sin.. i dnt think its so easy to divorce and LIVE HAPPILYYYY???
Supriya T Jagtap
divorce but she cant marry Karan.. coz of diverse religions... n she cant leave Bharat.. so its not the solution
