I am shocked, have caught my 12 year old reading a porn magazine, I didn't know how to react, so my first reaction was to slap him. How should I deal with the situation, I am really tensed?

Hello Garima, first you have to come to terms with the fact that your child is growing up and not a kid anymore. Have your husband have a chat with him about sex . Just relax

and let go of the topic.

Hello Garima, well ur child is having a natural change and getting into adolescence. Check with the counter part of his/her close friends too how are they interacting each other. Well if we try to be very strict they will feel parents as enemies to them. This tender age is highly energetic for construction or destruction only thing is try to be friendly with them. If need take a psychiatric sessions too. Well only thing is support him and spend some time with him. Becoz we are so busy with profession we forget we have family. Which is root cause all this problems.

according to the science biological change in the body is already started, so attraction about sex is normal.

but giving good sex education to your son or daughter is your and yours husbands responsibility.

if you do not able to do that you can take your son or daughter to a councillor, who can educate your son or daughter about their physical change which already started and about sex.

if you left alone your son or daughter then he/she try to get knowledge from their friends, which can be dangerous for him/ her.

one thing should be remember ' koi bhi chese agar thik se sikhi jai o sirf profit e deta hai lucksan nehi deta'.

garima ji u should check what kind of porn he was reading,i wonder if is not up to reading incest porn,if it is so it will spoil his life and he will be mentally lost.

the parents should get a counselor to talk to the kid, definitly a experienced one. as it would be really awkward for parents to talk to their own child specially if its a boy. guide them , educate them , make them understand right and wrong ... its all hormones , its bound to get distracted if left alone , be with them , spend time with them , but not in a irritating way like "i am watching your every move, thats going to piss them off ", slapped already but dont show you`re pissed and make feel downgraded. dat is the last thing you wud want to do to your child. take him to a counselor , he`ll take care .... pray and hope your child recovers from this messy . check on his / her friends... coz it takes a lot to buy a porn mag at this age..

@Garima ji .. ignore it .... we have done the same but never caught ... I think its natural to attract in teenage.

I read the story and really shocked. But I think you should make him understand and tell him about the disadvantage of the porn magazines and pictures physically and mentally. One more important thing you should do if you are religious. Draw his consideration to the religion. I think religion is only one way in the world that can protect him from doing this type of activities. Otherwise there is no way to protect your boy form bad habit.

Do not slap him (If he has been watching porn for long time, he will not leave watching it because of you slap, but he will leave all the bad habits after getting tired.)

If you find my opinion beneficial for your son please follows it otherwise leave it.

(Please educate him about his religion that can teach him the way to avoid evils.)

@ Garima ji, nowadays atomsphere is realy bad, the people moveng around here & there they will never live without imagine about porne [pic. and it is frequently use televion program. hence if your son do look porne,, you can only educate his by love. otherwise punishing will bad effect to his, his is of 12 years i think he will more aware to TV and computer.

Dear Garima, You must know, Kids at twelve are more exposed than you were at 21. The problem must be dealt pschologically rather than going physical. Just consider how you with your husband were in front of him.

Garima. As several have said, this is bound to happen sooner or later. In my time, it used to happen a couple of years later, but it did happen, even with the most docile and conscientious and studious of boys. Today, porn is available everywhere, on the net, on cellphones, on movie posters...So it is inevitable that boys and girls will grow up faster than they used to. His birds and bees education has started. Just make sure you are part of it, and it stays within certain bounds. Good luck.

Garima! I feel you must talk to the youngster. Become his friend, a step more than being a mother. If you want, we can talk. Please leave your e-mail address on my profile.

It generally happens one day or the other. Kids are open to all kind of influences through media (printed or otherwise). Easy availability and hormonal curiosity makes them go ahead. Instead of slapping or scolding, it's important to make him understand that most of "porn magazines" are all about hype and the real world is far from what is portrayed in them. Mention that there are phases in life where these things seem provocative and vital but they are not. Even after doing that, it's of no guarantee that he shall leave porn, but surely, he will start getting more sensible and will love you more!

No worries..most of the guys in their early teens would have done this.you really cant avoid your kid from all these however, you can counsel them and make them understand that it is to early for your kid for all these..

the more u tel thm not 2 do thy wud do more... rather than tat educate them, tel thm abt de consequences of bad knowledge, tel thm wat is right n wat is wrong n make thm understand value of lyf of himself n others...tc cheers

hi garima, first i would suggest that you don't accuse your kids friends for influencing him into this. There is enough on TV to get kids curious these days and you cannot blame them for that, the age is such when the hormones start kicking in and these innocent little fellows start exploring their mysteries for themselves. So don't worry about it. Sooner or later they will get to know about it . and Raman patel you should keep your age old ideas to yourself. I prefer not to comment on your statements. In India it always been taboo for parents to discuss about sex with their children and that's why the explore the internet to find their answers. I strongly suggest you to talk it out as a friend with your child and if needed probably explain it to him, or an even better option would be to have your husband talk to him as being a mother you may feel hesitant discussing it with your son. and first you should accept that your child has done nothing wrong by reading porn magazines.

garima there two things from where childerens get knowledge or came to know about porn matters or sex matters.one they have a bad freind circle secound some how they see parents doing sex or seeing porn movies or reading porn magazines or talking sex matters.so you have to stop those sources before they involve in such activities.still it is not too late.let your freinds or close relatives explain what to do and what not to do.but you have to do sex activities in such a way that childerens do not come to know that you are doing such things.yes at this age you are bound to enjoy your sex life but careful of childerens.

Do not slap. Counsel him and make him understand.There is nothing new in this. Only you came to know now. He might be reading since long. It is due to the friends out side your home. The more strict you become, the more curious they will be. They will become defiant. Today every hose has got internet connection. All the children have their Facebook account. Things have changed from what we were during our childhood and what is now. We have to accept the fact and go with the wind.