My parents are forcing me to marry an NRI and then move to Canada but I am not too sure whether it would be a wise decision to make. I mean they haven't checked on things like his family background, his assets, his job, financial security etc, so how can I say yes for this marriage? Pls help me friends, how should I make my parents understand it's not safe for me to settle down with an NRI unless i know and trust him fully. Pls advice.

It is up to you - as long as you are comfortable, it is good, if not you will be in trouble.

Do not marry for the sake of going to Canada! - north worth it - these days many people prefer India! (and many prefer the West). Grass is greener always on the other side!!

You must be satisfied, happy, comfortable!

If you are in love with some one else in India, and want to keep him even after marriage, then whether in India or in Canada, things won't work out. Decide one way or other before marriage, and don't try to ride on two boats at the same time!

Be up front now, before getting married.

Marry the one you love or love the one you marry.

Your parents want to best for you, they won't force you into anything you are not comfortable with.

take your self decision

HI M HOW ARE YOU NICE TO MEET YOU GOOD LOOKING FOR YOU

you should not allow your parents to marry.

I know NRIs marrying from India, but they take time to find out about each other, and then get married. Ask your family to find out all they can about the boy, and if you both like each other, then go ahead. Parents will not force you to marry, if you do not want to. If you have a boyfriend in India, and do not want to move to Canada, it also is equally bad. Either marry him or give him up. Can't have a B/F and after marrying - very dangerous to keep both- no husband will put up with his wife going for a B/F, same as no wife would want a husband to keep a girl friend! If you want to marry, settle with the one, and not try to keep B/F and a husband. These kinds of double life can happen to NRIs and those in India! Both are equally wrong and dangerous!

Pl take the wise decision.enq back ground of that guies.

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life is very sexy plz enjoy

life is your and decision is your. search your better half in your country. wishing you all the best

hi miss kapoor u said is right ,bcause 1st of all u be ready 4 marry and explain ur parents to find his condition , many boys r married ,devorced,or hungage in different cases,when all clear then step a head b carefull it is the carrier of BHARATIYA NAARY (i respect this name)

hello all the ladies wondering if they should take the leap in marrying a NRI. Well let me start with saying I am a NRI and also had a arranged marriage 13 years ago. My in-laws checked with their friends and family if I was okay and also they even google my family bussiness here in the usa to make sure if a place of bussiness does exist. The most important Thing I would like to share is there is always going to be a few bad apples and bad stories about boys or girls getting in marriages here with NRI and then finding out things they don't like about the boy or girls. like everyone else I also have heard stories about marriages not working out because of the boys or his parents or the girl had a boyfriend in india and soforth. It is your parents responsibility to check thru whatever means necessary about the boy or girl family and also thru websites that will do a background check on them too. But the same also goes true for arranged marriages in India and indian boys and girls. YOu guys see the stories on times news about gang rapes by in-laws or dowry or the husband raping his own wife and so forth, so in general it could happen everywhere not just in USA or cananda. My adivse to you would be if you can find a good partner in USA or canada and want to get arranged married then do it . I feel in India though we indians have made great strides in women safety and a lot of women are working now days it is still not a safe place for women to be truly free. Please don't argue that point. Again if you are happy to meet someone in india and getting married there that is fine too but the problems that everyone is talking about could happen there as well. In fact now things are moving in that direction in india anway. It is what you want and how you want to live your life and what your ambitions are and make you decision based on that. If you find someone in USA and Canada it is going to be tough and you both will go thru a hard time but that is life. If you have any question and I can help any one please email me and I will help dimple7@verizon.net.

Marriage means compromises, compatibility,adjustments, honesty etc. It is important to have a through back ground check . It is unfair to highlight fraudulent behaviour of NRI's whereas , most Indians practice dishonesty in their daily lives !

My son an NRI has been a victim of deception in an arranged marriage and we thought we knew the family the girl had serous mental health issues . The marriage broke down within months and as usual we Parents were in the dock for alleged "mistreatment" leading to her condition ( she only spent 4weeks with us). so, guys it takes two to tango and though I agree women suffer more I have come across several NRI boys who have been victims of greed and fraud too. Some parents deliberately target NRI's to full fill their aspirations of a coveted lifestyle. Unfortunately, gender biased laws have not helped.

Deception in a arranged marriage should be severly dealt with.Indian justice system is corrupt and slow.



Mrs sharma

Samira, the main issue is compatibility. Being brought up in India is very different to being in Canada. The culture is different. I know a NRI girl from NY married a guy from India (because her parents wanted marry her to some one from India), but he was shocked to find her so different to him in NY, and could not understand her culture (even though NRIs in US or Canada, the culture of the younger ones is so different). The couple are together, but very unhappy! I also know of several other cases, the NRI girls would not marry some one from India, as they do not understand them. Besides, the way people search family background etc. in India is different and can be safer than marrying some one just because they live in the West!

I don't understand whats the problem with Indian parents these days. why are they so mad to get their daughters married and especially when it comes to an NRI groom, they need to be extra careful. they cant be casual about such a big decision of their daughter's life. after all, it's about her happiness for lifetime. also, i feel most Indian parents just get fascinated by these NRIs thinking that they wud be financially very strong, so their daughter wud be happy. but i'm sorry thats not the reality. so pls guys wake up and be wise

There are reported cases of fruad by these "abcd" all over world.. We are also fighting a case for our very close friend.Nothing happened and the girl is back in India with dreams shattered. Soooo take care.

Hi Samira,

It is a very crucial phase of your life. I think you must give a serious thought to it.,One of my very close friend suffered a lot due to this . I liked the definition of abcd abcd - american born confused desi. if you are very conservative which ofcourse we as Indians are in terems of relationships, you wont be able to carry on . Have a serious discussion with the guy independently.

Dear Samira,



Does your parents know this person and then they are asking u to marry, why do u assume your parents have not checked, ask them directly, after all it is your life, or u r not comfortable going out of country, want to be close to your parents and friends here. Looks like you have some inhibition about NRI's, you can check these details by yourself, why are you worrying on this too much, or is it that you have liked someone or this NRI is a distant relative of you and you dont like to marry him. I am pretty sure about your family knowing this guy through some resource.

There are agencies in US and Canada who can provide you with complete details on anyone living there for a small fee. His assets, debts, social circle, internet blog posts and browsing history to some extent. No friend or relative can come up with such intimate details. Google search his name and you will be surprised at the amount of info you find. Best part is - everything done on line. No one gets to know anything.

You have three options 1) If you have someone you & your family trust in Canada, he/she can check on these people. 2) A bit expensive, but worth the trouble, if you can afford it. Visit them (Canada) & see for yourself.

3) Leave it to God - On a second thought, drop this option, I would'nt trust even God on these matters

you say it's not safe for you to get marries a NRI unless you know him did you have same thinking about someone from onshore ,but try to convince your parents please check everything about this guy ,living in overseas i see many people lied about their self ,i know many couple not happy to to each other ,try to find it's true what they told to your parents if everything all right than you should marry with that guy because all parents think best for their children

no you are right, I am living here..big problem of boys and girls. they are abcd - american born confused desi. no culture full f..k

There are agencies who do conduct Descartes pre-marital inquiries. You can try to check out in social networking sites about him which gives some fair ideas about the person. If you check believe in horoscope, try to get his horoscope and find out. But, very difficult to make out whether it is a genuine horoscope or not. You can also check your horoscope and find out whether you have any yog of marrying an NRI. How much qualified you are? Can you get a job in Canada? if yes, then you may take a risk in marrying him. If by unlucky, some thing goes wrong, you can work there and be independent. Or, if you are not very much sure and apprehensive, say no to your parents. Yo have every right to decide about your life.