ok Girish..

@Saurabh..i liked your post buddy.. thats what I want to say.. every men on internet who sends a gal message or mail is not looking to get that gal into bed.. thats what i was trying to say.. some gals take it seriously and too such an extent instead of being a friend to that gal it is better to feel that this gal doesnot even exist in this world.. i also agree with double standards of indian gals..i accept it.. but just personally feel that you made some personal remarks that may affect gals .. that i cannot accept.. but i greatly appreciate what ever you said..keep posting

hats off buddy ... i liked the way you have criticized the female race... admirable ! i however disagree with the 1st paragraph .... the rest is true or rather SHOULD be true !

Indian Women ARE double standards ... pretending to be the genuine doodh ki dhuli sati savitri kinda woman ... this is called real bitch-ism ! i must say .... great going

I hate women with such DOUBLE STANDARDS !!

thats ur thinking saurabh which i totally disagree with.. not all men come on net for checking out females for sex in night.. its only a part of men who actually do that.. u must not be doing like those men that does not mean at al that MEN are very very pure and females are impure or just showing off to the world that they are pure.. its absolutely wrong... "Its this so called well educated modern women of India who are fond of showin How modern they are using social networking and chat rooms but still so pure n decent being committed to a man of their dreams like Pativrata n loyal woman.." those women dont pretend anything,,, they just come to be in touch with their frnds whom they know personally.. then why the hell men who have no work irritate such females by messaging them.. n having hidden intentions behind their frdship? m not saying females are 100% correct and men 100% wrong but neither are men so innocent like the way u tried to portray men positively and women negatively... If females showoff then men also do showoff of their fake respect and feelings of frndship for females on internet when they themselves know the hiddden intention in being a frnd with the female on internet...
Hate such men with double intentions!!

@Esha.. I donot understand what made you turn from intellectual reply which is your below to such personal attacking one..

@Esha..thanks for your post..i guess a person who has self respect will always mind it.. you see i am not saying the gal who send me rules in first message and message is not at all bad and she has her valid reason... but taking every boy and every male on this planet to be bad and looking to get into her relationship is certainly too much...every male doesnot look for relationships online..certainly me not.. gals have to let it out.. but must let it out when it is needed but not in rash way.. and sorry to tell you.. if you want to talk abt personal choices and feelings i guess i am sorry i cannot continue further with discussion.. but if you have anything abt topic.. i greatly appreciate if you put your thoughts before all.i will be waiting for your comments.

@Aditya...thanks for your detailed reply.. i greatly appreciate it..

@Supriya : Well said, i guess now a days the same is coming in Mtv Love net a reality show, that portrays the kind of nonsense that is going on in net, we see both pros and cons....
@ Gopal : Also I would like to add, if they don't mention anything like engaged, married etc, the entire people falls on their net profile page, I have known a gal who forgot to mention that, she used to have chunks of requests in her ID & mail box, She was fed up and made her status as married, then things slowly recovered, sometimes it becomes very irritating....also guys take advantage at times, i don't mean all but they do, I have seen my friends posting some comments, they say kya hoga, net se bahar ake toh nahi maragi....so gals know that and they make precautions before...it is like safe than sorry....later

yes agreed
Gopala your are right on this!!

@Surpriyaji.. thanks very much for your detailed reply.. i greatly appreciate your time in posting such nice post.. i just want to put few points in front of you.. yes i accept with whatever you said.. you see one of the thing which i learned is not to reveal personal info online.. and among them status is one of thing.. and i am sure there are many gals who do that because of not they are actually into it.. but for some other reasons which is all together another topic..and abt telling a boy..abt your status when he asks to be friend and at same time more.. that is really good.. yes acceptable and for this I respect gal who ever bravely says so.. but my point is..you have to let it out when the boy asks more from you.. but not on the first mail or message.... even before the boy knows who you are, where you are from, and what you.. if you send rules that is little bit not good... atleast for me.. i will be waiting for your comments... i sincerely appreciate your comments and posts here

i disagree !

sahi jawaab hussain!! i liked ur view!!

@Hussain.. thanks for your post.. I welcome it and understand it..

very true..thats wat i wanted to let people know...

@Esha..well said .. Like supriyaji you also said straight answer and direct answer. I greatly appreciate it and welcome it. but just want to know do you think too much publicizing it in online in discussion boards and online blogs is it good?..just wanted to know your view..

absolutely agreed esha...

@Dinaz thanks for your comment. I appreciate it. I had an issue so just thought to discuss it with all. When I mailed a gal who I respected the first mail I got from here were rules and one among them is relationship. My discussion is why do gals feel that EVERYBOY who even say HI and HOW R U are waiting to get that gal in relationship. I just want to tell that yes in this cruel world gals must be careful and one way of doing is that status thing in profile. But why to boost it and publicize it at the starting itself...when times comes you can say it clearly, and respectfully.. when I saw that message it really felt bad and why that gal is treating everyone like that...that is my main point of discussion.

@Gupta..i welcome your post and agree with you.. the only problem which I have is when unmarried gal says that she is into relationship and tells epic stories abt her partner and their love like a bollywood story and among those relationships plenty donot even reach marriage and how come the gal who told bollywood stories before can marry a guy just like that and again love him .. i just cannot understand if you are in relationship that is good and respectable my questions are why to publicize it..boost it and feel that every guy who messages or mails them lurked to get her into relationship, Those things I want to ask gals straightly and only one gal gave straight answer..as usual the hard and direct topic gets off track..this is also getting off track.. this is double standards.. when we ask our indian society a hard question they off track it..

nice reply Girish

@Naveen..by the way I am talking abt ... is this good for every internet using gal in this big circus called EARTH to feel that everyboy who says hello wnats to get into relationship with her..i am talking abt the way the gal has to let her status out..when it is good and when it is bad and I 100% accept letting gals status out is always GOOD and SAFE..

I just forgot to check this discussion...so i guess i came very late....Let me put it in one line...watever be the reason for gals to SHOWOFF" there status..but putting status clearly is one gud thing....this is quite a help for guys to define there approach towards that girl. Like if a girl is already committed .... a genuine guy will not go above frnship......his approach towards her will be genuine frnship.....

Else...Flaunting is ok friends...let them do wat dey wish to....mindset change person to person..isn't it??
N thanks @Supriya and @Megha for backing me up....N supriya u were not wrong...

@Megha..thanks for your post and I welcome it. I guess some are not understanding the point of this discussion and they are taking off track. I am not talking abt what do most of guys have in mind and all those..I just want to know why people especially many gals publicize their relationship..like in profile pages under status and in mails and instant messages first thing they say is brag about their relationship.. i want to know why they do and I am sure that they have their valid reasons. Those reasons I want to know. Gals who publicize their relationships many donot reach marriage.. those details I want to discuss..

@Girish, plz clarify on "what is called as NON-DOUBLE STANDARD females who know their limits very well" i seriously cudnt understand wht u meant by it!!

@Megha, thanks for supportin my view

Hey Naveen, must say, thats a very valid and honest question you have asked, what you want to say is so true and @Supriya - is so very right in saying what she is saying

Supriya..yes i understand what Naveen said.. but this is not point of this discussion.. that we can have in other discussion

i aint sure about what you meant to say ! However, you might be an exception ! All of my female friends , who happen to be proper marathi's , openly say they are single and are looking for acquaintance . This , i guess what is called as NON-DOUBLE STANDARD females who know their limits very well ! ... the rest would be vice a versa...
Nothing personal.. just said what i believe...

Gopala, Naveen wants to say is I assume that most of the guys on internet are looking out for girls either to flirt or to have any online or personal relationships.. its in most of the cases.. this is why naveen asked what most of the guys have in their mind.. correct me if m wrong naveen...

Girish, I agree that not all boys are really into all these and not all men flaunt their relationship status or are insecure.. but generally if you see or if you ask any female frnds of urs.. the boys do check out girls not for frndship but for other reasons.. and females are not insecure but most females dont even try to check out if they can find boyfrnds or life partners on internet.. m talking in most cases.. there may be few female cases too.. correct me if m wrong on this again...

Nothing personal.. just said what i believe...

addition ! Are boys or men really into all these ? And why not do men flaunt their relationship status ? or is it that only females who are insecure publicize their relationship status !

First of all Naveen.. understand what is my discussion.. I am not talking abt why relationships..i am talking abt WHY PUBLICIZE and why most gals feel that everyboy who wants to be friend with them.. instant message them..email then will always wants to be in relationship with them.. i am talking abt why publicize online where it is atmost important to keep your private life as secrets..

i guess someone is missing a point here , friends .... read the comment once again !

thats ok Gopala, I appreciate and agree with what you said..

Surpiyaji..i welcome ur post and I am in agreement to most infact all of the points you raised.. just wanted to know what gals feel.. but just felt little awkward when recently i messaged a gal out of respect on one of the blog which she wrote and the first private message i got from her was a list of rules which to be frankly to say it was not nice on her point of view.. yes i accept most of the guys do what ever u said.. but u see this doesnot mean gals must over react.. sometimes i fell they do.. not every boy is like the boys abt whom you were talking abt..i guess gals must see the signals and tell the boy in right way not in RIGID way..abt the post it was from one of my friend whom I respect for her boldness and her positive attitude.. sorry to say i cannot reveal more than this..